Will I ever stop binge eating?!

Miss Fit

Miss Fit

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Hello everyone! I'm completely new to this forum and I'm hoping it will help me. I seem to be successful when I have support and surround myself with others (even just online) who are fitness minded and have goals that are parallel to mine.

My main problem is binge eating. I usually do this at night when I'm bored. I'll eat and eat and I know that I should stop, but I don't. I know this might be considered an eating disorder, and I should seek out professional help, maybe? I just know that in 9 years I've gained 50 lbs because of it, and it's something that I have to stop. I've had three children, and I went waaaay overboard with the "eating for two" thing, also. So, here I am, a good 80 lbs overweight and ready for a change (I was already overweight 9 years ago!). I have no one to blame for this but myself, and I hope I can do it.

Stats currently = Female, almost 30, 5'3"-5'4", 215 lbs, May 24th, 2016 = day 1
 
Miss Fit said:
Hello everyone! I'm completely new to this forum and I'm hoping it will help me. I seem to be successful when I have support and surround myself with others (even just online) who are fitness minded and have goals that are parallel to mine.

My main problem is binge eating. I usually do this at night when I'm bored. I'll eat and eat and I know that I should stop, but I don't. I know this might be considered an eating disorder, and I should seek out professional help, maybe? I just know that in 9 years I've gained 50 lbs because of it, and it's something that I have to stop. I've had three children, and I went waaaay overboard with the "eating for two" thing, also. So, here I am, a good 80 lbs overweight and ready for a change (I was already overweight 9 years ago!). I have no one to blame for this but myself, and I hope I can do it.

Stats currently = Female, almost 30, 5'3"-5'4", 215 lbs, May 24th, 2016 = day 1
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Hi Misfit,
I hope you find what you need here. I am what they call Morbidly Obese category which offends me !
My first goal is 50 pounds. Currently 321 lbs. I have only been here a few days and have not got a warm and
fuzzy feeling here but I will give it time. Best of luck to you and feel free to message me anytime.

Sincerely ,
Ray
 
Welcome miss fit :)

The most popular and supportive section of the forum is the diary section, a good place to start is reading the assorted sticky posts scattered around each section.
 
Beachdude said:
Hi Misfit,
I hope you find what you need here. I am what they call Morbidly Obese category which offends me !
My first goal is 50 pounds. Currently 321 lbs. I have only been here a few days and have not got a warm and
fuzzy feeling here but I will give it time. Best of luck to you and feel free to message me anytime.

Sincerely ,
Ray
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Best of luck to you as well!! We can do this!
 
Miss Fit said:
Hello everyone! I'm completely new to this forum and I'm hoping it will help me. I seem to be successful when I have support and surround myself with others (even just online) who are fitness minded and have goals that are parallel to mine.
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Community is huge when it comes to habit reform! Something about jiving with a group of people who share a common mission... it's all good. Welcome aboard!

My main problem is binge eating. I usually do this at night when I'm bored. I'll eat and eat and I know that I should stop, but I don't. I know this might be considered an eating Disorder, and I should seek out professional help, maybe? I just know that in 9 years I've gained 50 lbs because of it, and it's something that I have to stop. I've had three children, and I went waaaay overboard with the "eating for two" thing, also. So, here I am, a good 80 lbs overweight and ready for a change (I was already overweight 9 years ago!). I have no one to blame for this but myself, and I hope I can do it.
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Good job identifying what you can work on and owning the journey that's before you. Don't beat yourself up... what's done is done. Devote your energy toward what you can do, now, to start working toward a better, healthier you.

With your evening binge eating... you say you eat because you're bored... right?

Do you feel that physical hunger has anything to do with it, ever? For example... could you be eating too little during the day, thus amassing loads of hunger that winds up derailing you in the later hours?

Of do you feel it's purely emotional/boredom?
 
