The Defining Moment......

What was the defining moment that made you jump on this exercise wheel? What was it that finally got you to take the steps to start working out, eating better, and getting yourself to a better place?

I was thinking about this the other day and I can remember exactly what it was for me......

After I had just delivered my boys I was asking the nurse how long would it take to get rid of my "baby weight". This was, after all, the first time I had ever gained weight like this.....65 lbs...whew...that was the first time I was ever over 120lbs.

Well she said there was a nurse who had had twins and I could speak to her...I thought "cool, someone who can shed some light, maybe some encouragement"....was I ever wrong.

This woman starts telling me I'll never lose the weight and I should just accept that I will be this weight from now on!!! :confused: :eek:

I was horror stricken.

At first I wanted to cry,...... then I got mad. I thought what a horrid thing for any new mom to have to hear! Who the hell was this woman, and why would they let her speak to anyone????? :sad2:

That was when I decided I was going to shed those pounds, and get my body back. Hubby had been sent away to drill sergeant school, so I was at it alone.

I didn't know what the hell I was doing, but I decided I would do whatever it took. A neighbor lent me exercise videos, and I learned a few exercises I could do, then she taught me to run. That was the nicest thing anyone could have done at that time. She was patience and understanding. before long I was running miles, and between my floor exercises and the running the weight was coming off.

We lived on a street that made a 2 mile circle. about mid way there was a group of guys who would always be out playing basketball around the time I was passing by in the morning.

They were kind as my fat a$$ would huff and puff by pushing the kids & the rottie and they would say "good job! keep going!..".....and I would wave a "thanks".....

Eventually I lost the weight and was 118lbs again.

Well, I was out walking with the kids and the guys were out playing but this morning they actually came over to me and said, "We watched you when you first started running, and we just wanted to say you did a good job.. look great..." :cool3:

I almost cried....

It was even more cool when my hubby came home, and saw I had lost all the weight. I never told him I was going to do it so he was pleasantly shocked.

I'll never forget, that's what got me where I am now.

yeah, I did stuff in high school, and always was active, but that was what really got me stated and motivated to keep going.....


what was it for you?
 
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I believe the last time i weighed less than 120 was about 3 days after i was born.. Kidding ;)

To answer your question though...

I did not want to die.

Struggling with being the fat kid in school and living with the names that carried on into adult life was tough.

Being told my back and knee problems.. oh yeah, my heart and blood pressure problems - could ALL be solved by losing weight was tough too.

Being told that if I did not lose weight, my kids would only have memories of their mother almost did me in.

Finally realizing I was worth saving - not for my family, not for my parents, not for my children - but FOR MYSELF - is what motivated me to make the decision to go under the knife and then to devote the rest of my life to making the right nutritional and exercise choices for me.

Side effects have been:
* An increase in self esteem
* Being happy! (this is a big one)
* Knowing that NOTHING or NOONE has permission to get in my way of anything now.
* Feeling sexy ;) - HAHAHA (i still struggle with this.. LOL)
* Being able to go to a "normal" store for clothes instead of Omar's Tents
* Having more exercise clothes than drawer space!! :rolleyes:
* A new wardrobe and shoes - because yes, gentlemen.. feet change sizes too..LOL
* Feelings of success and accomplishment
* Being able to give good advice and freely sharing knowledge that can help another on his/her journey.
* Meeting others along this path who do the same for me.

Guess that's it.
 
Personally I think the hospital tells people negative things just to make people want to do it even more. Sort of like, "No you won't" type deal, and you'll be all like, "Oh yeah!?!?! Watch." If they told some dude who has a broken neck that he's going to walk again, he's just going to sit there and be like, "How come I'm not walking yet?!?!?!" But if they told him, "I'm sorry, but you'll never walk again and you'll forever use this wheelchair." That person would sign up for every possible rehabilitation program known to man, and personally come back. They'll act "shocked."

