ChefChiTown
New member
It was brought to my attention a few days ago by a member of this forum (via PM) that, just maybe, people on this forum think I'm an a**hole. It was brought to my attention that some members on this forum think I'm an immature, scumbag loser who does nothing but fight with people because I'm a pig headed a**hole. And, you know what? That’s fine. Not everybody in the world has to like me and not everybody in the world is going to. It’s unrealistic for anybody to think that every single person in the world is going to like them. So, it didn’t bother me to think that there are members on this forum who think I’m a d*ck.
What bothered me is that, when I talked about it with someone on this forum whom I trust and have deep respect for, they pretty much supported the fact that members here on this forum think I’m an a**hole. And, that made me realize...maybe I am an a**hole on this forum. That hurt. But, it also made me reflect. And, you know what? I can see why people on this forum might think I’m an a**hole. I can see why people on this forum might think I’m immature. I can see why people on this forum might think I’m an argumentative jerk.
I’ll admit – I can be an a**hole.
I’m a very straight forward and honest person. I don’t hold back. I just tell it how it is and I don’t utilize sugar coating when I speak. I can be quick with a come back and I can be harsh with words. I don’t beat around the bush; I just get to the point. Whether it’s sarcasm, factual information, opinion, feeling, or something insulting, I am a very blunt person. And, my blunt way of speaking can sometimes be viewed as being rude, disrespectful and even hurtful. And, I admit that I can be an a**hole. Sometimes, I say things to people that they don’t deserve to hear. And, that is rude of me. Very rude and very disrespectful. Sometimes, I go off on people who don’t necessarily deserve it either. And, I can completely understand why people on this forum think I’m a bad person because of it. I can completely understand why people on this forum think I’m an a**hole.
I’ll admit – I can be immature.
It’s no secret that I have said the word “weiner” about a million times since I’ve been a member here. I make immature jokes and comments on a regular basis and I know that some people find that offensive. I talk about weiners and farts and stupid crap that, I’m sure, most people don’t care to hear about. And, I can see why people on this forum think I’m immature and childish because of that. I can completely understand why people on this forum wouldn’t take me seriously.
I’ll admit – I can be argumentative.
I’m an argumentative person. It’s in my nature. And, when I argue, I know that people don’t always like it. I get into a lot of debates and arguments, not just on this forum, but in real life as well. I’m a talkative person who likes to express his opinion. But, the difference between me and most people who express their opinion is that I have a hair trigger. And, I go off rather easily. I’ll admit, I argue too much. I get into too many arguments with people, especially on this forum. And, I can completely understand why people might not want to respond to things I say, because they probably don’t want to deal with the backlash and argument they would get in return. And, you know what? I don’t blame them. I wouldn’t want that either. I’m a very argumentative person and I can completely understand why nobody wants to get involved in a conversation with me.
I am humbly apologetic for my poor behavior on this forum and I genuinely apologize to anybody I may have offended, hurt or disrespected. I accept and admit that I have been a complete a**hole. I accept and admit that I have shown signs of immaturity. I accept and admit that I have argued with people and gone off on them without warrant. And, I am sincerely sorry for my behavior.
Keep in mind – you don’t know me. All you see is what you want to see. All you see is the negatives. All you see is the most recent of my posts and all you focus on is the most recent of things I have said. Admittedly, most of those things make me seem like a bad person. But, I assure you, I’m not.
For every immature comment I have made on this forum, there are dozens of heartfelt, thoughtful, serious and emotional thoughts I have shared. For every argument I have started on this forum, there are dozens of posts where I have been supportive and comforting to members of this forum. And, for every time I have been a complete a**hole on this forum, there are dozens of times where I have been extremely respectful toward members of this forum and to people (groups and individuals) as a whole. But, you don’t see that. All you see is the bad stuff. But, I assure you, that bad stuff only makes up an extremely small portion of my whole personality.
When I first joined this forum, I made it a point to be a contributing member of this weight loss community. I started a contest, made a bunch of friends, regularly posted in other members’ journals to lend support, advice and comfort. I used to stay in contact with members of this forum via e-mail, instant messaging and the telephone. I used to be supportive. I used to be helpful. I used to put in effort to put a little bit of hope and sunshine into other peoples’ lives. I used to be someone that I was proud of. Now? Now I’m just a d*ck.
So, just realize that your judgments, as warranted as they are, are not a judgment of my true character or my true person. Rather, they are a judgment of my recent behavior. If you would give me a chance, you would see that I'm actually a good person to have in your corner. Hopefully, you give me that chance.
Anyway, I just wanted to apologize to anybody I may have offended on this forum. I’m sorry. And, just as I am working to better myself in real life, I will also work on bettering myself here on the forum. The old Chef was fun, funny, supportive, caring, helpful and he was willing to reach out to lend a helping hand. The new Chef is just an a**hole. So, I need to change. I need to get that old Chef back. I like him better anyway.
