New member. Very frustrated with weight loss. Please help!

kimmiieee

New member
Hi,

I hope this is the right place to post this. A little bit about my journey...

I am 4'10 and 27 years old. About two years ago my boyfriend and I broke up and I went on a crazy workout rampage. I did workout videos (21 day fix and body beast) and lost 22 pounds before I knew it. I was finally at my "goal" weight of 108 pounds (anything under 110 made me happy). I eventually started gaining the weight after shortly after that. Now the full 22 pounds, and them some, are all back and I hate it! I keep telling myself it should be easy since I've lost it before, but I can seem to figure it out this time. I've been trying for three months now and have lost nothing. I diet, I go on cleanses, I go to the gym, I do my workout videos. I have a fitbit and I easily manage to get 10,000 steps a day so I feel like I do move a lot. I only weigh myself at the end of the month and when I see no progress, I get discouraged and give up. It's been well over a week since I've attempted to exercise and I can't seem to get myself to keep going. Please help!
 
Hi Kimmiieee
So, I had to google how many kg are in 130 pounds. It's about 58 kg. That's pretty small! You sound pretty desperate for help for someone who is not very overweight! (if at all!) I'm 5 inches taller than you and weight 218 pounds (which I'm trying to lose) From my perspective you seem like a skinny person, but it's clear that you don't feel like one! I can't really offer you any advice, except the advice I've been given, which is to try to find the joy in what you're doing. Enjoy the journey itself, and don't look to the reaching of a certain number on a scale as something that will bring you happiness or fulfillment or satisfaction.
I'm overweight, and it's something I'm working on, but I'm happy with me! I'm a work in progress, but I'm still awesome :)
And you're awesome too :)

Bibs
 
Hi,

I hope this is the right place to post this. A little bit about my journey...

I am 4'10 and 27 years old. About two years ago my boyfriend and I broke up and I went on a crazy workout rampage. I did workout videos (21 day fix and body beast) and lost 22 pounds before I knew it. I was finally at my "goal" weight of 108 pounds (anything under 110 made me happy). I eventually started gaining the weight after shortly after that. Now the full 22 pounds, and them some, are all back and I hate it! I keep telling myself it should be easy since I've lost it before, but I can seem to figure it out this time. I've been trying for three months now and have lost nothing. I diet, I go on cleanses, I go to the gym, I do my workout videos. I have a fitbit and I easily manage to get 10,000 steps a day so I feel like I do move a lot. I only weigh myself at the end of the month and when I see no progress, I get discouraged and give up. It's been well over a week since I've attempted to exercise and I can't seem to get myself to keep going. Please help!


Kimmiiee - don't be too hard on yourself! It will take time, just remember it's 80% what you eat and 20% working out. My advice to you is get in the zone, focus on the food you eat specifically the calories you intake. You will see, the weight will come off, take it slow this way it will stay off. Most of all good luck.
 
Obviously what you are doing isn't suiting you. You don't seem to be enjoying the journey and you should. I'm intrigued about your diet. Is it low carb? I personally hate the phrase ' I diet' such a restrictive connotation. You can eat all the foods you like and just tweak certain parts of them to make them better for you, I.e white rice to wholegrain. Do you calorie count?

At the end of all this you are in no way overweight there is no rush. Get to grips with it mentally, take your time and enjoy it. Sometime a little fine tuning is all you need.
 
Hello kimmiieee

You didn't mention your regular meal.Though you didn't but I recommend you to follow the suggestion.

01. Reduce Your Intake Calorie
02. Perform resistance training
03. Start high intensity interval training
04. Perform circuit training
05. Lift Weights
 
Hi Kimmiieee
So, I had to google how many kg are in 130 pounds. It's about 58 kg. That's pretty small! You sound pretty desperate for help for someone who is not very overweight! (if at all!) I'm 5 inches taller than you and weight 218 pounds (which I'm trying to lose) From my perspective you seem like a skinny person, but it's clear that you don't feel like one! I can't really offer you any advice, except the advice I've been given, which is to try to find the joy in what you're doing. Enjoy the journey itself, and don't look to the reaching of a certain number on a scale as something that will bring you happiness or fulfillment or satisfaction.
I'm overweight, and it's something I'm working on, but I'm happy with me! I'm a work in progress, but I'm still awesome :)
And you're awesome too :)

Bibs

Thank you for your kind words. I know that it really is just all in my head. I am very hard on myself and really fall into what the "perfect skinny" girl is supposed to look like. This really helped with the way I feel. Thank you again!
 
