Workout Motivation

So I started a fitness program of cardio and weight training in the effort to get into shape. I'm very much out of shape and have been for most of my life (I'm 25 now). I can't really remember a time when I actually WAS in good shape. Sometimes while I'm working out I become frustrated at myself because I'm already winded and dripping with sweat after 10 minutes on an elliptical or because I'm struggling with light weights because I'm so weak.

Now logically I understand the reality that I AM out of shape and I'm just starting out, so I shouldn't be able to perform like those who have been doing it for much longer. But I still find those feelings of frustration overcoming me. Anyone have any tips on overcoming this? I don't want this to become something that makes me quit.
 
Why be frustrated? That should be motivating enough. You could set some small goals with weights like every week I want to increase by 5lbs and just keep going and going. Being winded and dripping with sweat after 10 minutes of cardio is no big deal, I am dripping with sweat like ASAP, I get winded but I just keep that pace up and I've been doing cardio for a while. I had my resting heart rate taken today and it was 51 so dont get so aggravated get motivated!!!

You could also start a journal on this site that will give you motivation too.
 
Don't get discouraged, everyone has a different starting point. It just gives you even more room for improvment. It's great that you've decided to get in shape. Don't pay attention to how much weight other people can lift. It's about you. You should improve at your rate, don't force yourself to be at the same level as someone else if you're not ready. There will always be someone who is stronger, bigger, or faster than you, don't let it discourage you.
 
Thanks for the replies. I think part of it has to do with my social anxiety. It's something that I've been dealing with for the past six or seven years of my life, which has been a major factor in why I'm so out of shape. I'm finally beginning to overcome it, but I know it's something that still affects me in the gym.
 
So I started a fitness program of cardio and weight training in the effort to get into shape. I'm very much out of shape and have been for most of my life (I'm 25 now). I can't really remember a time when I actually WAS in good shape. Sometimes while I'm working out I become frustrated at myself because I'm already winded and dripping with sweat after 10 minutes on an elliptical or because I'm struggling with light weights because I'm so weak.

Hey, don't be frustrated my friend......embrace this bodily reaction...BABY!

It is normal bodily reaction as you are applying a stress the body isnt used to.

And, right in front of my young friends' eyes, the body is already adjusting to the stresses!

The body WILL adapt and overcome; the MOST important thing you can do is:

Have your MIND adapt and overcome with it!


And, the walls will come tumbling down--------BABY!


Now logically I understand the reality that I AM out of shape and I'm just starting out, so I shouldn't be able to perform like those who have been doing it for much longer. But I still find those feelings of frustration overcoming me. Anyone have any tips on overcoming this? I don't want this to become something that makes me quit.


"This is how we do it, baby!"


PrISm: You are in control, you are not the controlled. --Chillen


"You are the boss, the giver and the receiver" --Chillen

While your body was in its equilibrium state, you made up your mind that you wanted to make bodily changes. When this occurred, your mental state became separate from the body; the body had no idea what your mind was planning until you executed your mental thoughts.

When you executed your mental thoughts, your body then learned what your mind already knew. Now their adjoined, but their is a difference: You didnt have any positive or negative consequences in mentally deciding to change your body composition, but once you executed your thoughts and trained, you broke the body's equalibrium state and thus gave the body "no choice" but to react.

The body just "hates" to change and is giving you signals to the same, while at the the same time---adjusting, adapting, and overcoming, the stresses you just applied and will recover and improve itself.

"EMBRACE THIS FEELING AS A POSITIVE FEEDBACK"

Ever wonder "why" its easier to gain weight for most people than to lose it? The body loves to store fat (Hey! I have eats later, man! Cool! And, gives happy vibes!); however, when the body has to resort to using its own tissue for fuel (litterally eating itself) it is not a happy camper.

The body prefers you to open your mouth rather than you closing it and have to eat itself for food, and will angerily tell you it doesnt like it.

