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ok, yesterday wasn't that great. i didn't eat too much but mostly everything i ate was junk :mad: but not today. oh, i also didn't get to go to the gym. today's going really well. worked out for 1hr and 15 minutes. today i'm going shopping for a wedding gown!! i'm so excited. i can't wait to get home from classes. woo hoo. talk about motivation!
 
So what type of wedding gowns are you looking at?.....Off the shoulders.....spaghetti straps....or what?...There is so much to choose from!
 
I can not believe you only weigh 104 pounds and want to lose 6 pounds... this is a forum for people with REAL weight loss problems... It's kinda like a kick in the face to others... I'm not trying to be rude, just realistic...
 
um, christina, i'm not trying to be rude either, but how do you know what "REAL weight loss problems" are for someone you don't know and have never seen? it's not like she wants to lose a ton of weight, 6 pounds is a very modest goal, and she's going about it in a healthy way. so what is your problem with that? we are supposed to be supporting and encouraging each other here, regardless of what our starting points and goals are. amnd is not trying to offend anyone or "kick you in the face" with her posts, she's just working towards her goals like the rest of us. i don't see what's so offensive about that.
 
It's just a little bothersome, and I am sure there are alot of people that would agree with me, but might not have the gut to say it...
I am not saying that Amndpu is a bad person at all. I agree, I dont know her standpoint.. all I am saying is that IT IS a kick in the face...
Some of us would give the world to be 150 pounds... 130 pounds... and for someone to want to be UNDER 100 pounds! C'mon!
It's cool if you're trying to MAINTAIN a certain weight... but I think it's a little overboard... I am soooooooo NOT trying to be mean... REALLY!
I am just a little outspoken... This is not an arguement. and there are no winners... I was just saying... Here we are trying to lose weight to be HEALTHY and stuff.... do you honestly believe wanting to be UNDER 100 pounds is healty? Yeah maybe it is a "weight loss promblem" of a different kind..... thats all...
I can see where you're comming from at 111 pounds.....
 
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Please take from this what is helpful and disregard the rest.

There are lots of women (different ethnics too)who are under 100 pounds and this doesn't mean that they don't have body shape goals to reach. We might not know what someone's personal goals are.

For example, my husband's mother's side of the family are Asian and it's not uncommon for them to be 5 feet tall and be under 100 pounds. Some of them are satisfied with their shapes and eat tons of food and never excercise.

Then, there is my sister inlaw who wears a size one, weighs 104 and owns 5 pieces of workout equipment and uses them daily. She also watches what she eats. I used to say "Oh you look fine and you don't have a weight problem" but now I know she wants low fat percentage so she can have "abs of steel" and muscular arms. For someone to have six pack abs they have to get rid of the belly fat and that might mean losing a few pounds.

My opinion is: Losing fat and gaining muscle is good and having healthy goals is great. The means of reaching those goals is most important. The only thing that I saw that made me think HMMMMM was the binge/purge...this is not safe or healthy.
 
hi all,
kccruz-when i started looking for dresses i wasn't really sure what i wanted, i just knew i didn't want it to be strapless, and i wanted a long train. here's a link of my dress. it's beautiful.

heidipye- thank you for the compliment heidi. thank yoiu for your input. i appreciate that a ton. i agree that it's a modest amount of weight.

christina, i'm sorry if you're offended that i want to lose 6 small lbs. i'm not here to "kick" anyone in the face. i've always been slightly under 100 lbs comfortably and healthfully. so when i gained the weight, i was naturally uncomfortable with the way i looked and felt, and just want to lose what i gained. i don't see any harm in that. i'm here for the support and friendship and to meet new people. i'm sorry if that's a problem for you, you don't have to come to my diary. as far as the b/p, i've gotten a hold on that and i'm healthy. that's no concern. it's awfully rude to make comments about a person's weight whether they are over weight or not!!

chocolatemama-you're right, there are alot of people who are healthy and have a low weight. i eat what's healthy and i work out. i'm building muscles and losing body fat. thank you for your input.

hope everyone's having a good day.
 
No I dont have to come into your diary but this is a public forum and I stumbled upon it.. everyone is free to ther opinon and I was simply just stating mine... I told you I was not here to argue.. just a thought..
having gone though b/p , weather or not you have control over it now, is not healty by any means and should be dealt with by professional help...
 