Obviously what you are doing isn't suiting you. You don't seem to be enjoying the journey and you should. I'm intrigued about your diet. Is it low carb? I personally hate the phrase ' I diet' such a restrictive connotation. You can eat all the foods you like and just tweak certain parts of them to make them better for you, I.e white rice to wholegrain. Do you calorie count?

At the end of all this you are in no way overweight there is no rush. Get to grips with it mentally, take your time and enjoy it. Sometime a little fine tuning is all you need.

Thank you for the advice! I followed the 21 day fix diet which limited my food intake to certain container sizes. After that I just really focused on small portion sizes. I did try to swap out white rice for quinoa or brown rice when possible and stuff like that. But honestly, I did indulge in the carbs. Trying to stay focused now on diet and stay low carb.
 
Kimmiiee - don't be too hard on yourself! It will take time, just remember it's 80% what you eat and 20% working out. My advice to you is get in the zone, focus on the food you eat specifically the calories you intake. You will see, the weight will come off, take it slow this way it will stay off. Most of all good luck.

Thank you for the motivation! I've been really focused this week on a low carb, high protein diet. Hopefully this does the trick!
 
Low carb is a terrible idea. And literally health damaging. The high protein works because it fills you up quickly but carbs are essential. You will rapidly loose 'weight' over 6 monts but eventually It will come piling back on. I'm currently working on my macronutrient diet carbs are 30-40% of it....good carbs that is. Basically calories keep your body working, carbs give you energy. And proteins maintain muscle. Cutting out carbs will result in a high sat fats diet, next to no vit c so you will get sick more, no antioxidant for cell repair. Could also result in high cholesterol, heart problems and diabetes. It creates an insulin spike which will intern cause your body to store more.
 
Low carb is a terrible idea. And literally health damaging. The high protein works because it fills you up quickly but carbs are essential. You will rapidly loose 'weight' over 6 monts but eventually It will come piling back on. I'm currently working on my macronutrient diet carbs are 30-40% of it....good carbs that is. Basically calories keep your body working, carbs give you energy. And proteins maintain muscle. Cutting out carbs will result in a high sat fats diet, next to no vit c so you will get sick more, no antioxidant for cell repair. Could also result in high cholesterol, heart problems and diabetes. It creates an insulin spike which will intern cause your body to store more.

That's where I get confused. I tried to read all of these articles and the one I've revolved my diet around is to cut the carbs. Being a new person at this, it's hard to keep up with the correct literature and to know what's actually good for my body and what's not.
 
You are not drastically over weight, and you are active. No or low carb will not suit you. Low carb will result in low energy levels and reduce your workout intensity making it ineffective. Also with low carb you metabolise muscle before fat. It's backwards so you will be weaker. Good thing about macros is its not just about calories and makes it easier to see what works for you. I'm currently at 240g carbs, 20-40g fats and 180g protein and easily coming in at around 1700 calories which for me is a deficit of 900. So you chose your macros keep them for a week or so and depending on your loss or how your feelings you adjust them to suit you. I am never hungry this way and I've come from 178lbs to 156lbs in 3 weeks
 
Low carb is not unhealthy, and you can have great energy on low carb, the change over period can be a bit rough but once you are adapted your energy levels go through the roof.
 