Same in this case. The body is simply used to a past pattern. And, without an "outward" warning you abruptly changed this known pattern, and its telling you---"at first"---it doesnt like it---while at the same time--setting biological functions to rise to the occasion of the stress applied.

You have to recognize this bodily feed back as a positive one: The body is a funny mechanism. It is in one way telling you: WTF?! I dont want any part of this Sh@T! While at the same time making itself stronger from the very first workout stress you applied: The body can lie and tell you the truth.

Understanding this problematic, but essential and normal response is important. Some persons are really motivated until this essential factor begins to wear them down little by little. What one doesn’t realize is the reason for this response: The change has already begun—and the fruit from this effort is in fact a positive one to embrace.

You getting the feedback response because you had already begun a force of change: EMBRACE IT.

The body will adapt and this "current" feeling will subside and both you and your body will benefit--greatly!


The body is going to fight you negatively at the beginining both physically and mentally. At the same time, it will adapt and overcome in a very strong postive manner: Sort of a crazy combo, but this is true:

DESIPHER YOUR PERSONAL BUSINESS!!!!!!!!!!!!​


I invite you to read the Weight loss intricate as it deals with some if these issues and may give you a different perspective, my friend. Here is the the link:

http://training.fitness.com/weight-loss/weight-loss-intricate-27164.html



“As a single footstep will not make a path on the earth, so a single thought will not make a pathway in the mind. To make a deep physical path, we walk again and again. To make a deep mental path, we must think over and over the kind of thoughts we wish to dominate our lives.”

(Henry David Thoreau)


ROCK ON, MY BROTHA!


Your friend,



Chillen
 
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PrISM you come back here and post........dont you "dare" quit.......I will personally haunt you in your sleep.............:)
 
Write down your goals, everything you want to accomplish, not just fitness. Make sure to read them each day, as often as you can. Even about your anxiety, write something like, "I love people" or "People love me" or "I am not scared of interaction." When you write things down and read them, it is very powerful.

I do this and wrote that "Public speaking is very beneficial", "Im not scared of speaking", "Speaking in public is important to my career." Slowly but surely I feel more confident in my speaking classes.
 
So I started a fitness program of cardio and weight training in the effort to get into shape. I'm very much out of shape and have been for most of my life (I'm 25 now). I can't really remember a time when I actually WAS in good shape. Sometimes while I'm working out I become frustrated at myself because I'm already winded and dripping with sweat after 10 minutes on an elliptical or because I'm struggling with light weights because I'm so weak.

Now logically I understand the reality that I AM out of shape and I'm just starting out, so I shouldn't be able to perform like those who have been doing it for much longer. But I still find those feelings of frustration overcoming me. Anyone have any tips on overcoming this? I don't want this to become something that makes me quit.

What is it that you find so ' frustrating ' exactly ?

Also - just your best guess now.:)

What do ' you think ' is the primary reason that you're " winded and dripping with sweat after 10 minutes on an elliptical " ?
 
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So I started a fitness program of cardio and weight training in the effort to get into shape. I'm very much out of shape and have been for most of my life (I'm 25 now). I can't really remember a time when I actually WAS in good shape. Sometimes while I'm working out I become frustrated at myself because I'm already winded and dripping with sweat after 10 minutes on an elliptical or because I'm struggling with light weights because I'm so weak.

Now logically I understand the reality that I AM out of shape and I'm just starting out, so I shouldn't be able to perform like those who have been doing it for much longer. But I still find those feelings of frustration overcoming me. Anyone have any tips on overcoming this? I don't want this to become something that makes me quit.

The answer to your question, Wrangell, is highlighted and underlined.

(Edit: Wrangell modified his post after I posted this comment)
 
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Understand yourself, find what motivates you. Aspire and deliver to yourself.

Remember this starting out feeling, and remember it well. Brand it in your mind like a branding iron. Instead of using it as a tool to cause frustration use it as a tool push yourself to become stronger. As you do and as you personally and physcically grow and prosper, the excitement feeling will be 100 times more powerful than the feeling of frustration you have right now, my friend.


