Need some opinions!
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ChefChiTown
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Hey All,
So I'm not exactly sure where this post should have gone, so feel free to move it if I'm posting in the wrong place! Also, I apologize for the wall of text you will be hit with, I've tried to shorten as much as possible.
Now this isn't intended to be a self pity post, I'm just looking for some honest advice and opinions, hopefully from some people who have gone through similar situations.
I have been in a long distance relationship for 2 years in September, and to make it even more complicated, he is from the US and I am Canadian. We met in a painfully nerdy way (WoW lol) and while I considered myself someone who would NEVER consider meeting anyone online, we just clicked so quickly and strong I couldn't pass him up. In that time we've had our ups and downs, gotten to know and at least on my part, have gotten extremely attached. This is my 2nd time meeting him in person, the 1st time being this past march for a little over a week, where we shared (I thought) The most perfect week ever. I am here again spending the summer with him and we've run into some speed bumps.
At times, we have a seemingly perfect relationship. I feel live Ive found my best friend, I am so attracted to him physically as well as mentally it sometimes scares the crap out of me, and most of the time I feel he feels the same way too. Then there's the other side to our relationship which leaves me feeling confused, hurt, and extremely down on myself.
He has said to me before my weight is a problem for him.
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I stopped reading right there because I don't need to read anymore.
At first, I noticed that you mentioned you were in a long distance relationship. I too am in a long distance relationship (soon to be an "I-live-3-blocks-away-from-you-relationship"), so I thought I might be able offer up some advice. But, then I read that last sentence.
Anybody who says that your weight is a "problem" for them doesn't deserve your time. I could sit here and explain to you why, but you already know. He's shallow and is judging you for how you look. Move on. He doesn't deserve you.
imaninjadangit
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Chef and Monster are completely right. He doesn't deserve you.
When you are truly in love, and truly click, that attraction is automatic. I don't like super big guys....yet, I dated a guy for five years who was 350+. Why? To me, he was attractive.
If you are asking for this advice, then you know in your heart what the answer is. If you were meant to be together, then you wouldn't have to ask if you should be with him. Don't settle for something that you will regret later.
Oh, and 180 isn't big. He's blind. Plus, what happens if you get married and have kids? Will you starve yourself to not gain weight? Guys like that are idiots. Well...there are girls like that, too.
"Plaudite, amici, comedia finita est."
When you are truly in love, and truly click, that attraction is automatic. I don't like super big guys....yet, I dated a guy for five years who was 350+. Why? To me, he was attractive.
If you are asking for this advice, then you know in your heart what the answer is. If you were meant to be together, then you wouldn't have to ask if you should be with him. Don't settle for something that you will regret later.
Oh, and 180 isn't big. He's blind. Plus, what happens if you get married and have kids? Will you starve yourself to not gain weight? Guys like that are idiots. Well...there are girls like that, too.
"Plaudite, amici, comedia finita est."
San2
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I agree with everything that was said here. He doesn't deserve you, and you shouldn't let him play with you like this. He seems extremely superficial, basing his feelings towards you on looks rather than just accepting you for who you are.
You'll find somebody else who is mature and intelligent enough to see you as the beautiful person you are, and who won't hurt you by rejecting you because of a couple of extra lbs (and I mean that literally, since 180 lbs is hardly what I would call morbidly obese!). Move on. You're better than that.
You'll find somebody else who is mature and intelligent enough to see you as the beautiful person you are, and who won't hurt you by rejecting you because of a couple of extra lbs (and I mean that literally, since 180 lbs is hardly what I would call morbidly obese!). Move on. You're better than that.
Aimziepoo
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Thank you guys for taking the time to read and comment. Ive had the weekend to think and I'm leaning towards what you all are saying, and what I guess Ive felt all along.
These situations are never easy, but I'm thankful that there's places like this that you can come to for motivation/ support. =)
These situations are never easy, but I'm thankful that there's places like this that you can come to for motivation/ support. =)
When you said 'long distance' I thought you meant physical miles between you, not levels of maturity. You can do far, far, far better than him.
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