Anyway congratulations! I think the defining moment for me is when I started working after college, and had to walk about three blocks from a parking garage to my work place. I was dead tired by the time I got to work, and sweating like a water fountain. So one day while walking back to my car all tired halfway and wanting to sit down, I saw a gym and went in and didn't looked at anything and said, "Sign me up for whatever, I don't want to look at anything." So the dude said okay, I signed a contract, and my goal wasn't weight loss, but actually being able to walk around town without feeling dead tired and out of breath. So that's exactly what I aimed for and now I'm able to run about 6 miles before I need a breather. I don't really aim for weightloss, though at one point I was obsessed about weight when I started losing it a lot, but in the end, I moved past that, and now I don't even look at the scale anymore. Just worry about keeping up with running and moving about.
 
Personally I think the hospital tells people negative things just to make people want to do it even more. Sort of like, "No you won't" type deal, and you'll be all like, "Oh yeah!?!?! Watch." If they told some dude who has a broken neck that he's going to walk again, he's just going to sit there and be like, "How come I'm not walking yet?!?!?!" But if they told him, "I'm sorry, but you'll never walk again and you'll forever use this wheelchair." That person would sign up for every possible rehabilitation program known to man, and personally come back. They'll act "shocked."

Anyway congratulations! I think the defining moment for me is when I started working after college, and had to walk about three blocks from a parking garage to my work place. I was dead tired by the time I got to work, and sweating like a water fountain. So one day while walking back to my car all tired halfway and wanting to sit down, I saw a gym and went in and didn't looked at anything and said, "Sign me up for whatever, I don't want to look at anything." So the dude said okay, I signed a contract, and my goal wasn't weight loss, but actually being able to walk around town without feeling dead tired and out of breath. So that's exactly what I aimed for and now I'm able to run about 6 miles before I need a breather. I don't really aim for weightloss, though at one point I was obsessed about weight when I started losing it a lot, but in the end, I moved past that, and now I don't even look at the scale anymore. Just worry about keeping up with running and moving about.


Sorry to say, it wasn't like that. She used herself as an example being that she was overweight. She was *very* depressing, and not at all pleasant. It was awful, and she shouldn't have been talking to anyone. Not surprising though, it was a military hospital.........
 
I saw a picture of myself with my daughter sat on the sofa and I looked so skinny it could have been used for a charity appeal for the starving. I really looked anorexic, I must have been about 150-160lbs back then and it made me feel slightly sick looking at myself
 
Kicked a drug habit and wanted to be healthy again.

The blue M&M's are the hardest to kick.
And to think you have an addictive personality!! Through all these years of reading your drunk posts and 3am I never would have had you down as the type! ;)

Clothes stopped fitting mostly, and I didn't like what the mirror said :)

It's weird but I've alwasy been OK in mirrors, I always seem to look the same, it's the camera that gets me, I have to see a picture of myself to see if I'm fat or skinny
 
ik was a big marshmallow 240 with a near 50" waiste watching a marathon finish on T.V. and saw that look on their faces at the finish. I wanted to feel that. It took over 3 years, but I finally did it.

My first marathon took me 7 hours.

I came to this site as the rtesult of a skydiving accident. Layed up surfing the net.

good thread.

Sweat Daily
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This. Please ignore the epithet, this was made in a more vulgar context.

LMAO!!!


ok seriously.....


I think that there are many reasons and many stages in life that we come to this place and make the decision that we need to take action.

I hope more people will post... be it newbies or others making the journey. It's nice to see what got us to take the first step, and be reminded of where we started and where we are heading......
 
I’m always restarting.


Once was for the kids, was running then. Feel like I let them down.:bncry:

yeah I hear ya, but wasn't there an initial moment of clarity that made you begin?

Why do you feel you let them down? because you have restarted a couple of times? I think we all start and stop thru out life, but the fact that we continue to make the effort is what is important :D
 
Well I took up the gym because I had gotten a liscence and didn't want to put on weight lol

Plus at the time I was a secret bulimic, nobody knew. When I got my PT and started to exercise hard, I realised that if I continued to throw up, along with the exercise, I could kill myself. So I told my PT and she helped me overcome up. Along with that came a competitive nature I never had inside of me before. Before I was like "yeah, if someone beats me, I don't care" I was always bullied at school so I had low self esteem. But after getting the bulimia under control and my PT gave me goals to work towards to, it was like "Try and catch me now!"
 
