I just recently moved, and one thing became clearly evident. All the girls I knew I've known since elementry school. I've never had to introduce myself or even talk to women I didn't know. Now I seem to be in this funk where I can't approach women. This is were I need your help. How do you want to be approched? What are the right things to say? I would like to start a serious relationship so any help in that area would help.
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might be able to help you. It's got some funny stuff on it such as sports reviews, cars etc. But it seems to have tons of articles on woman. Wouldn't suggest following every one of them step by step, but they give you an insight based on experience. Basically, women like confidence. Just be confident, relax, and talk to them. It's not too difficult. Put it this way, if you went and made a fool of yourself, you would never have to see them again. Would ya? Goodluck.
might be able to help you. It's got some funny stuff on it such as sports reviews, cars etc. But it seems to have tons of articles on woman. Wouldn't suggest following every one of them step by step, but they give you an insight based on experience. Basically, women like confidence. Just be confident, relax, and talk to them. It's not too difficult. Put it this way, if you went and made a fool of yourself, you would never have to see them again. Would ya? Goodluck.Just like guys, when you approach the girl, do not approach her with the intent of 'hooking up'. Find a good setting, such as a math class, or at work. Come up with some sort of question such as "how did you do on problem X?". Then ask away. A good way to meet a new girl, is through friends - everybody has their 'group' they hang around with and members of said group could be female. Most importantly don't fear them, and don't fall in love with every girl you meet. Also trust me, looks are important, but a brain is much more important.
Join a running group or a training group (marathon/triathlon/swimming/cycling) or a group of people with your similar hobbies (classic car club/star trek convention/debate team).
(a) You can't help but to meet people when you are all in a group for the same purpose, and
(b) you will meet people who you already have something in common with.
If you don't go with the intention of hooking-up you will make a lot of friends of both genders (and quite possibly learn a lot) and even if you don't "like" the gals in the group, your new friends will have you in mind when they are thinking of their single girl friends.
I (a gal) had virtually no gal friends - I had the girlfriends and wives of my husband's friends who I like ok, but had nothing in common with. I mean where do (hetero) girls go to meet girls to be friends?
In March I joined a Triathlon training group. In the past three months I have made 40 new friends 4 of whom I hang out with often. And, if my hubbie asks me if I know anyone who might ike one of his friends, I can actually name single women who might be interested.
(a) You can't help but to meet people when you are all in a group for the same purpose, and
(b) you will meet people who you already have something in common with.
If you don't go with the intention of hooking-up you will make a lot of friends of both genders (and quite possibly learn a lot) and even if you don't "like" the gals in the group, your new friends will have you in mind when they are thinking of their single girl friends.
I (a gal) had virtually no gal friends - I had the girlfriends and wives of my husband's friends who I like ok, but had nothing in common with. I mean where do (hetero) girls go to meet girls to be friends?
In March I joined a Triathlon training group. In the past three months I have made 40 new friends 4 of whom I hang out with often. And, if my hubbie asks me if I know anyone who might ike one of his friends, I can actually name single women who might be interested.
if you like a girl or a women try to first become a friend of hers or even a best friend thats better then if you still want to ask her out-1 you got a way better chance then you did befor and 2 if she knows you she won't think your sum kinda perverted freak you have to love her for her and she has to love you for you for it to be a serios relationship but don't act like you plan on asking her out and don't make it obvious that you like her like I siad try being friend or best freind with her befor asking her out
That is not really true. I've worked and have been in many occasions where I had to socialize with people. I'm not a very good socializer. You can tell the different when someone is nervous or doesn't have any/much confident. You can see it through their "body language" and/or actions. I tend to act stupid and say stupid thing when I'm nervous. Pay attention to what you are doing and make sure you are not doing what I do.
Life is the 6 inches that are in front of your face. Moving forward without paying attention to these inches is devastating. Opportunity is knocking on our doors every single day. The option to take advantage of the opportunity is up to you. It is not going to hand itself to you. It is there for the taking everywhere we turn.
I'm a guy but I'll still answer. I was in the same situation as you a few months ago. I lived in the same place all my life and I recently moved so I needed to start meeting people. Just act confident and be approachable. Try to smile and just stuff that makes people want to talk to you. Be confident but don't be a dick. You might see some women approach you and that makes it much easier. It's much easier approaching girls in class though, that way you can ask about the classwork and eventually you can start a normal conversation.
You want to be her best friend? Nah, this is bad advice. Just flirt with all the girls you meet, have fun, see which ones gravitate towards you and then go out with the ones you like and take it from there.
but how can you expect to get a girlfriend if your not even that girl's friend to begin with if you just flirt with the girl in my perpective it just tells the girl that you are a pervert and your not intrested in her your intrested in her body form not her.
how do you flirt with a girl that you don't even Know?sure I'm all for Sexy girls but a girls body should not be the mian thing that comes to mind its the girls personality that should e the mian thing,and in my oppinion the only way one can Focus on the girls personality is to be friends or best-friends with that girl.
now its ok to flirt with a girl by complementing her personality if you flirt by complementing her Bum,or boobs your most likely to get slaped.
if you just flirt with the girl in my perpective it just tells the girl that you are a pervert and your not intrested in her your intrested in her body form not her.how do you flirt with a girl that you don't even Know?sure I'm all for Sexy girls but a girls body should not be the mian thing that comes to mind its the girls personality that should e the mian thing,and in my oppinion the only way one can Focus on the girls personality is to be friends or best-friends with that girl.
now its ok to flirt with a girl by complementing her personality if you flirt by complementing her Bum,or boobs your most likely to get slaped.
but how can you expect to get a girlfriend if your not even that girl's friend to begin with
how do you flirt with a girl that you don't even Know?sure I'm all for Sexy girls but a girls body should not be the mian thing that comes to mind its the girls personality that should e the mian thing,and in my oppinion the only way one can Focus on the girls personality is to be friends or best-friends with that girl.
now its ok to flirt with a girl by complementing her personality if you flirt by complementing her Bum,or boobs your most likely to get slaped.
Theres a difference between being a friend or someone you know and a "best friend" where the girl likes to give you hugs and talks to you but can never see herself kissing you.
ok I agree with you a bit....I agree that mybe a man should not be best friends with a girl but one should at least try to be friends befor you ask the girl out, it will make the girl comfertable. you know, like showing the girl a goodtime without makeing it compleately obviose that you like her. ya know what I mean?this way you still are getting to know eachother and haveing a blast doing so then you ask the girl out^^
hehe hehe is that why you're hiding out in your garage all the time under some monstrous weight? Some aerobics would be good fer ya!
I don't get that, why not? There are plenty of non-same sex friendships. I don't see why theres anything wrong with that?