There are a million surveys carried out on low carb diets the majority all say the same thing, increased blood pressure, high cholesterol, insulin spikes, bad breath, low immune system and so on and so forth. Yes short term they seem perfect. But long term? High saturated fats..low vitamin levels, that in itself should ring alarm bells. Nothing beats a healthy balanced diet. I mean people loose weight on twinkly and big mac diets, would you consider those to be healthy? Sure kieto can keep you weighing less but without carbs and vitamins you get from eating varied carbohydrates your body does not have what it needs to function optimally. I'm sure if you read up on it you will be shocked at what's actually going on in your body on a low carb intake
 
There are a million surveys carried out on low carb diets the majority all say the same thing, increased blood pressure, high cholesterol, insulin spikes, bad breath, low immune system and so on and so forth. Yes short term they seem perfect. But long term? High saturated fats..low vitamin levels, that in itself should ring alarm bells. Nothing beats a healthy balanced diet. I mean people loose weight on twinkly and big mac diets, would you consider those to be healthy? Sure kieto can keep you weighing less but without carbs and vitamins you get from eating varied carbohydrates your body does not have what it needs to function optimally. I'm sure if you read up on it you will be shocked at what's actually going on in your body on a low carb intake

What a load of horse sh*t! I literally signed up to the forum just to reply to you.

Why don't you do some reading before you start going around telling people rubbish like this. I don't mean bro science forums which you clearly read, but maybe try reading some medical journals and results of clinical trials and researches. Probably too hard to read for you though.

"Low carb diet causes insulin spikes" HAHAHAHAHAAA!!!! Unbelievable. That just tells me what you really know (i.e. know nothing) about the subject.

I bet you never tried low carb. I bet you never read any research or books about it. You have no basic knowledge on how human organism works. You should not advise people on anything, you'll only cause damage. People should skip your posts whenever they see your nickname.

Don't bother replying, I won't be wasting any more of my time on more of your "wisdom".
 
I also agree with Jarek, since a lot of the advice given by Daniel thus far, not just in this thread but also in others, is misleading at best.

Despite already being prompted to do so, he’s demonstrated that he has no interest in reading medical journals, to further his knowledge and understanding of how the human body works, nor is he willing to entertain different methods of achieving a healthy balance between the macro nutrient groups, particularly if they depart from his own ideals.

I won’t dwell upon his comments any further, but I’m sure you get the idea.

Anyhow, with that out of the way, hello and welcome to the forum, Kimmiieee.

Firstly, even though you may have gained back what you’d lost, despite how unhappy you may currently feel, you’re certainly not excessively overweight, even for your height.

Equally, I can appreciate your sense of frustration over the fact your level of activity hasn’t delivered the results you’d hoped it would. However, the lack of progress may be due to the kind of exercise you perform and your calorie intake.

The art of successful weight loss is very much a numbers game. Once you know your numbers, you stand a far greater chance of success.

In order to ascertain numbers, you should obtain both your BMR and TDEE. Your BMR (basal metabolic rate) is roughly how many calories the body requires in its resting state to maintain existence, while TDEE (total daily energy expenditure) relates to the amount of calories required to maintain weight based upon level of activity.

Having obtained both BMR and TDEE, upon introducing a daily calorie deficit from your TDEE, provided the deficit introduced doesn’t take you below your BMR, weight should be lost, as the body utilises energy stored in existing levels of fat to provide the calories needed to meet energy requirements.

By all means research BMR and TDEE calculators, since they’re something you’ll need to refer to as weight is lost and/if level of activity increases. However, since you’ve provided measurements, I’ve performed the calculation for you.

The calculation has been performed on the assumption that the ‘accumulated excess and more’ has led to you weigh 140lbs. As such, your BMR equates to 944Kcal and taking into account your level of activity, your TDEE measures 1463Kcal. Don’t be alarmed by how low your calorie intake is, since your body requires far fewer calories than you may think it does.

That said, the difference between your BMR and TDEE is around 513Kcal, so you have to be astute with any deficit you introduce. If the deficit takes you beneath your BMR, you’ll not lose weight as your body will hold on to excess body fat in order to maintain existence.

As you’re active, don’t seek to introduce a deficit through calorie restriction, aim to consume around 1460Kcal each day and allow the deficit to be introduced through calories expended during exercise and daily activity.

Moving on to exercise itself, regardless of body weight, it’s not so much the quantity that ensures fat loss, it’s the intensity. While steady state cardio increases endurance by improving how the body processes oxygen during exercise, it does very little to utilise the energy stored in fat, largely since it takes 40-45 minutes of SSC to fully deplete your glycogen reserves (carbohydrate stored in muscles), before switching to burning fat.

