Men and Hot Women...

daiseeangel

daiseeangel

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What is it with men and hot women?!?!

I am just a tad bit frustrated right now, if you can't tell! :) :rolleyes:

Now don't get me wrong, I love my boyfriend more than anything in this world, but sometimes he is just the "typical male". :rolleyes:

I know all men have an appreciation for hot women, just like I have an appreciation for hot males, but sometimes he is just so irritating. He has posters of these really good looking celebrities in his back workout room. On his computer, he has a very scantilly clad Scarlett Johansson as his desktop. During a movie yesterday, he felt the need to say "damn!" out loud at a hot chick. He added a hot girl from this Raider (he's a HUGE Raider fan!) group on MySpace as his friend. :rolleyes: I know it's not a big deal, but sometimes it makes me feel inadequate. He tells me I'm pretty all the time, but I know I will always be "pretty"... never "damn"! I know I can never reach those standards, and sometimes that just brings me down. When I say this, he always reminds me of how I find other guys attractive and that he will never look like Brad Pitt either.

I know I sound so petty right now, but it's just annoying.

Feel free to tell me to get over it!! I can take it, and I might possibly need it! :eek:
 
there's fantasy women and real women - you're real - the other women are just fantasy and a little fantasy is healthy...

He tells you that you are pretty and that's a beautiful thing... he appreciates you for you and sees you as the real woman in his life... the others are just fantasy - don't compare yourself to them - he's not... and don't feel threated by them - he's not comparing you.
 
aww... see, that's exactly what i was talking about. you have no idea how much better you just made me feel!

Man, I LOVE this place!!! :)
 
Maybe you can pull a Ross and Rachel and dress up as a slinky Raiders Cheerleader and have ummm...some fun. :wink:
 
Meh, I work around 20 women on a weekly basis, all college age and they're worse than guys. My other job, I work around all guys, all week and the only time its brought up is when the occasional girl comes to our department.

Girls will bring up their favorite actors, singers and even hottest co-workers for no reason. Ive never walked up to another guy and started talking about the hottest girl, just doesn't happen.

Although i'll take credit for a few "Look at that ass" and the occasional yell into a crowd of "Show us your tits!".:p
 
^^ You yell that at women? Goodness.

I don't know what to say to the OP. My personal opinion is one of horror. I would feel completely inadequate and quite undesirable if my fiance was interested in pictures of other women or staring them down in person/public. Celebrity, animation, stranger, friend or otherwise. My fiance respects me by keeping his focus and attraction on me alone and I do likewise for him. It's not really a problem or something we "try" to do - we love each other and remain exclusive in our relationship.

And daiseeangel! I just want to encourage you not to compare yourself with other women. *smile* You are who you are and no one else is you. That may sound shallow and worthless but it's true and there is no comparison for a unique individual.
 
see, i see both sides of the stick.

i understand you i wear his ring, but i also understand that just because we are in a relationship doesn't mean that we automatically put up blinders that don't allow us to see that someone else is attractive.

i don't know. but there is no doubt in my mind that he loves me and only me... it just is annoying at times. but i do really like the way maleficent worded her response. there are real women and fantasy women... i am 100% real! :)

thank you for your kind words and responses!!! :)
 
My mom has a saying she uses to describe exactly this...

"Just because you have already ordered your meal, doesn't mean you can't continue to look over the menu" ;)

My husband and I take that approach, plus, neither of us has any problem acknowledging people of the same sex as attractive (hell, scarlett johansen is hot, i admit it!).

The key is being comfortable in your own skin and with your relationship. Sounds like he definitely is in the relationship with you for you, so even if he admires other girls, I wouldn't worry over it, but also, if it truly bugs you, maybe mention that if he could admire a bit more quietly, that would be really swell :D
 
daiseeangel said:
What is it with men and hot women?!?!

I am just a tad bit frustrated right now, if you can't tell! :) :rolleyes:

Now don't get me wrong, I love my boyfriend more than anything in this world, but sometimes he is just the "typical male". :rolleyes:

I know all men have an appreciation for hot women, just like I have an appreciation for hot males, but sometimes he is just so irritating. He has posters of these really good looking celebrities in his back workout room. On his computer, he has a very scantilly clad Scarlett Johansson as his desktop. During a movie yesterday, he felt the need to say "damn!" out loud at a hot chick. He added a hot girl from this Raider (he's a HUGE Raider fan!) group on MySpace as his friend. :rolleyes: I know it's not a big deal, but sometimes it makes me feel inadequate. He tells me I'm pretty all the time, but I know I will always be "pretty"... never "damn"! I know I can never reach those standards, and sometimes that just brings me down. When I say this, he always reminds me of how I find other guys attractive and that he will never look like Brad Pitt either.

I know I sound so petty right now, but it's just annoying.

Feel free to tell me to get over it!! I can take it, and I might possibly need it! :eek:
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Timeout, Timeout...how the hell did my g/f find this place online? ;)

Seriously, she always calls me the "typical male" when I make certain comments. I don't mean to be though :(
 
hahaha, orleans link! too funny.

well i'm glad to hear mine isn't the only one! :)
 
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