The Doghouse

Now Im sure some of you guys of done this, and it drives us crazy.

So yesterday, was my bf and I's 3 year anniversary. So we always do a dinner and whatever else we can come up with. So I decided to take of a little bit early from work and go and pickup his gifts. A freaking $70 flashlight that he wanted and a leather portfolio that was custom made for him. * he started a new repo business, so I gave him a cool gift and a thoughtful gift. I get all excited and think this will be a great night. Wrong!!!!!!

Well he calls me and and asks if I want to have dinner at his parents house. Im thinking okay, maybe he's got my gifts over there. So I tell him okay. Im all grinning and I go in there to eat and ask him if he "wants them now" He was like okay. Then it starts to hit me. Maybe he doesnt remember! I couldnt tell if he was joking. So Im going out the door and look at him and he has the deer caught in the headlight look. I ask again, do you not know what today is? And he says laughingly no. And then it hits. Im like today is our anniversary. And he stops laughing. I was sooooooo embarrassed about getting his gifts and giving them in front of his parents and putting him on the spot. You could have heard crickets.

I decided to act like it didnt phase me and bring them in. He opens them and and we end up leaving. When we are walking out, his mom was like "thanks for sharing that private moment" I could have died. Not only did I look like an ass, it made me look like I had intentionally embarrassed him in front of them.

Needless to say, I drank a bottle of wine by myself and he got no "conversation" at all. He is walking on eggshells.

And what makes this even more weird is he got onto me because a couple of months ago i accidently said we had been together 4 or 5 years. I wasnt thinking it was barely 3. He was like "thanks, it means so much to rememeber". And here he doesnt remember at all!!!!

You guys drive me crazy.
 
Well, you're only dating. What constitutes an 'anniversary' when dating? The first date? The first kiss? The day you proclaimed 'we're exclusive'?

It not like a real anniversary to a spouse...where you could be justifiably irate over him forgetting the day you got married.

Forgetting a 'dating anniversary' after 3 years...there's way worse things that happen. Especially if he's busy with his new repo business.
 
ditto malkore..

I have never celebrated a "dating" anniversary.. but I am getting married in July and if he forgets that one in 3 years... he will be in the doghouse.
 
I'm wondering when you place the anniversary date too. Does he usually remember it every year? How does one decide when the official date is going to be?
 
My girl would have been pissed off too but she always gives me a nice "gentle reminder" a couple weeks out of special occasions like that. If I forget, there is hell to pay.
 
Well, you're only dating. What constitutes an 'anniversary' when dating? The first date? The first kiss? The day you proclaimed 'we're exclusive'?

It not like a real anniversary to a spouse...where you could be justifiably irate over him forgetting the day you got married.

Forgetting a 'dating anniversary' after 3 years...there's way worse things that happen. Especially if he's busy with his new repo business.

While I agree with you partially, you have to remember there were 2 previous "year" anniversaries that they would have celebrated. Not to knock the guy, but not remembering after 1 year is acceptable but once you get to the 2nd year and on with an already established date then Brandi is right to be pissed. An ex of mine got upset at me because I didn't say "happy anniversary" at 13 months. We had a very intricate discussion about what an anniversary really is. It should be the day you become official, meaning you have that talk about being exclusive (if you aren't already) and telling others you are together.
 
Well... being someone who never shared an anniversary with anyone, I have only one thing to say: the first clue was the parents house.

However, I think you were very thoughtful, but I think you demanded/expected a bit too much. If you had two prior "anniversaries" then what made him forget this one? In the last two, did you "remind" him in anyway of it?

In anycase, I think the concept of date "anniversaries" is pretty silly. Perhaps that's why I'm single? Remember back in highschool when "one month" was something special? Don't be silly like that next time. If you guys have serious dates in mind, be sure to tell each other and don't get mad at the fact that he forgot a date. I mean if it was your birthday/wedding, then yeah I'd understand your complaint, however, we're talking about a date that is only special to you.
 
Well... being someone who never shared an anniversary with anyone, I have only one thing to say: the first clue was the parents house.

However, I think you were very thoughtful, but I think you demanded/expected a bit too much. If you had two prior "anniversaries" then what made him forget this one? In the last two, did you "remind" him in anyway of it?

In anycase, I think the concept of date "anniversaries" is pretty silly. Perhaps that's why I'm single? Remember back in highschool when "one month" was something special? Don't be silly like that next time.

I don't think yearly anniversaries are silly but it depends on the person/couple. Celebrating 7 years of dating would be kind of silly. You should be married at that point.
 
Well, you're only dating. What constitutes an 'anniversary' when dating? The first date? The first kiss? The day you proclaimed 'we're exclusive'?

It not like a real anniversary to a spouse...where you could be justifiably irate over him forgetting the day you got married.

Forgetting a 'dating anniversary' after 3 years...there's way worse things that happen. Especially if he's busy with his new repo business.

LOL, my Hubby and I ALWAYS forget our anniversary!....13 years and it's the same every year....

Hubby: "Wait....wasn't our anniversary last week???"

Me: "OMG, it was!..."

Hubby: "We should do something on my next day off...."

Me: "How about ordering some sushi and getting a movie?"

Hubby: "Ok, lets see what is coming out...."

LMAO!

Who cares....if you have a good relationship does it really matter????
 
Its our official anniversary. We celebrate it every year. Same time. And its usually a big deal, just got misplaced this year. Unfortunetly I became more embarrassed if anything. And we have even talked about it being our wedding date when we get married, so he knows what day it is. He's sentimental, just dont know what happened this year. I guess too much emphasis on my birthday which is 2 days after our anniversary. lol
 
Well, you realized he had forgotten. I think it would have been far better for you to wait to get his gifts after y'all had left his parents. And next year you might drop a few hints starting a month out...such as "hey, our anniversary is coming up soon, where do you think we should go to celebrate?"
 
... on my birthday which is 2 days after our anniversary. lol

This...is why my wife's birthday is the day before our wedding anniversary. Double up..there's no way I should forget either date!
 
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