missblonde4878
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Okay, so I don't know how much sense this will all make..because I don't want to write a ten page essay on every detail - which I have a habit of doing. But I guess if there's questions, the details will just work themselves out.
My dad has been with his gf for a little over a year now. Her and I became very close - good friends, talked all the time, went out together, etc.
In November, my she got very drunk and left his brother's wedding reception after telling us all that she wanted to go home and sleep it off. Long story short, she didn't, she ended up going to another bar and drinking more - and my boyfriend and I had to hunt her down to get my cousin's bag out of her car. It was a big mess, my dad was upset that she lied, she was upset that he was upset, she was upset that I was upset..blah blah blah.
I thought that maybe the day after the wedding, she would have called and apologized for her behavior, but it didn't happen. After a week went by, no phone call, another week, no phone call.
I've gotten into a couple of arguments with my dad, because he feels that I should be the bigger person and call her and straighten this out. Initially, I was upset because of her behavior that night, but after three months and several arguments with my dad, it has hurt me that she has not called at all. My dad feels that we are both being stubborn and he doesn't want to get involved in "women problems". She feels that I was rude to her that night and that I need to call and apologize. Okay, HOW OLD ARE WE? Btw..she's 50.
Out of respect for her, I haven't told anyone else in my family what had happened. But, I've come to find out, that she has been running her mouth to everyone she can - giving them a skewed picture of what really happened and why we haven't talked.
It has caused an awkwardness between me and my dad because we don't hang out anymore, over Christmas, she wasn't at his house - whatever.
So, last Friday, my mom invited me to go to a restaurant/bar with her to have a fish sandwich. This is the local bar that my family hangs out at regularly..the bar that we used to hang out with my dad and his gf at. I agreed to going out, with the uneasiness of running into the gf. But I didn't care at this point. If it happens, it happens.
Well, Friday afternoon, my mom sat me down and said that she didn't feel right about "setting me up". She had talked to my dad's gf that morning and they came up with the plan together that her and I should just "run into each other" and work things out.
I became very upset - because I don't think that any of this should be discussed at a bar. I was upset that my mom was getting involved trying to play peacemaker - and in the end, decided on not going. My mom got upset, said she was just trying to help - and couldn't understand why I wouldn't talk to my dad's gf. All of a sudden, my mom is on her side. WTF?
So, I explained to my mom that when I am ready I will call my dad and have him get his gf over to his house and we can all sit down and talk.
But, should I just suck it up and call her? Am I being stubborn? I just don't think that I am in the wrong here...and I understand that his gf was trying to reach out to me through my mom, but c'mon, you're 50 years old. Be an adult and pick up the phone and apologize.
My dad has been with his gf for a little over a year now. Her and I became very close - good friends, talked all the time, went out together, etc.
In November, my she got very drunk and left his brother's wedding reception after telling us all that she wanted to go home and sleep it off. Long story short, she didn't, she ended up going to another bar and drinking more - and my boyfriend and I had to hunt her down to get my cousin's bag out of her car. It was a big mess, my dad was upset that she lied, she was upset that he was upset, she was upset that I was upset..blah blah blah.
I thought that maybe the day after the wedding, she would have called and apologized for her behavior, but it didn't happen. After a week went by, no phone call, another week, no phone call.
I've gotten into a couple of arguments with my dad, because he feels that I should be the bigger person and call her and straighten this out. Initially, I was upset because of her behavior that night, but after three months and several arguments with my dad, it has hurt me that she has not called at all. My dad feels that we are both being stubborn and he doesn't want to get involved in "women problems". She feels that I was rude to her that night and that I need to call and apologize. Okay, HOW OLD ARE WE? Btw..she's 50.
Out of respect for her, I haven't told anyone else in my family what had happened. But, I've come to find out, that she has been running her mouth to everyone she can - giving them a skewed picture of what really happened and why we haven't talked.
It has caused an awkwardness between me and my dad because we don't hang out anymore, over Christmas, she wasn't at his house - whatever.
So, last Friday, my mom invited me to go to a restaurant/bar with her to have a fish sandwich. This is the local bar that my family hangs out at regularly..the bar that we used to hang out with my dad and his gf at. I agreed to going out, with the uneasiness of running into the gf. But I didn't care at this point. If it happens, it happens.
Well, Friday afternoon, my mom sat me down and said that she didn't feel right about "setting me up". She had talked to my dad's gf that morning and they came up with the plan together that her and I should just "run into each other" and work things out.
I became very upset - because I don't think that any of this should be discussed at a bar. I was upset that my mom was getting involved trying to play peacemaker - and in the end, decided on not going. My mom got upset, said she was just trying to help - and couldn't understand why I wouldn't talk to my dad's gf. All of a sudden, my mom is on her side. WTF?
So, I explained to my mom that when I am ready I will call my dad and have him get his gf over to his house and we can all sit down and talk.
But, should I just suck it up and call her? Am I being stubborn? I just don't think that I am in the wrong here...and I understand that his gf was trying to reach out to me through my mom, but c'mon, you're 50 years old. Be an adult and pick up the phone and apologize.
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