Realtionship advice...

Mista_Tee

Mista_Tee

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Ok this may seem a strange place to post this, but heck its easier for me to ask anonymously on here than it is to confront someone about, as news travels fast round here.

Right so the lifestory lol..

Theres a girl at work ive been interested in since we met! (which was one of
the main reasons for getting in shape)
We've worked together for app a year now, and we get on petty well.
Just lately shes been showing a decent amount of affection, hugs when
i walk in, putting her arm around me when we walk together etc..
A couple of people have made comments such as "your gf" infront of her, and had a laugh when we hug etc and she doesnt seem bothered about it, ive heard her mention that she could do with a bf, and i think ive overheard her talking about, hes not picking up on it, but i dont have a clue if its me shes talking about, which is making me not want to confront her more so.
However i'm really quite thick when it comes to picking up when a girls flirting with me lol, unless im on the pull in town, i really have no idea!

So can anyone offer any advice on how i can ask her / find out? I dont want to make myself look a complete idiot, by asking and having her say no - sorry i was just being freindly, as i dont have the confidence for that, and most importantly, i dont want to ruin a fantastic work atmosphere between freinds as i spend most of my time at work, so the last thing i need is to not enjoy going anymore.

Thanks in advance for any help
 
ive heard her mention that she could do with a bf
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ive overheard her talking about, hes not picking up on it,
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However i'm really quite thick
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heh

You are welcome
 
James said:
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heh

You are welcome
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LOL Cheers for the vote of confidence! i really should have seen that coming, still any advice on how to ask her without making myself look a prat - just as this memeber has done so easily would be appreciated lol
 
Hahahaha..... that James is a wise one.

Just ask her on a date man. What do you have to lose?
 
Try and get an idea of her schedule, then casually mention that you are going somewhere interesting, on an evening when you suspect her to be available. Preferably make it clear that you'll be going alone and that you would be ever so grateful for some company, if only you could find someone to go with. Then give her a big goofy grin.

After that, if you tell me that you don't have a date, I will call you a liar right to your face. :biggrinjester:

Best wishes mate.

Edit: The Zoo is a lovely choice if you have one. Maybe not during the winter. I don't know what you Limeys like to do.
 
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focus said:
Ok....looks like someone took over my name and avatar....I think it's my friend Lisa, hi Lisa! I thought you were strange...but now I know you are...haha!
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You! So you're to blame. No, I'm not Lisa. It's just that the system thinks I'm you. The brackets confuse it. The avatar was just there on creation, and unfortunately I don't think it'll change (because it won't allow me to) until Sean does it for me. Notice it also thinks I'm you if you try to visit my profile by clicking on my username.

... Sorry, I guess. :blush5:

No need to go changing your avatar. I have my own. Should be up fairly soon I hope. :)
 
Haha, the story has way more depth than I thought. Darn, I was actually kind of flattered for a few minutes.
Welcome aboard!
 
Well i bit the bullet and mentioned going out this weekend - however shes trying to get back with her ex - slightly gutted i have to admit, but nevermind, next time i wont leave it for so long..
 
Mista_Tee said:
Well i bit the bullet and mentioned going out this weekend - however shes trying to get back with her ex - slightly gutted i have to admit, but nevermind, next time i wont leave it for so long..
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... Shitty. There might still be a chance for something, there, but I don't want to be the guy who recommends pushing it. Anyway, way to roll with it. The world is full of pretty ladies. Just take that gutted feeling and throw it on the fire. It makes great fuel. :D
 
If she doesn't get back with her ex, here's what you do:
1st- If she's your friend at work, then make her your friend outside of work too. If you are going to the club, a concert, any activity with a group of people, invite her and her friends to come along. This is way more comfortable and less intimidating than just going straight for the date, and you're less likely to be rejected. THEN after hanging out a couple times with other people, ask her to go to the mall or get coffee just the 2 of you.
 
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