My opinion:
Females:
pits / legs / random hair you wont admit to: gone. even stubble freaks me out.
arms: unless you're very very hairy, i think its really weird for a woman to shave her arms.
"down there": trim and maintained. completely shaven i don't like. just too.. prepubecent for me.
Males:
neck up: maintained like you care, but not like you're obessed. if you have a unibrow fix it, but if you're plucking hairs obsessively in the mirror that's too much.
back: yeah, no thank you.
chest: just fine, trim if you're a wolverine.
legs: leave it alone unless you're huge muscle-wise. then shaving doesn't weird me out.
"down there": trim and maintain.