By comparison, HIIT (high intensity interval training) is far more effective at utilising the energy stored in fat, largely since HIIT exercises the body’s anaerobic energy system. During anaerobic exercise, since the body is unable to deliver oxygen as quickly as working muscles require it, the muscles begin to rely upon other energy sources, chiefly that of glycogen and fat.

Since the hard intervals require the body to work in the absence of oxygen, glycogen reserves are quickly depleted, meaning that it turns to burning fat once glycogen has been exhausted.

In addition to a host of other beneficial physiological changes that occur through HIIT, from a weight loss perspective, depletion of glycogen and burning of fat is your main goal, so I’ll not confuse you.

However, aim to incorporate HIIT into your regime twice a week, performing the activity for no longer than 20-25 minutes. Perform 30s splits to begin with, as you allow the body to adapt, before introducing longer intervals.

Don’t seek to increase the intensity too severely, either. Use the RPE scale (rate of perceived exertion) to guide you towards the correct level in the initial interim and see how you get on. You should be working at level 9/10 on the RPE scale, but don’t worry if the level of intensity on your choice of equipment isn’t reflected as highly as you think it should be.

For example, when I perform HIIT, I’ll use the StairMaster, performing hard intervals at level 18 (the machine goes up to level 20) for 60 seconds, reducing the speed at which the stairs rotate down to level 1 for 30 seconds as I recover, repeating the process for 20-25 minutes. On the RPE scale, level 18 currently represents my perception of all-out effort.

Given that you exercise regularly, you should already possess a decent level of fitness, so the transition towards incorporating HIIT shouldn’t be too difficult. It’ll also provide a massive boost to your flagging motivation.

As for diet, ensure that protein accounts for 40% of your total daily calorie intake and that complex carbohydrates and fats account for 30% respectively. With the exception of coconut oil (which is a saturated fat), aim to keep consumption of saturated fat relatively low, obtaining intake through oils, seeds, fish and nuts, instead.

Despite being very much maligned, Daniel Egan is correct in suggesting the use of macro-nutrient calculators, since they do provide a clearer idea of how many calories should be obtained through the respective food groups. However, since you’ve been provided with a rough breakdown of percentages between the respective macronutrients, the maths shouldn’t prove too difficult, but bear in mind that each gram of fat contains 9Kcal and protein and carbohydrate each contain 4Kcal per gram.
 
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I have to partially disagree - yes fat oxidation increases when depleted BUT is it really necessary for kimmieeee's goal? There are a few aspects to this, in short no matter what type of exercise if it takes places or takes you into a deficit you will lose body fat.

May ask what exactly you did post diet last time? You have to bear in mind that your body MAY have adapted to your lower calorie intake over your dieting period, in which case it would always be wise to gradually increase calories again back to a "baseline".

In terms of what you need to do, don't do cleanses or anything along those lines.

Step 1: Record your nutrition for a week - while measuring weight, waist, arms, thighs etc etc photos would also be useful

Step 2: What has happened to your weight while eating "normally" and exercising - option 1 : no change - reduce calories slightly/increase exercise
option 2: Loss - don't change anything option 3: Gain - see option 1

Repeat those steps over and over, be patient and give it 2 weeks before changing anything and don't change too dramatically. When you've reached your goal make sure to do the reverse back up.

@AlexisW
 
In my opinion, the amount of exercise isn't the problem. What, and how much that you are eating probably is. You must be eating too much of the wrong foods to put on 22 extra pounds in the first place. You simply count out exercise how much food you put in your mouth. Exercise is great, but not the main tool for losing weight. Changing your diet to mostly whole, natural, unprocessed foods is the ticket. Try it out!! Joel Fuhrman is the #1 expert in the world in my opinion. Read his book 'Eat to Live' and it will be utterly difficult to continue on your weight gaining spree. With all of his science and brutally honest information about food, I found it impossible to continue my bad habits and love affair with crappy food, it simply isn't worth sacrificing your health for the taste of stuff that really isn't food.
 
That's really good advice. Although exercise is very important to adjusting you body's composition, nutrition is about 30% more important in the long run to achieving weight loss goals.
 
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