Need to lose 112lbs

[ParrotGuy1993]

Hey so as you can see I need to lose a considerable amount of weight. Weight has always been an issue for me from a young age and I've never had the ability to lose it due to not being in the right mental state. I'm currently at 21st 4lbs and I am 6 2" My heaviest was about 24st but I'm not sure how I lost that 3 stone it just seemed to happen, I've currently been stable at this weight for a few years now.

Over the past few months since the new year I have been slowly making a change to a healthier lifestyle and changing my mind set. Since leaving university I have found my weight has been holding me back massively in my career (currently non existent) which disappoints me massively as I graduated at the top of my class and have always been incredibly good at what I do.

About 2 weeks ago I met someone online (and sort of have a crush) we both would really like to meet however I am very conscious about how our relationship may develop given my current weight. Even if it didn't bother them it affects my confidence so greatly I would never pursue anything further until I was more comfortable with myself.

Given also the situation with my career and my new interest in actually meeting someone (I've always been closed off from relationships due to being so self conscious) around 2 weeks ago I decide to go extremely healthy in an attempt to achieve the life I wanted to live, however I seem to be having an incredibly hard time.

I started the day with either a smoothie 50g blueberries 60g mix berries 150ml unsweetened almond milk 30g spinach and water - I believe that comes to about 120 calories or instead i'll have a bagel which comes to about 350 calories.

For lunch again i will either have the smoothie or the bagel depending on which i had in the morning or a plan chicken salad with no sauce (I'm not sure on the calories on this but it wouldn't be much as I really hate salad and couldn't eat much of it anyway!

For dinner i'll normally have one of 2 meals. A 2 egg frittata with mushrooms spinach pepper onion and cheese and ham all cleanly cooked, with nothing else or a chicken breast with a couple of slices of grilled cheese and just green veg.

As a treat I also have chocolate flavoured almond milk which is 60 calories per 100ml and may have around 200ml a day. (I had a HUGE chocolate issue which was the hardest thing for me to kick a couple months ago i was eating at least 500 calories of maltesers EVERY night without fail sometimes more, I realise how embarrassing that is to admit)

Other than that I drink water and some zero sugar soda

Now with the amount of weight I have to lose and how much healthier I am eating I had hoped to see some real positive results in the first week or two to keep me motivated to keep going however this has not been the case. In the 2 weeks I've lost 3lbs... I feel thats pretty terrible for the amount of food and i guess what i would consider the correct foods to eat... Plus i really hate eating these foods so its so much effort and I am not seeing any benefit. (before starting this diet I was eating terribly yes but I was pretty stable in my weight eating how I was)

Just wondered if there was any advise anyone could offer or at least a little motivation haha... I'm pretty serious about this as I want to be able to move on with my life and stop the weight and self confidence from holding me back.

Thank you for reading.

 

[jenergy17]

Hey Parrot guy,

Thank you for joining and writing about your journey and vision for yourself. I think the best advice I can give is to take this one day at a time. Set small goals and celebrate your small wins daily. By doing that your self-esteem will improve and you will start feeling better about yourself. The best thing you can do for yourself is start with someone as being consistent with getting enough water in daily. So maybe this coming week say to yourself, I"m really going to focus on water. And then each day track how much water you are getting. Maybe set up a reward at the end of the week for getting all the water in. (Make sure the reward is not food related) Start with small goals and add a new goal each week. Hope this helps!

 

[MiddleAgeSHRED]

Hi parrot guy and welcome!
For a bit of motivation and general advice I did a long (and slightly rambling post) here:
https://weight-loss.fitness.com/threads/my-transformation-pictures-story-and-tips.88117/
Maybe that will provide some general tips. So far as nutrition is concerned (because it's your nutrition not exercise that will determine your success) I would opt for a nutrition plan that's low sugar. The reason is that I think this is the best way to build positive new eating habits because you're forced to cut out crap completely to succeed. Others here will have different opinions, like fasting, paleo etc so check them all out and see which will be best for you. Remember the best diet is the one you can stick to, it's that simple ! So when you ask for some advice as you go, let people know what kind of plan you're following and then the advice will be tailored accordingly, especially when your re asking about things like like fruit. There's always lots of support on here so you're in the right place and I'll happily chip in with advice here and there. Given how much you're looking to lose I would suggest that (so long as you're medically able to do so), you make strength training a part of your life while you're losing weight, because you're trying to lose fat not muscle. Good luck buddy