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Servo888

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Ok so here is the issue... I'm girl-less, and it's really starting to hurt my personal life. A little about myself... I'm 21, working and going to school, a very generous / nice person, and can make a conversation with anybody. My biggest issue is that I don't really enjoy going to clubs / bars. I'm big on bike rides, or a simple trip to starbucks (quite things > loud things).

Now my university is like flower garden; plenty of beauty to stimulate the senses (I'm a sucker for euphoria (by CK)). But I'm a computer science major... Women in this department are like Panda's; endangered and Chinese :rofl: . I'm going to hell for that...

At any rate; I've been thinking about joining some sort of club on campus... But I don't know what would be a good area to go with. I can try something art related (I'm quite good at the stuff), or maybe something health related... I've also tried scouring through meetup.com for groups doing interesting things; that yielded no results. I'm also contemplating online dating; it's not too pricey, and I've heard good things about it.

I need ideas / opinions.
 
Servo888 said:
Ok so here is the issue... I'm girl-less, and it's really starting to hurt my personal life. A little about myself... I'm 21, working and going to school, a very generous / nice person, and can make a conversation with anybody. My biggest issue is that I don't really enjoy going to clubs / bars. I'm big on bike rides, or a simple trip to starbucks (quite things > loud things).

Now my university is like flower garden; plenty of beauty to stimulate the senses (I'm a sucker for euphoria (by CK)). But I'm a computer science major... Women in this department are like Panda's; endangered and Chinese :rofl: . I'm going to hell for that...

At any rate; I've been thinking about joining some sort of club on campus... But I don't know what would be a good area to go with. I can try something art related (I'm quite good at the stuff), or maybe something health related... I've also tried scouring through meetup.com for groups doing interesting things; that yielded no results. I'm also contemplating online dating; it's not too pricey, and I've heard good things about it.

I need ideas / opinions.
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Sounds like you're on the right track. Just get out there. Something to do with dance is always good. Also certain classes that tend to be dominated by attractive females. I'll admit to taking an intro level or two just for the eye candy. :D Online dating isn't as scary as people make it out to be, either. I'm sure it's worth a shot. If you get desperate you can always change your major to children's studies. :rofl:
 
Take some fun classes at your College, my cousin was single and he ended up having free time so he joined Clubs, took a tango class, etc. He met a lot of females that way, made a lot of friends, and he met his wife at the club he joined.
 
Hmmm, is it a confidence issue?

Suppose you could try online dating and meet someone, and yea some form of dancing class is good iv heard from a few people! :)
 
BigTomW said:
Hmmm, is it a confidence issue?
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I'm pretty good with flirting. But my biggest issue is initial confrontation / I'm always concerned about hitting on a girl who has a boyfriend, or has absolutely no interest in me.

Dancing is interesting though... Hmm
 
Servo888 said:
I'm pretty good with flirting. But my biggest issue is initial confrontation / I'm always concerned about hitting on a girl who has a boyfriend, or has absolutely no interest in me.

Dancing is interesting though... Hmm
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the worst she'll say is that she's taken. it could be worth a shot. good luck!
 
If you don't ask you'll never find out.

See if any of your friends are friends with girls and maybe try and get with one of them. Thats what I did and she's made me the happiest guy alive. But it does get hard trying to find time to get to the gym sometimes.
 
Don't make dating the target. Join a club or activity that interests you and mutual interests will attract. Go about it in a friendly way, not a "I'm gonna hit on her" way. Being friends with the opposite sex-who doesn't have anything (or anyone) to get in the way, inevitably leads to more...in a way more natural, way more permanent way
 
sparrow said:
Don't make dating the target. Join a club or activity that interests you and mutual interests will attract. Go about it in a friendly way, not a "I'm gonna hit on her" way. Being friends with the opposite sex-who doesn't have anything (or anyone) to get in the way, inevitably leads to more...in a way more natural, way more permanent way
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That's definitely the route to go. I've always wanted to try Yoga, so that might be a place to start.
 
Curtis said:
If you don't ask you'll never find out.

See if any of your friends are friends with girls and maybe try and get with one of them. Thats what I did and she's made me the happiest guy alive. But it does get hard trying to find time to get to the gym sometimes.
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The funny part is I have many more female friends than I do guy friends. Only issue is that many of them are taken, or I simply have no intimate interest in them. I'm forcing myself to go to a party one of them is having; hopefully I can create connections that way. And as always; I need to figure out a good activity.
 
It only gets tougher as you get older. Now that I am 33 and most of my friends are married and with kids, nobody even goes out anymore. I have cut out the bar/club scene while I try to get in shape so that is out. I wish I was back in college. :beerchug:
 
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Don't be scared of rejection. Most women don't mind a man that takes an opportunity to say hello & find out if she is single. Good luck. I agree with Sparrow too.... try to find a co-ed sport. Do you like Softball? Just a suggestion...
 
be friendly and approachable...it'll come when u least expect it..but your better off staying away from the bar/club scene it's not the greatest place to find a relationship (in my opinion)..use friends-groups make you feel more confident then being alone..good luck!
 
Nope. Match.com will soon become the only way people of the opposite sex (or even same sex) are able to meet.

Just get into some activities. You cant meet anybody sitting around in your dorm watching porn all day. Go to the party and have fun.
 
Hey you can meet some quality women at Starbucks! :) I like bookstores and coffee places. I know what you mean, I'm 31 and single because I don't have the time to go anywhere and meet people. I usually meet men at work, and I have also met a TON of new friends online. Have you tried myspace? :)
 
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