What’s wrong with me?!

[Stuffhappens]

Ok so - was a ever so slightly chubby child, skinny teenager and became very confident in my late teens early 20s had a lovely size 8 - 10 figure and I was very happy.

I was diagnosed with breast cancer at 22, had a double mastectomy and was put on hormone therapy which induced a false menapause - I put on three stone in about 6 weeks. My confidence hit the floor and has remained that way regarding my fluctuating weight ever since!

i lose two stone of that weight within 2 years f starting my treatment but I haven’t yet in 12 years got back to it, even though I’ve been close.

I’ve had many problems caused by the cancer, which I’m now over. I’ve been blessed with a miracle child. I’m desperate to get down to 9stone 7 again. I was 10’4 before lockdown now I’ve gone back up to 11st 2.

main go to diets are slimming world and weight watchers. Put weight in with joe wicks and 5:2!! I binge eat when I’m low in mood. the fatter I get the harder it is for me to be motivated!

I need inspiration - help anything for me to get back down to my happy weight of 9’7!!
How do I stop binging - what on Earth is wrong with me and why can’t I do it! So frustrating!!

 

[alligatorob]

Hey SH, welcome to the forum. You are in a good place, people here will share and understand your problems.

How do I stop binging

All I can tell you is what is working for me. I stopped bingeing a bit over a year ago and have managed to stay stopped just by committing to not bingeing one day at a time. All you have to do is not binge today, if you can do that all will be fine. Some days are harder than others, but I suspect you can commit to not bingeing today. I have learned a lot of tricks that have made it easier, posting here regularly is one. I have also learned to sort out real hunger from cravings. Real hunger I always feed with something. Usually a low calorie snack, if not at meal time. Cravings I resist in a number of ways, distraction really helps, get up and do something to take my mind off of it. Posting here when craving can help, people call it "writing not biting". You can do this!

what on Earth is wrong with me and why can’t I do it!

Not a thing wrong with you, you are just human and we all have our weaknesses, this one is yours. Mine too. You did have the strength and wisdom to post here about it. And I believe you can do this.

Now I suggest you start a Diary on the Weight Loss Diary page https://weight-loss.fitness.com/forums/weight-loss-diary.9/ . Tell us more about yourself and for a while post daily with your food progress and whatever you want to talk about. It will let the folks here best support and advise.

I am looking forward to following your progress and seeing you "do it"!

 

[Omega]

You've certainly been through a tough time - and it isnt really a surprise that you've sought comfort in food - its a very natural reaction.

Most of us here have done something very similar... Maybe for different reasons but with a very similar end result. We ate for comfort and gained weight...

You lost 2 stone in a project soon after your surgery - so know what to do... I have also been to both WW and SW - and both encourage eating healthily and adopting a healthy lifestyle. Dig out your old books for recipe ideas and general suggestions.

I think that if you expect yourself to do everything immediately you are expecting too much of yourself... If you are then unable for one reason or another to be perfect then you can feel discouraged... That is the way it is for me... I find it much easier to try to sort out one thing at a time and feel good about yourself if you do that... I always start with a daily walk when starting to lose weight... If I go out for my walk I feel good about myself... If I can tighten up my food by for instance trying to not have chocolate or crisps I feel good about that too... Little victories that you congratulate yourself for set you in the right direction and form something to build on.

I always find that challenges help me... It opens you up for chatting to someone working on similar things...

Starting a diary is also a good idea... Visit other people in their diaries and see what they are doing... Cheer them on. They might give you ideas to try yourself... With luck some may visit you back and cheer you on too...

Both these ideas helps you make friends and build a support network. That support network and the accountability of posting helps you stick to your project.

Good luck with losing that stone and a half or so and getting back to your happy weight.