Steve said:
With your evening binge eating... you say you eat because you're bored... right?
Do you feel that physical hunger has anything to do with it, ever? For example... could you be eating too little during the day, thus amassing loads of hunger that winds up derailing you in the later hours?
Of do you feel it's purely emotional/boredom?
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First off, thanks for your reply! Yes, with my binge eating it definitely starts out with physical hunger. Funny you should mention that, because today I actually thought about the impact that was having on me - too much calorie restriction early on in the day would probably lead to minimal restraint later in the evening, and with that I was able to eat normally without feeling guilty, log all my calories on My Fitness Pal, and right now I have chicken, veggies, and baked potato in the oven for dinner.

I'm going to try and give myself a 'cut off' time around 8pm. Once the kids are in bed, I'd really love to jump on the treadmill for 30-45 minutes. It's hard to find 'me' time with a two year old running around, but that can't be an excuse anymore. I've seen plenty of women find the time to workout and are fit as mommies, too!
 
Miss Fit said:
First off, thanks for your reply! Yes, with my binge eating it definitely starts out with physical hunger. Funny you should mention that, because today I actually thought about the impact that was having on me - too much calorie restriction early on in the day would probably lead to minimal restraint later in the evening, and with that I was able to eat normally without feeling guilty, log all my calories on My Fitness Pal, and right now I have chicken, veggies, and baked potato in the oven for dinner.

I'm going to try and give myself a 'cut off' time around 8pm. Once the kids are in bed, I'd really love to jump on the treadmill for 30-45 minutes. It's hard to find 'me' time with a two year old running around, but that can't be an excuse anymore. I've seen plenty of women find the time to workout and are fit as mommies, too!
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Great job! That you reached the same conclusion that I did once you actually started reflecting on it says a lot about your mindset and your potential.

A couple of additional thoughts:

1. Don't get so hung up on only eating clean food that you wind up feeling deprived and bingeing on junk eventually. You can fit some treats in regularly and focus on eating them mindfully opposed to shoving as much of it in as you can since "this will be the last time."

2. Something that resonates with so many of my clients it the habit of eating 3 or 4 meals per day without snacks. This way they can accomplish a few things; a) they can practice feeling real physical hunger and eating only after that sets in for a bit, b) they can eat reasonably large meals since they're not spreading their calories out over too frequent feedings - meals and snacks, c) the 3 OR 4 option allows them to tailor the number of meals based on hunger and what's happening (for example I usually eat 4 but if I'm going out to dinner and want to enjoy myself I'll usually combine my last two meals into one, etc.

3. Don't beat yourself up too much if you struggle to get exercise in regularly. Yes, it's great to get some movement in. No, it's not exactly necessary in order to lose fat. I think it's wise to focus on one habit at a time. Let it slow marinate and automate. Once it does, and it becomes part of you and your routine, you can add something else. This is pretty much the "secret" to sustainability and sanity in this journey of fitness.
 
Hey Miss Fit!

I have the same problem as you. I too tend to binge-eat at night. There is something about eating alone that really allows me to let go.
Its especially bad when I am stressed out! Is there anything that is stressing you out in particular (or is it the daily chaos of having 3 children)?

Love,
Hopefulandenergetic
 
hopefulandenergetic said:
Hey Miss Fit!

I have the same problem as you. I too tend to binge-eat at night. There is something about eating alone that really allows me to let go.
Its especially bad when I am stressed out! Is there anything that is stressing you out in particular (or is it the daily chaos of having 3 children)?

Love,
Hopefulandenergetic
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I think I also feel able to 'let go' when I'm by myself and just eat whatever I want without being judged (or without having to make it for someone else, or someone else wanting it, the joy of having kids ;)) I wasn't adequately preparing for the evening and I'd let myself get really hungry and just kind of threw away all sense and binged on whatever I wanted. Three children doesn't help with stress, but I'm also in nursing school - and that tends to take a lot out of me. I don't remember the last time I really got to sleep in. My husband has a job where he absolutely needs his sleep, so I have always woken up with the baby, for the past two years. Even on his days off, I let him sleep in as much as possible. I really should get to bed earlier, but it seems like the only time I get to study without any interruptions. I drink two cups of coffee in the mornings, usually - but there was a time I'd drink it all day (with cream and sugar!!!). Anyway now I'm just rambling. <3
 
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