I had two moments.

The first moment was when my dr asked me if I had been drinking the night before my liver function blood test or was I on an antibiotic. I said not and he said it is strange because your liver functions are extemely hi. I then had to see a specialist (already had him for my GERD stuff) and he did some other tests and told me I am like most americans, overweight and sufferening from what he called Non Alchoholics Fatty Liver Disorder. Basically I have a very fatty liver from the lifestyle I lived. Once he told me that, I knew I needed to change. Good news is that my liver is dmg'd too bad and should heal itself up over time...thank goodness for that.

The other was recently (few months aog) I was playing with my son outside and got all sweaty and winded rather quickly and couldn't keep up with him. I realized that even fit I would still sweat (my family sweats a lot :) ), but at least I wouldn't be winded and could keep up.

I have started to lift 2 to 3 times a week and try to get cardio in a few times a week as well...plus I started watching what I ate a lot better. I want to be able to keep up with my son with anything he does.
 
Mine was when I came back from a dirtbiking trip with my homies and I saw a picture of the three of us standing next to their dads pick-up with our bikes. I looked at myself and though "I can't be that husky..." But the picture showed different, and I decided to lose weight. I had wanted to for some time, but again when I saw myself in that picture, that's truly what motivated me.

I did the typical, stupid, desperate eating fewer meals than I should have gig, but I also cut out ALL junk food, fast food, and soda and really started eating what, I at the time, thought was "healthy". I dropped like 40+ pounds in 6-8 months and have been around the same weight (+/- 5 lb) ever since. I've been wanting to join a gym forever since I didn't have the funds for equipment, but was never sure about joining one. I started doing body weight and free weight stuff at home last December and joined a gym in March of this year. Haven't looked back since. And when I joined this forum I actually learned what a GOOD diet looks like. I'll admit, I'm still constantly improving but I keep telling myself that to get the results I desire, I've GOT to clean my diet up. So slowly, it's getting better and better

And I've definitely gotten encouragement from others, which helps me stay on track. And last night, I was approached by a random, cute girl in a coffee I shop I'm a regular at and she asked if I'd like to go play some pool and grab some brews with her. Sadly I declined (I'm a *****in idiot now that I think about it...) but I already had plans I could have broken, but didn't want to...
Maybe she would have asked me if I hadn't been working out, but I'll just assume it helped :D If I was the chubster I was 4 years ago at 18, probably not... lol
 
Mine was when I came back from a dirtbiking trip with my homies and I saw a picture of the three of us standing next to their dads pick-up with our bikes. I looked at myself and though "I can't be that husky..." But the picture showed different, and I decided to lose weight. I had wanted to for some time, but again when I saw myself in that picture, that's truly what motivated me.

I did the typical, stupid, desperate eating fewer meals than I should have gig, but I also cut out ALL junk food, fast food, and soda and really started eating what, I at the time, thought was "healthy". I dropped like 40+ pounds in 6-8 months and have been around the same weight (+/- 5 lb) ever since. I've been wanting to join a gym forever since I didn't have the funds for equipment, but was never sure about joining one. I started doing body weight and free weight stuff at home last December and joined a gym in March of this year. Haven't looked back since. And when I joined this forum I actually learned what a GOOD diet looks like. I'll admit, I'm still constantly improving but I keep telling myself that to get the results I desire, I've GOT to clean my diet up. So slowly, it's getting better and better

And I've definitely gotten encouragement from others, which helps me stay on track. And last night, I was approached by a random, cute girl in a coffee I shop I'm a regular at and she asked if I'd like to go play some pool and grab some brews with her. Sadly I declined (I'm a *****in idiot now that I think about it...) but I already had plans I could have broken, but didn't want to...
Maybe she would have asked me if I hadn't been working out, but I'll just assume it helped :D If I was the chubster I was 4 years ago at 18, probably not... lol


dope, you are supposed to reset the date for another time not just say no!:D
 
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