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Avi2Kat

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This is probably going to be my rant zone, about how others try to sabatoge my diet.. tell me how I can't succeed and try to discourage me.

Rant of today:

This is really making me mad.. I told my Dad (I still live with my parents) that according to the gym instructure my ideal weight is 150 lbs for my body structure, and that that was what I was going to aim for. Then my loving father (sarcasm) tells me that I will never make it. That I cant acheive that and maintain it. He says he thinks I could only get down to 165 and maintain it with alot of work.

Do they enjoy trying to mess up all the work I have done? Like.. blimy hell... what the heck is wrong with him that he feels the need to try and sabatoge what I am trying to do!! :confused: :confused: :(

Grrr...

~ Avi
 
I know it is hard but try not to listen, you can do it! He obviously has his own issues to some extent but it putting them onto you. Try to think positive!:D
 
That is indeed unpleasant. I don't understand why he would say such a thing.:mad:

There are times when I feel that my goal is unrealistic but if I give it half a thought I realize that even if I miss my goal by 10 or 20 pounds, I will still be much healthier and happier. For folks like us, any weight loss is a victory for mind and body.
 
dads

Speaking as the daughter of a sometimes bumbling dad, I hope that your dad was trying to protect you and not to hurt you with his comment. Dads don't want to see their baby girls hurt or disappointed. And, dads often have a hard time seeing their daughters as women who can handle life and its ups and downs.

Maybe what he was trying to say was that 165 would be a big achievement and that if you didn't make it the little bit further to 150, that would not be a failure in his eyes. By saying this, maybe he was trying to protect you from beating yourself up if you did not reach your goal.

I don't know your dad or his character, but I really hope that he loves you a lot and he was just bumbling in offering you support, as dads so often do. If you that know your dad loves you, just remember that his biggest dream in life is to never see you hurt or disappointed. Even the best dad goofs up from time to time.
 
I like twinmom's interpretation... and it'd be nice if that were true...

your dad sounds like my loving mother...

You aren't losing weight for your father, you are losing weight for yourself.. to make yourself feel better.. Not sure if I can use my potty mouth here so i won't... Everything someone says something defeating - use the anger/annoyance/hurt/betrayal - whatever you are feeling to keep from sabatoging yourself... They said I couldn't? Well Screw it - I CAN DAMMIT!!! (dammit's not really a curse.. .:D

The only opinion that matters about whether you can do it or not -is yourself... Get yourself a copy of the Little Engine that Could... You think you can you think you can you think you can - and darlin' YOU CAN!!!
 
So he says you can't. YOU know you can and WE know you can! When he or anyone else says something discouraging you come straight her and we'll remind you of what you are capable of, and that is anything you set your mind to!! Our support is there to offset the rest of the negativity in your life. So rant away! :p
 
twinmom always has a great perspective - I really hope that's what your dad meant but was unable to articulate.

That being said, even if he's prone to saying stupid things (and yes, the way he said it was), you are making your own goals and working to achieve them for YOU!

You CAN do this :D
 
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