This post isn't about me. I know that sounds cliche...but it's honestly about my wife.
My wife is a 31 year old mother of three. Ever since I've known her she has had body image issues. When she was younger she went through a couple toxic relationships that have left scars in her mind that I know she'll never erase. Over the course of the last five years she has birthed three beautiful children and has been a dedicated and loving mother to them. They have always been her number one priority. With the ages our middle and youngest child, there was a span of close to 4 years where she was either pregnant or nursing. It was very taxing on her mentally and physically.
Over the last 3-4 months she has made up her mind that it is time for her to start doing something for herself - and the first thing that came to her mind was losing weight and get more physically active. I was thrilled for her...I knew this was something that had bugged her for years and I was excited to see her happy.
The problem is that she is not seeing results. She will eat sensibly, get about 30-40 mins of steady state cardio in on the treadmill or outside (pushing a stroller), and doesn't tend to eat really much of anything after 7 pm.
She is a nurse, so her activity level while at work is high. Based on what she is eating and her activity level (moderate to high) there is no way she isn't in a calorie deficit. I also don't think she is eating "too little" and her body is in starvation mode. If that were the case I believe she would have seen initial results that would have slowed down...that just hasn't been the case. It isnt a situation where she isn't losing enough weight to satisfy her. We've discussed many times how losing too much weight too fast wont be good for her in the long run because it will be difficult to maintain. We've discussed that in a year, with steady slow weight loss, she could be at her goal weight and although a year seems like a long time its minuscule compared to the big picture. Her discouragement is that she either her weight stays the same or she will actually gain weight. Based on the research we've done I cannot seem to find an answer.
Looking for anyone with any type of advice. Maybe you've gone through this or maybe you have some info that might shed some light on the situation. Anything will help.
My wife is a 31 year old mother of three. Ever since I've known her she has had body image issues. When she was younger she went through a couple toxic relationships that have left scars in her mind that I know she'll never erase. Over the course of the last five years she has birthed three beautiful children and has been a dedicated and loving mother to them. They have always been her number one priority. With the ages our middle and youngest child, there was a span of close to 4 years where she was either pregnant or nursing. It was very taxing on her mentally and physically.
Over the last 3-4 months she has made up her mind that it is time for her to start doing something for herself - and the first thing that came to her mind was losing weight and get more physically active. I was thrilled for her...I knew this was something that had bugged her for years and I was excited to see her happy.
The problem is that she is not seeing results. She will eat sensibly, get about 30-40 mins of steady state cardio in on the treadmill or outside (pushing a stroller), and doesn't tend to eat really much of anything after 7 pm.
She is a nurse, so her activity level while at work is high. Based on what she is eating and her activity level (moderate to high) there is no way she isn't in a calorie deficit. I also don't think she is eating "too little" and her body is in starvation mode. If that were the case I believe she would have seen initial results that would have slowed down...that just hasn't been the case. It isnt a situation where she isn't losing enough weight to satisfy her. We've discussed many times how losing too much weight too fast wont be good for her in the long run because it will be difficult to maintain. We've discussed that in a year, with steady slow weight loss, she could be at her goal weight and although a year seems like a long time its minuscule compared to the big picture. Her discouragement is that she either her weight stays the same or she will actually gain weight. Based on the research we've done I cannot seem to find an answer.
Looking for anyone with any type of advice. Maybe you've gone through this or maybe you have some info that might shed some light on the situation. Anything will help.