There is no pleasure in life equal to that of the conquest of a vicious habit.
Anonymous

Real glory springs from the silent conquest of ourselves.
Anonymous


Think, see and hear correctly, BABY!

1. Stimulate your eyes in new ways.

2. Stimulate your ears differently.

3. Face your fears!

Chillen




Best wishes



Chillen
 
Thanks for the replies. I think part of it has to do with my social anxiety. It's something that I've been dealing with for the past six or seven years of my life, which has been a major factor in why I'm so out of shape. I'm finally beginning to overcome it, but I know it's something that still affects me in the gym.

What have you been " anxious " about for so long - can you elaborate ?
 
First to answer the social anxiety question. I have social anxiety in which I fear any kind of situation that involves people, especially one that I'm not familiar with. Now most people feel some inherent anxiety, mine is more extreme. This has caused me to become more introverted as time goes on. It's a irrational fear of being constantly watched and judged by others. I've been seeing a therapist for it and taking medication so it is slowly getting better now.

I went to the gym again this afternoon. I've been going three times a week and this was my fourth time. Once again I had the feelings of frustration and inadequecy during my workout. I've always been fat and weak, so I don't KNOW what it's like to be fit. I'm guessing I just can't imagine myself being fit and assume this is the way I'll always because it's the way I've always been.
 
First to answer the social anxiety question. I have social anxiety in which I fear any kind of situation that involves people, especially one that I'm not familiar with. Now most people feel some inherent anxiety, mine is more extreme. This has caused me to become more introverted as time goes on. It's a irrational fear of being constantly watched and judged by others. I've been seeing a therapist for it and taking medication so it is slowly getting better now.

I went to the gym again this afternoon. I've been going three times a week and this was my fourth time. Once again I had the feelings of frustration and inadequecy during my workout. I've always been fat and weak, so I don't KNOW what it's like to be fit. I'm guessing I just can't imagine myself being fit and assume this is the way I'll always because it's the way I've always been.


I am glad to see you are seeing a therapist and taking medication for your problem.

Now, you will be tripled whammied: :)

1. A Therapist, 2. Medication, and 3. A daily dose of Chillen-idis.


and you are all set for success BABY!

ROCK ON!



Best wishes



Chillen
 
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Im sure he does. Im not big on therapists, they bring you in for 15 minutes and send you on your way with a prescription. Im much more of a believer in psychologists.

Try it for 30 days, write out things that you want to achieve and read them daily. Things like I mentioned for speaking. See what happens.
 
. I'm very much out of shape and have been for most of my life (I'm 25 now). I can't really remember a time when I actually WAS in good shape. Sometimes while I'm working out I become frustrated at myself because I'm already winded and dripping with sweat after 10 minutes on an elliptical or because I'm struggling with light weights because I'm so weak.

Now logically I understand the reality that I AM out of shape and I'm just starting out, so I shouldn't be able to perform like those who have been doing it for much longer. But I still find those feelings of frustration overcoming me. Anyone have any tips on overcoming this? I don't want this to become something that makes me quit.

The degree of frustration you're feeling is likely a result of how you ' frame ' what you are doing.

If you are as ' out of shape ' ( as you claim ) then becoming ' winded and dripping with sweat after 10 minutes on an elliptical ' should not be a major source of frustration for you IMO. If anything, being winded and dripping with sweat is not at all unexpected from someone who is ' out of shape ' - if anything, it is more likely to be expected and an entirely normal experience. You get ' winded and dripping with sweat after 10 minutes on an elliptical ' and you seem to somehow draw a negative connotation from the experience as though being winded and dripping with sweat is frustrating you from reaching your goal. It isn't. It is simply part of what you have to experience as a normal part of slowly getting in shape. Getting winded and dripping with sweat may feel lousy and it may be hard, but trust me, it's as normal as normal can be.:)

Keep in mind, the key to success and staying motivated is to have realistic expectations and to be able to manage those expectations - and - to ask yourself within the context of those expectations if the frustration you are feeling is really ' appropriate / rationale frustration '. In my view, if you ' frame ' your expectations to be such that even though you are ' out of shape ' it is NOT reasonable to experience being winded or sweating after 10 minutes, I would say this is an unrealistic / irrational expectation, and by extension, the frustration at not being able to meet this unrealistic expectation is inappropriate and equally as irrational.