When someone sees cause for concern in here they will speak their mind thats actually what we are all here for. I know Christina wasnt trying to be hurtful she was just concerned as alot of others may be when you hear of someone 100 pounds wanting to lose weight and talking about binging and purging. Everyone here just wishes you the best. We are all here to look after eachother. Anyway your dress is Georgeous by the way. Hope you have a good night. Please done take anything anyone says here as hurtful Noones here to gang up on you. Just to make sure you are doing everything in a healthy way!!
 
christina - i believe you that you're not trying to be mean, and i trust that you don't want an argument, but your first post WAS very confrontational, and it needed responding to. i think when it comes to sensitive issues like weight we are better off having civil, constructive debates. it seemed like you were basically telling amnd that she shouldn't be here, b/c YOU have a problem with how much she weighs! i also think you are being oversensitive by saying you feel kicked in the face, b/c that is NOT what amnd means to do at ALL! if you don't like this thread, you don't have to read it. i know you are free to state your opinion and all that, but we are also free to disagree with it, and say so.
another thing is you don't know how tall we are. as for me, i'm only 5'2.5", and i come from a family of small-boned people. i know i'm not terribly overweight, but i don't like the way i look at 111 pounds. i feel like i'm healthier both mentally and physically when i'm under 105. even being under 100 at my height is not dangerous. many athletes have low body weights and they are very healthy. i was an athlete for 12 years. i've seen people on this board (not naming names) who are taller than me, and weigh more, but have a similar bmi, and no one criticizes them, b/c apparently 120 or 130 pounds sounds "healthier" than 100 pounds.
look, i'm not trying to be mean or rude either, and i do understand where you're coming from, i just think you're wrong to criticize us for being here. and implying that we have "weight loss problems of a different kind," with no evidence besides our weights, is really rude and inappropriate. we would never criticize the biggest people on this board, so who are you to criticize the smallest? amnd says she is over the purging, and i believe her. i don't think she needs help for it at this point. a lot of us here have probably broken bad habits in our lives, and come out stronger and better for it. i think it's wonderful that amnd can be so honest about it. furthermore, i think you all should be encouraging of her now that she's on such a health-oriented board, and not confronting her about her weight. i could understand your concern if she wanted to weigh 80 pounds, but just under 100 is totally within the healthy range. and yeah she DOES want to maintain a certain weight, it just happens to be a weight that is 6 pounds less than she is now!
chocolatemama - you are absolutely right.
julie - i know people here are just concerned and want the best for everyone. i love this board and i know that people care about each other here and i think that's great. i imagine amnd feels the same way.
am i out of line here, amnd? i will shut up now anyways, since this isn't even my thread. have a great day amnd and everyone else!:D
 
heidi~ You think your post is not confrontational? This was not even meant for you... I was talking to Amndpu.... She seemed alot nicer than you anyway...
 
good evening everyone,

christina, i understand your concern and that you're not trying to start an arguement. but it's unneccesary to worry. i know that i'm healthy, i know that losing a few lbs isn't going to hurt me. either way, thanks for you concern.

julie, thanks for your input. i'm glad that this is a loving and supporting group and it's good that everyone watches out for everyone. however, sometimes it can just be rude with the way it's stated. i'm doing everything in a healthy way.

heidi- you are not out of line at all! i appreciate your kind words and understand where i'm coming from. you've said everything perfectly. much better than i could say it. i really don't think that it's fair to you that your weight was brought up :mad: not at all. maybe i'll just start sensoring what i say in my diary.

again, thanks to those who have concern although, there's no need.
 
hey amndpu, hope you had a good day today! good luck in the new challenge, even tho my team's gonna win ;) . btw love the dress, it's absolutely gorgeous! can't wait to see a pic of you wearing it!
oh, and don't censor yourself unless you feel uncomfortable saying something. this is your journal, so say whatever you want! have a good night, and talk to you soon :D !

christina - i was just trying to stand up for my friend. you brought up my weight, so that's why i mentioned it. if you want to talk about this more, please either pm me or post in my thread, b/c i don't think it's fair to amnd to be doing this in her diary.
 
Your dress is very elegant and classy!!!!....Do people still wear the veils over there faces ? Hair up or down?

In my friend Tinas defense...( which she doesnt need b/c she can hold her own)
I myself asked you ( in our challange groups thread) what type of body did you have that made 104 lbs look bad on....I also mentioned something about the bulima. You chose not to answear those questions and that was fine.
Losing weight is hard for everbody. No matter how much you have to lose.
I weigh 300.5 lbs. When I hear that someone who weighs in at 150 wants to lose 25 to 30 lbs I think WHY?????.....and its only because at my weight ...150 is like a dream size to me. My first reaction is not to take in account of how tall they are...or their bone structure....I know that is wrong......but I am being truthful that itsmy first gut response. I now try to
ask people their height to get an idea on where they stand.
And not weighing much..( by our standards)......and then admitting you have /had a serious eating disorder makes some people start questioning .Because that is something to be concerned about.....
We are hear to help each other....if we sugar coat everything.....its not going to help any of us......Okay.....so ...how are you doing on water?...Do you take suppliments? ...You live with your mom right?
 
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Thanks Kimmy~ Your my girl ~ And glad that you and Julie see my side of things.... Too bad my post was taken the wrong way... even though I said again and again I wasnt trying to be mean... I'm still not... I'm not mad... I dont hate anyone... Cant we all just get along? ;)
 
hey, i'm not posting much right now. i'm too tired. i had a good day today. need to get alot of homework done this weekend though. it sucks.
 
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