Hi, my name is Amber, and I am new to this site. I'm 18 and currently enrolled in college. I have realized I have made a huge mistake by rooming with my best friend of 6 yrs. She is the world's skinniest roomate and has lately been making disparaging hurtful comments about my weight. It has been depressing me lately. Fortunately though I stumbled onto this website, and already I feel motivated. I can't wait to start talking to you guys and making friends with those of you who can relate to me. I feel like I just need support from somewhere since I can't get it from my best friend. I have finally decided to knuckle down because her last comment was really hurtful. I'm hoping to gain a great number of friends, and support through this website. I look forward to meeting all of you.
Looking for support and Motivation....
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dreamtobethin
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hey
There are two ways to looking at the situation you are in:
1. Your friend is trying to tell you all this just to hurt you and to make you feel low.
2. She really cares for you and is trying the negative way of motivating you; and see with you taking this step and trying to get back to her she is successful in her attempt.
I can relate to your situation and the reason is that the person i plan to marry and have been in love for 7 years is the same way; he tries and motivates me positvely; negatively; with remarks; i used to feel hurt just like you but then decided I am going to make a change when I lost 35 pounds while he was away he was the happiest person on earth; only people who love you or care for you will tell you so; maybe you mean a lot to your friend and she knows how very much you want to loose weight.
I know a lot of people say that if the person is treating you like this you should not be with him/her; but I definetely feel that is not true; because what does the other person get by making you feel low. I truly believe that people who love you and want you to be successful will only go to these lengths.
Stay motivated; and you have all my support in doing so.
S.W: 182
C.W: 164 (gained 10 pounds :-()
G.W: 120
There are two ways to looking at the situation you are in:
1. Your friend is trying to tell you all this just to hurt you and to make you feel low.
2. She really cares for you and is trying the negative way of motivating you; and see with you taking this step and trying to get back to her she is successful in her attempt.
I can relate to your situation and the reason is that the person i plan to marry and have been in love for 7 years is the same way; he tries and motivates me positvely; negatively; with remarks; i used to feel hurt just like you but then decided I am going to make a change when I lost 35 pounds while he was away he was the happiest person on earth; only people who love you or care for you will tell you so; maybe you mean a lot to your friend and she knows how very much you want to loose weight.
I know a lot of people say that if the person is treating you like this you should not be with him/her; but I definetely feel that is not true; because what does the other person get by making you feel low. I truly believe that people who love you and want you to be successful will only go to these lengths.
Stay motivated; and you have all my support in doing so.
S.W: 182
C.W: 164 (gained 10 pounds :-()
G.W: 120
elizab3th
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That's great that you joined us here! It was the best decision I ever made. Maybe you should tell your friend that her comments really are hurtful - I know what it's like.. after I had my baby I was the fat one while my friends were so skinny, and you're always uncomfortable around them all the time. Your friend may not know that her comments are being taken that badly, give her the benefit of the doubt - you guys have been friends for a long time. She probably doesn't mean to sound so rude - being thin all her life.. she wouldn't know what it feels like. Trust me, I know! You will do awesome on here... if you ever need someone to talk to PM me anytime, the name's Liz and I'm 18 also. What lots of people have here is their very own journal! Start one - then you can record things such as what you're eating.. or maybe just how you feel or whatever you like - whatever is a motivation for you! I've been on here for 1 week and lost more than I expected already! You can do it too - I believe you can, you just have to believe in yourself also!
Cheers!
Cheers!
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redneckwoman66
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Welcome To Our Forum And I Know We Can Help You So That You Can Do It! We Know You Can!
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wonderwoman
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i'm sorry your friend is hurting your feelings like that! she may be trying to help, but it sure isnt a very nice way to go about it. you can turn this around and make it work for you! turn those hurt feelings into MOTIVATION and it will get you to a better place within a few months. start a diary in the diary section so we can get a good idea of what your habits are and try to help you get going in the right direction. college can be tough as far as junk food/alcohol etc. but you can do it and we are here to help! 
christinanva
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Just wanted to welcome you to the fourm! I love your quote! I used to have that on another forum I used to go too!
astigmatistic
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Hi welcome, I am new here too. I would talk to your friend, and let her know how she is making you feel. Maybe she's doing it without realizing.
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