Sport overcoming temptation..........

[amelie]

I have managed to shift a great deal of weight, and i absolutly love the new me. I get huge amounts of pleasure from working out and seeing my body change, and i must fess up to showing people my newly devolped toned lean looking arms and asking 'hey look at my definiton' lol (arse and legs are taking a little longer to gettong to showing off stage).

But here is my problem.

My boyfriend hinted that he thought i would look great soon after we met a little lighter- and i knew this too. I had little confidence and was overweight by about 24 pounds at the time. I know it sounds like he was being harsh- but he was just beng honest and he also could tell i was not happy with myself.

The problem is that now i have shifted most of the weight, and i aviod booze, fatty foods and hit the gym 4 times a week- he seems to enjoy putting tempation in my way. He always suggests a miss the gym if we have the day off together, but i really love the buzz it gives me.

I only drink wine one night a week, and if i am honest i would like to cut it out all together for a while to see if helps me shift the last bit of weight. But i do feel like a bit of an antisocial bore. My friends are all big pub goers, and it hard now as i don't want that lifestyle.

Its hard to mix in social circles when we eat out at resturants etc. I am just aware of how much crap in in food theese days that i feel like i am poluting my body some how.

My question is how to overcome tempation when eating out, and do any of you have loved ones who in some way resent your dedication? What do you do to keep the peace AND still get to workout. I always seem to give in and go with the flow.

Thanks in advance.

 

[aevans410]

You can still go to bars and pubs and drink diet soda, I do it all the time.

As far as your boyfriend asking you to miss the gym, is he doing it often? Every once in a while? If its just once in a while, maybe he's just asking for attention. If its often, then there could be something else going on.

What's your schedule like? Can you work out first thing in the morning? Get up early and work out so your evenings can be free for you and your friends to enjoy.

 

[Bryn]

Don't know about you but I can't afford to eat out often enough that it makes a difference. When I do eat out I enjoy it so much more because I can polish of 3 courses and still not feel bloated. My metabolism is so much higher than it used to be. Just enjoy going out when you get the chance.

Your b/f is probably jealous that you spend so much time down the gym. Normally in a relationship it's the male who wants to go out by themselves to the gym/pub etc and the female that is hankering after attention. When it's the other way round it's quite a shock to a man and he's probably not used to it. He's also probably worried that now you’re so much fitter you'll be looking for an upgrade .

Try and let your bf know how much you care for him. It Doesn't take much just an odd comment when he does something nice. Also try and improve his self confidence. If you notice something nice looking about him make sure you say so (but don't be insincere, that'd be worse than no comment). Anything like a nice shirt, nice bum when he bends over, nice haircut etc.

Also try and find an exercise that you can both enjoy together. That way you will spend more time with him without giving up any exercise and hopefully if he gets fitter he will be less insecure. Tennis, cycling, jogging, badminton, hiking etc.