God you would not want to know what my boyfriend situation is at the moment. I met someone two years ago and we've been friends ever since after finding out we had nearly everything in common. A few weeks after we became friends he got news that his dad had cancer. I admit I had no idea what his situation was but I was having horrid thoughts of him stuck in his house on his own so I offered to phone him up one night. I got a message back saying he'd love that but his wife might think he was running away with me.
I had no idea he was married!
I also had it in my head that he was 26, 7 years older than myself at the time. However I'd got that slightly wrong too, he was actually 36 and just looked 26!
But wait... it gets more complicated!
He was having a really bad time at home with his dad and stuff, along with that him and his wife were going through a really rocky patch due to her being infertile and at the same time really wanting kids. That led to them fighting nearly all the time, he was also unimpressed with the fact she didn't want to work while he worked a 6 day week 8am-9.30pm at his driving school. She had put it down to her qualifications all being childcare related and she was too depressed to do something like that while not having kids herself which was fair enough. She got an office job then promptly quit because she didn't like it, ignoring the fact they had just bought a new house and needed the money.
One day we'd been out for a walk in a nature reserve and at the end of the day were were talking about it because he was saying how nice it was to get out and not be shouted at all the time. Then he brought up the conversation we'd had a week or so ago and said he might have been wrong but he thought I was dissapointed when he told me he was in a relationship. Didn't see much point in denying it so I said I was a bit but I'd rather be friends and didn't want to risk a friendship. He then admitted he felt the same way!
Falling head over heals for a married man who's 17 years older than me, you couldn't make it up!
We've been friends ever since then and still go out on walks and stuff, he still doesn't get on with his wife but doesn't want a divorse as she'd be entitled to 50% of everything despite doing hardly any work for the past 5 years. I don't want to judge and I told him that I would never comment on their relationship so it's up to them. Although we're both attracted to each other we've not gone further than the odd cuddle, I wouldn't want my boyfriend to do that to me. It's nice to have a friend I know I can talk to though and know he'll do everything in his power to help me out if I need it. It's also nice to be able to get a good cuddle and not worry about hanging on for too long etc etc
I'm still looking for someone else as I know this can never work out between us but alas not nice lads have come my way as of yet.
Hello nice lads! I know you're out there somewhere, sometime soon I'll nab one of you!
