Lauraisthename
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Hey Ladies and Gents,
I am having an outstanding issue with my boyfriend and would love all of your opinion, men and women opinions will be equally waited and taken with a grain of salt!
In May 2004, I met him when I went to smoke marijuana with my girlfriends for the very first time. He was my friend's ex boyfriend at the time. At the same time, I began dating his best friend, child hood friend, who was also there at that smoke session, for approximately 15 months. We broke up in January 2006. We didn't really begin talking, until October 2005 on AIM. We would chat nightly about classes, movies, dinner, etc. Really friendly, simple talk. My feelings started to grow for him. I loved chatting with him, it was always fun and interesting to talk to him. I know it went both ways =) He would IM me and I would IM him equal effort.
In October 2006, we finally hung out in person to watch a movie, Borat. The night didn't end too well because we were so nervous to see each other. Then, I saw him again on March 2007 to watch 300, I put in more effort this time to talk, so things went well. He said that he liked me like a few weeks later, so we dated until December 2007. In September, I moved an hour away for school, and he came to visit me rarely...in December 2007, he started talking to A. It was hard to talk to him because he kept talking about her, so i slowly tried to end ties with her.
In April 2008, he came back to me and asked me to be with him again, and that's when we started our 2-weeks on and off situation. We would be fine for 2 weeks, go sour for 2 weeks, then back and fourth from April 2008 to October 2009.
He finally got in a relationship with her in October 2009, and when they would fight, he could contact me. From October 2009 to February 2011, he contacted me three times and saw him each time. In the meantime, I dated a guy from October 2009 to January 2010, just a short term 3 month rebound relationship that fizzled. Since he was with her from Oct 09-Feb 2011, I tried very hard to move on. I finally was able to wake up in the morning, and be emotionally okay without depending on anyone. I was truly truly single and fine with it.
Just last month, he reentered my life, on February 26, 2011 we began to talk. I got robbed, so we didn't really do much in the beginning. Then on March 11, I saw him after going out with my girls, and yeah, we made out. I was afraid things would change, but nothing did. We ended up texting every night. He's been saying everything that I've always wanted to hear. He's told me that he realized that I was the one for him a long time ago, and he's so sorry and he wants a relationship with me. He told me over and over, and we talk every night and everything has been so great, so I believe him, up to today.
He broke up with her because she cheated on him, and she's with someone new. Also, they were heroine addicts together. He's clean, but takes subutex for his addictive symptoms.
They haven't talked since two days ago, when she IMed him and asked how he was doing. They talked for like 5 minutes, she's with someone new, he's with someone new. Also, two days ago, his grandfather passed away.
So, I reached out to him yesterday, two text messages, and didn't hear from him until today. We hung out, and while we were in his room, she IMs him. We have this one hour argument, when I asked him to delete her off his buddy list and phone, but he wouldn't because he thinks it wouldn't make a difference. He said he will when he's ready to, but he's not right now because he is curious to know how she is doing.
He told me that I have nothing to worry about, he doesn't want to hang out with her, he wants me, and he loves me. I believe him.
But the fact that he holds this forbidden apple in front of him, keeping her contact info and chatting with her when she IMs him, makes me insecure.
I love him so much because of his intriguing personality, potential, and his intelligence. Something about him makes me want him so much.
Ladies and Gentlemen, what do you think? Why does he truly want to keep in touch with her?
1. I'm usually the one who IMs him first, so he contacts me mostly because he has to respond to something I've said before, or a text I've sent him.
2. I was able to move on from him in October 09-Feb 2011, and I believe I can again. I want to before things get too crazy...
If any of you truly would like to help and need clarification, please feel free to ask!!
Thanks if you've read this far..
I am having an outstanding issue with my boyfriend and would love all of your opinion, men and women opinions will be equally waited and taken with a grain of salt!
In May 2004, I met him when I went to smoke marijuana with my girlfriends for the very first time. He was my friend's ex boyfriend at the time. At the same time, I began dating his best friend, child hood friend, who was also there at that smoke session, for approximately 15 months. We broke up in January 2006. We didn't really begin talking, until October 2005 on AIM. We would chat nightly about classes, movies, dinner, etc. Really friendly, simple talk. My feelings started to grow for him. I loved chatting with him, it was always fun and interesting to talk to him. I know it went both ways =) He would IM me and I would IM him equal effort.
In October 2006, we finally hung out in person to watch a movie, Borat. The night didn't end too well because we were so nervous to see each other. Then, I saw him again on March 2007 to watch 300, I put in more effort this time to talk, so things went well. He said that he liked me like a few weeks later, so we dated until December 2007. In September, I moved an hour away for school, and he came to visit me rarely...in December 2007, he started talking to A. It was hard to talk to him because he kept talking about her, so i slowly tried to end ties with her.
In April 2008, he came back to me and asked me to be with him again, and that's when we started our 2-weeks on and off situation. We would be fine for 2 weeks, go sour for 2 weeks, then back and fourth from April 2008 to October 2009.
He finally got in a relationship with her in October 2009, and when they would fight, he could contact me. From October 2009 to February 2011, he contacted me three times and saw him each time. In the meantime, I dated a guy from October 2009 to January 2010, just a short term 3 month rebound relationship that fizzled. Since he was with her from Oct 09-Feb 2011, I tried very hard to move on. I finally was able to wake up in the morning, and be emotionally okay without depending on anyone. I was truly truly single and fine with it.
Just last month, he reentered my life, on February 26, 2011 we began to talk. I got robbed, so we didn't really do much in the beginning. Then on March 11, I saw him after going out with my girls, and yeah, we made out. I was afraid things would change, but nothing did. We ended up texting every night. He's been saying everything that I've always wanted to hear. He's told me that he realized that I was the one for him a long time ago, and he's so sorry and he wants a relationship with me. He told me over and over, and we talk every night and everything has been so great, so I believe him, up to today.
He broke up with her because she cheated on him, and she's with someone new. Also, they were heroine addicts together. He's clean, but takes subutex for his addictive symptoms.
They haven't talked since two days ago, when she IMed him and asked how he was doing. They talked for like 5 minutes, she's with someone new, he's with someone new. Also, two days ago, his grandfather passed away.
So, I reached out to him yesterday, two text messages, and didn't hear from him until today. We hung out, and while we were in his room, she IMs him. We have this one hour argument, when I asked him to delete her off his buddy list and phone, but he wouldn't because he thinks it wouldn't make a difference. He said he will when he's ready to, but he's not right now because he is curious to know how she is doing.
He told me that I have nothing to worry about, he doesn't want to hang out with her, he wants me, and he loves me. I believe him.
But the fact that he holds this forbidden apple in front of him, keeping her contact info and chatting with her when she IMs him, makes me insecure.
I love him so much because of his intriguing personality, potential, and his intelligence. Something about him makes me want him so much.
Ladies and Gentlemen, what do you think? Why does he truly want to keep in touch with her?
1. I'm usually the one who IMs him first, so he contacts me mostly because he has to respond to something I've said before, or a text I've sent him.
2. I was able to move on from him in October 09-Feb 2011, and I believe I can again. I want to before things get too crazy...
If any of you truly would like to help and need clarification, please feel free to ask!!
Thanks if you've read this far..