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zebrasinamerica

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Ok, so my fiance just left me as we were about to start planning for the wedding but that's enough of my pitty party. My real question is how can I motivate myself to get out and do something. I can barley eat, I can't sleep through the night and just simply put I can barley function. I don't drink none of my friends live around me anymore and I just can't get out and do anything. I really want to start riding my bike again and I would really appreciate any words of encouragment or anything that you think would be appropriate.

Thank you

Zebra
 
better to have her leave now - than after the wedding when you might be on the hook for alimony division of assets and that crap :) Cheering people up I kinda suck at... sorry.

What part of the world do you live in? Is the weather ok enough to get out of the house and go for a short ride? Just hop on your bike and go.

Get you out meeting people - check for bike clubs in your area and you'll maybe meet some other folks.

It's not total exercise related but look into volunteering your time to do good - it's a commitment so you have to do it -and yu'll feel pretty good aboout yourself - look at the big brother's program and you could have a kid to pal around with and bike around with.
 
zebrasinamerica said:
Ok, so my fiance just left me as we were about to start planning for the wedding but that's enough of my pitty party. My real question is how can I motivate myself to get out and do something. I can barley eat, I can't sleep through the night and just simply put I can barley function. I don't drink none of my friends live around me anymore and I just can't get out and do anything. I really want to start riding my bike again and I would really appreciate any words of encouragment or anything that you think would be appropriate.

Thank you

Zebra
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I am really really sorry for your loss..and your hurting..

But ya gotta walk to the front door.. right now.. stick your head out..and let all the air out of your lungs..and take the deepest beathe you can.. take in that fresh air.. listen to the noise.. You have to get out of the house..and enjoy the outside air..and noises..and when ya can get past that.. pull your bike out, and start peddaling..and taking in deep breaths of the fresh air.. :rolleyes:
 
Thanks, yeah I guess I just need to take a deep breath and move on with my life. I am so willing to just wait around for her to come back and say she made a mistake but I guess that wouldn't really be in my best interests right now. It is supposed to rain tomorrow so I may take the bicycle out for a spin in the rain if it's not too severe, a rain ride always seems to clear my mind better than a normal one.

Thanks again

Zebra
 
Trouble In Mind

Do that - ride the bike - a strong physical response to a heart breaking situation is good - then do it the next day and the next and make it a habit until something changes in your awareness of life and the meaning of what just happened and you suddenly break out a smile and say, "Okay, what's next? Life is good!"

Advice is easy to give - find your way and make it a great life! The best to you.

Mitch
 
zebrasinamerica said:
Thanks, yeah I guess I just need to take a deep breath and move on with my life. I am so willing to just wait around for her to come back and say she made a mistake but I guess that wouldn't really be in my best interests right now. It is supposed to rain tomorrow so I may take the bicycle out for a spin in the rain if it's not too severe, a rain ride always seems to clear my mind better than a normal one.

Thanks again

Zebra
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That right there should be enough motivation for you. Make her realize that she made a mistake and use that as motivation for her to notice. I'm terribly sorry for the situation in which you are in and I hope things get better <3
 
i have been in your situation, i didnt eat for an entire week. i was depressed. I found the best solution is to find friends and just go out, meet other people. Even though i did that i found it hard to eat, i would only drink water. After a week, i forced myself to eat a small salad, and thats how i began eating again. Unfortunately it took a tole on me and i gained double what i lost, so now im trying to loose the weight in a healthy way.
 
I'm so sorry this has happened to you.

I understand the situation is difficult, but the fact is there is nothing you can do to immediately change it. Things work out the way they are supposed to, so whatever is meant to be will be. Maybe a short while from now you will realize that this was the best thing to ever happen to you! Or maybe you will reconcile and things will work out. Either way, you have to out your own happiness first. The only way of doing that is to get out and make it happen.

I'm sure a ride on your bike will make a huge difference for you!! It will be hard at first, but the more active you become, the easier it will become. You will probably have to force yourself at first, but it will only get easier with time.
 
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