Hi, I am a slim woman of normal weight and I like myself best at my current weight. I fall into normal weight range on the standard weight chart used in most doctor's offices. I am on the slim side of normal weight and I can eat a quite of bit due to a relatively fast metabolism but I still have to watch what I eat to an extent. However, that is not just for weight it is also for health. I like myself at my current weight and have no desire to gain any weight. It is not that I find my weight more attractive, it is that it is what I find most attractive on me. For one thing, I actually get a larger nose when I get much more than I am now and my nose is already full enough. Extra weight also goes right to my belly. The question I have however is this but first a comment. I know that when a slim woman is watching her weight, I know that some women (not all or most just some) will be a little put off by that b/c if a woman is larger and a slim woman is watching her weight sometimes the other woman may take it as an insult on being larger. However, it is not. As I said, I simply like my size on me better. There are some women who I think a larger size looks better on them. It is not a one size best fits all. However, I have actually run into a couple of male coworkers who overheard me mention that I had a low-fat tv dinner and the male coworker overheard that and said in an angry tone, "What are you worried about trying to watch your weight for?" Now watching saturated fat intake for me is not just about weight it is also about health since many doctor's believe an overload of high fat foods might bring on heart disease. I do like my size on me and have no desire to be larger. I was at a relatives house and my relative asked me if I wanted skim or whole milk with my lunch. I said that I would like the skim milk. A male friend of our family whipped his head around like he was angry and he also said with an attitude, "Why are you trying to watch your weight?" My question is this: I understand why some women may get mad at the thought that a slim woman does not desire to be any larger but could someone explain to me why men (and I am not talking about men who you are dating or married to) would be upset that a slim woman does not want to be any larger?
Why would male Co-workers getting mad at a slim woman for wanting to stay her size
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As a man who has worked with a lot of young people during my life, I have seen a lot of girls and young women who are of a healthy weight who think that they need to loose weight and make comments about needing to loose weight. I have unfortunately seen a few young ladies who went too far and developed eating disorders over the years. The few times I have made a comment like this was when I was concerned that someone I knew either wanted to lose weight when they were already healthy or already were at the point that you could see that they were not healthy. (and to be fair, I don't make any comments like this unless I have a genuine concern for someones health)
Comments like this to me are more of a concern for health. There is no problem with wanting to stay at a healthy weight, perhaps these co workers are interpreting how they see you and what you are saying as thinking that you might be at an unhealthy weight level or that even though you are in a good place, they think you still desire to lose more weight.
Some men actually have a type of woman they are attracted to who also has a bit more size to her. There are quite a few men out there who like a bit more curves on a woman.
Perhaps you might need to educate some of these men on what a healthy weight range is for someone of your build and height, as well as what a healthy diet entails. A lot of men are clueless about healthy diets. I must raise my hand and say that until I decided to lose weight at the beginning of this year, I really did not pay much attention to what a healthy diet actually is. I have a lot more still to learn. I am glad I am doing it now and am not waiting until my health went to far downhill.
Comments like this to me are more of a concern for health. There is no problem with wanting to stay at a healthy weight, perhaps these co workers are interpreting how they see you and what you are saying as thinking that you might be at an unhealthy weight level or that even though you are in a good place, they think you still desire to lose more weight.
Some men actually have a type of woman they are attracted to who also has a bit more size to her. There are quite a few men out there who like a bit more curves on a woman.
Perhaps you might need to educate some of these men on what a healthy weight range is for someone of your build and height, as well as what a healthy diet entails. A lot of men are clueless about healthy diets. I must raise my hand and say that until I decided to lose weight at the beginning of this year, I really did not pay much attention to what a healthy diet actually is. I have a lot more still to learn. I am glad I am doing it now and am not waiting until my health went to far downhill.
mrxian
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My brother used to tell a tale about cake and parties at his work. People would ask him if he wanted a(nother) piece of cake, and he'd reply that he only wanted a small piece or none at all, adding "I'm on a diet." Now, my brother has the type of body that most men (and women) crave. Muscular, lean and athletic, but all of it in just the right amount. He got this body by working his ass off for it. So when he mentioned he was on a diet, people would always ask why he was on a diet, he had such a great body. His reply would be that he has a great body because he is on a diet.
This applies to you too. Watching what you eat is the smart thing to do. If people give you a hard time for it, they are being idiots. Tell them to message me, I'll explain to them (while being extra condescending) why they are stupid for thinking you don't have to watch your weight, and why they are stupid twice for giving you a hard time about it, since all they are doing is try to force you into the yoyo effect.
Well, k233m I think you are great for watching what you eat. Keep it up, and share all your ideas!
This applies to you too. Watching what you eat is the smart thing to do. If people give you a hard time for it, they are being idiots. Tell them to message me, I'll explain to them (while being extra condescending) why they are stupid for thinking you don't have to watch your weight, and why they are stupid twice for giving you a hard time about it, since all they are doing is try to force you into the yoyo effect.
Well, k233m I think you are great for watching what you eat. Keep it up, and share all your ideas!