If, as an ' out of shape ' beginner, you experience ' winded and dripping with sweat after 10 minutes - then this is a realistic expectation. There is no need to feel frustrated when this occurs because this is what you should have been anticipating. Also, as an ' out of shape ' beginner, it is a realistic expectation that training is going to be hard - so when it feels hard ( i.e winded, sweating, boring, etc. etc. ), this should be no reason to feel frustrated either.

So, as far as tips go, one tip is .... I think you need to give yourself a break, put things in proper context/ expectations and mentally prepare to concede some realities.....i.e

- I'm out of shape
- being winded and sweating is normal and should be expected when out of shape
- it took me a long time to get this out of shape, it is going to take a long time to get back in great shape ( i.e it won't happen overnight )
- other people in the gym who are in great shape may have a huge head start on me ( months / years )...they were once where I am now.
- training and developing new habits is hard - not bad or unpleasant - just hard
- etc. etc.​
 
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First to answer the social anxiety question. I have social anxiety in which I fear any kind of situation that involves people, especially one that I'm not familiar with. Now most people feel some inherent anxiety, mine is more extreme. This has caused me to become more introverted as time goes on. It's a irrational fear of being constantly watched and judged by others. I've been seeing a therapist for it and taking medication so it is slowly getting better now.

I went to the gym again this afternoon. I've been going three times a week and this was my fourth time. Once again I had the feelings of frustration and inadequecy during my workout. I've always been fat and weak, so I don't KNOW what it's like to be fit. I'm guessing I just can't imagine myself being fit and assume this is the way I'll always because it's the way I've always been.

Yo prism i have the same feelings as you sometimes and this constant mind frame that i was in that people judged me and seen that i was skinny and lanky looking and had bad posture and my adams apple all stuck out made my ability to be my self and comunicate to other people properly hence i was not very atractive and my personality was **** towards other people because of the hesitation. but in a way society is like that these days...its rather fuked up!!! but the best freaking thing you can do about this man is hit that gym and eat properly and know that your puting every effort into changing this :cool: if your like me you want to go to the gym and you want to drain the fark outa everything and when you leave you feel so good about it :yelrotflmao:
 
First to answer the social anxiety question. I have social anxiety in which I fear any kind of situation that involves people, especially one that I'm not familiar with. Now most people feel some inherent anxiety, mine is more extreme. This has caused me to become more introverted as time goes on. It's a irrational fear of being constantly watched and judged by others. I've been seeing a therapist for it and taking medication so it is slowly getting better now.

I went to the gym again this afternoon. I've been going three times a week and this was my fourth time. Once again I had the feelings of frustration and inadequecy during my workout. I've always been fat and weak, so I don't KNOW what it's like to be fit. I'm guessing I just can't imagine myself being fit and assume this is the way I'll always because it's the way I've always been.

Part of your frustration may stem from the fact that you aren't getting meaningful feedback in the context of a concrete goal. Concrete goals are vital IMO.

In your case, you have to be more specific about what the goal of " being fit " means to you. For example, does it mean....


- losing ' x ' inches off your waist
- dropping ' x ' pounds of fat
- being able to to ' x ' crunches or push-ups, etc. etc.
- being able to walk/ jog for ' x ' distance or ' x ' amount of time​


...you get the idea. Lets' start with your goals.

What fitness goals would you like to achieve over the next year ( and be specific as you can - something you can ' measure ' is ideal ) ?
 
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