This is a weight loss community and we are all here for one reason and one reason alone – to get healthy. When I first joined this forum, my goal was to get healthy while, at the same time, helping others to achieve the same goal. That’s what this forum needs. This forums needs members to support and help each other – not argue with and insult one another. Admittedly, I have lost track of that goal. But, I have regained my vision and I will no longer serve as a distraction. Instead, I will go back to being the person I was when I first joined this forum – a friend.
Thanks for your time.
What bothered me is that, when I talked about it with someone on this forum whom I trust and have deep respect for, they pretty much supported the fact that members here on this forum think I’m an a**hole. And, that made me realize...maybe I am an a**hole on this forum. That hurt. But, it also made me reflect. And, you know what? I can see why people on this forum might think I’m an a**hole. I can see why people on this forum might think I’m immature. I can see why people on this forum might think I’m an argumentative jerk.
I’ll admit – I can be an a**hole.
I’m a very straight forward and honest person. I don’t hold back. I just tell it how it is and I don’t utilize sugar coating when I speak. I can be quick with a come back and I can be harsh with words. I don’t beat around the bush; I just get to the point. Whether it’s sarcasm, factual information, opinion, feeling, or something insulting, I am a very blunt person. And, my blunt way of speaking can sometimes be viewed as being rude, disrespectful and even hurtful. And, I admit that I can be an a**hole. Sometimes, I say things to people that they don’t deserve to hear. And, that is rude of me. Very rude and very disrespectful. Sometimes, I go off on people who don’t necessarily deserve it either. And, I can completely understand why people on this forum think I’m a bad person because of it. I can completely understand why people on this forum think I’m an a**hole.
I’ll admit – I can be immature.
It’s no secret that I have said the word “weiner” about a million times since I’ve been a member here. I make immature jokes and comments on a regular basis and I know that some people find that offensive. I talk about weiners and farts and stupid crap that, I’m sure, most people don’t care to hear about. And, I can see why people on this forum think I’m immature and childish because of that. I can completely understand why people on this forum wouldn’t take me seriously.
I’ll admit – I can be argumentative.
I’m an argumentative person. It’s in my nature. And, when I argue, I know that people don’t always like it. I get into a lot of debates and arguments, not just on this forum, but in real life as well. I’m a talkative person who likes to express his opinion. But, the difference between me and most people who express their opinion is that I have a hair trigger. And, I go off rather easily. I’ll admit, I argue too much. I get into too many arguments with people, especially on this forum. And, I can completely understand why people might not want to respond to things I say, because they probably don’t want to deal with the backlash and argument they would get in return. And, you know what? I don’t blame them. I wouldn’t want that either. I’m a very argumentative person and I can completely understand why nobody wants to get involved in a conversation with me.
I am humbly apologetic for my poor behavior on this forum and I genuinely apologize to anybody I may have offended, hurt or disrespected. I accept and admit that I have been a complete a**hole. I accept and admit that I have shown signs of immaturity. I accept and admit that I have argued with people and gone off on them without warrant. And, I am sincerely sorry for my behavior.
Keep in mind – you don’t know me. All you see is what you want to see. All you see is the negatives. All you see is the most recent of my posts and all you focus on is the most recent of things I have said. Admittedly, most of those things make me seem like a bad person. But, I assure you, I’m not.
For every immature comment I have made on this forum, there are dozens of heartfelt, thoughtful, serious and emotional thoughts I have shared. For every argument I have started on this forum, there are dozens of posts where I have been supportive and comforting to members of this forum. And, for every time I have been a complete a**hole on this forum, there are dozens of times where I have been extremely respectful toward members of this forum and to people (groups and individuals) as a whole. But, you don’t see that. All you see is the bad stuff. But, I assure you, that bad stuff only makes up an extremely small portion of my whole personality.
When I first joined this forum, I made it a point to be a contributing member of this weight loss community. I started a contest, made a bunch of friends, regularly posted in other members’ journals to lend support, advice and comfort. I used to stay in contact with members of this forum via e-mail, instant messaging and the telephone. I used to be supportive. I used to be helpful. I used to put in effort to put a little bit of hope and sunshine into other peoples’ lives. I used to be someone that I was proud of. Now? Now I’m just a d*ck.
So, just realize that your judgments, as warranted as they are, are not a judgment of my true character or my true person. Rather, they are a judgment of my recent behavior. If you would give me a chance, you would see that I'm actually a good person to have in your corner. Hopefully, you give me that chance.
Anyway, I just wanted to apologize to anybody I may have offended on this forum. I’m sorry. And, just as I am working to better myself in real life, I will also work on bettering myself here on the forum. The old Chef was fun, funny, supportive, caring, helpful and he was willing to reach out to lend a helping hand. The new Chef is just an a**hole. So, I need to change. I need to get that old Chef back. I like him better anyway.
This is a weight loss community and we are all here for one reason and one reason alone – to get healthy. When I first joined this forum, my goal was to get healthy while, at the same time, helping others to achieve the same goal. That’s what this forum needs. This forums needs members to support and help each other – not argue with and insult one another. Admittedly, I have lost track of that goal. But, I have regained my vision and I will no longer serve as a distraction. Instead, I will go back to being the person I was when I first joined this forum – a friend.
Thanks for your time.
