Peoples insecurities??

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mellisamouse

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Hello! I am a fresh newby here.. nice to meet y'all...

I joined today to have a place to vent and to relate on my weighloss journey.

I have has this problem loosing weight in the past... and find it creeping up on my again this time around.

I will give my most recent example of my frustration..

When I met my current boyfriend, he was so loving, and snuggly and affectionate.

He is thin as a rail, and very good looking...

Well, I was 30lbs heavier, and "cute" according to him..

Now I have lost some weight, have about 20lbs to go...

He is no longer affectionate or snuggly... he is all of a sudden picky about what I wear, and today..... OHHH today was the icing on the cake!

I saw this really cute dress ina store window, and said I would LOVE to have that dress..... he says... well, it would only look good on a skinny person....

Then I said, "so your saying I am fat"... he says... "I am just being honest.. I have to be honest.."

I say, " I have lost 30lbs since we met!"

Now we are both having a gloomy day...

Feel like I can't win either way....
 
Sounds like HE is insecure that you are doing something positive for yourself & he is afraid you'll find someone else. So, typical of this type of person, he will drag you down to make himself feel better (by making YOU feel insecure).
I don't know you, or him...but this sounds like the beginnings of an abusive relationship. Either verbal, emotional, or physical...all of which suck. I've been in them before I got married, and see the red flags QUICKLY now. you might want to consider letting this one go. Somewhere the RIGHT guy awaits.
Sorry. I know it's hard...but so is someone you care about making YOU feel like crap.
 
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