Is online stuff cheating?

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Just wondering everyones opinion on this. I have read many threads about this topic on other boards.

IMO it isnt if you are just there for the fun of it..not making an emotional connection with someone.

I see no harm in chatting or camming with someone online if its only for that one time...what about you!!!
 
hahaha............well of course you would say that!!! but would your mrs agree?? :D

or to put it another way...if you found out your wife was getting busy camming/chatting with someone would you be ok with it??

i've had a bit of experience with online 'stuff' when i got to know someone from a different forum...but no didn't/don't do camming!!! in my experience its always the ones who turn out to be married that want more...want to chat more....want to 'just' meet up for coffee etc....ok maybe had more than one online thing...in my defence it was just a phase.......i'm a very very good girl now...well at the moment!! ;)

anyway...flirty online fun can get quite blummin time consuming!!!! & from my experience....its men who always want to carry on chatting & want to try to get to know you more blahblahblah...after the good stuffs over!!! hahaha....i had the same sort of problem when i did the phone sex thing...i'd be like ok thanks for that BYE...& they'd be all oh don't you want to talk more??? hmmmmm no..............btw before i make myself sound like a complete harlot LOL the flirty chatting online (IM) & the phone sex was with two same guys that i met on a forum...they didn't know i was chatting/having phone sex with the two of the them at the same time...the one time i've done any kind of overlapping in 'r/ships'!! but it wasn't 'real' so didn't count!!! plus my sex drought was really getting to me at the time...one turned out to be married & was always trying to get me to meet him...so ended that...the other one got a bit stalkerish when i told him didn't want to chat off the forum anymore as he'd started phoning me ALL the friggin time...so left the forum....& got myself a rabbit instead...well it keeps me out of trouble :Angel_anim:

if i was with someone though i would consider it cheating...& it would definitely make me rethink the r/ship...as just by looking for something outside of the r/ship even if it is 'only' online...your showing that you feel theres something lacking in the r/ship anyway. of course i'm assuming as you mentioned camming you really only mean the naughty stuff!!! chatting being a little flirty with someone online is ok (but like i say married ppl who do that are usually looking for more really). i've met a couple of ppl in RL through that (yrs ago...i even met & married someone from match.com..........something i hate admitting even now!!! though its in a post on here already somewhere)

i've known women to do it too...& to be really looking for 'something else' but far more men overall...as a rule of thumb...don't do anything you wouldn't want your partner to do with someone else either...& don't assume they don't know what you're doing or assume that they never would...if you are!!!finally...as the old saying goes....if you can't be good be very very careful!!!
 
Without getting into absolutes of ethics, I would suspect if you feel like you have to hide it or lie about it to your significant other, then yes it's cheating.
 
i agree w/ both kara and wishes.

if you're hiding it from your significant other, then you obviously know there's a problem there and that if they knew they'd be upset about it.

in some ways, i think an emotional affair is far WORSE that a physical affair. you can have a physical affair without emotions behind it, like a friends w/ benefits, no strings attached...but if it's an emotional affair it's far more complicated. it's hard to explain...the thoughts are in my hard, but it's difficult to put into words that make sense.
 
If it's something that you hide from your significant other, it's cheating. BUT... fucking someone else is the ultimate cheat. I think I could forgive just about anything else.
 
If you have to go online for stuff like that, apparently you feel you're not getting it at home from your wife/girlfriend. Which would make me question the relationship.

That said, I wouldn't have a problem if my husband was chatting with somebody else, even doing the camera thing, but ONLY if I know about it. If he went behind my back, the relationship would be over.
 
If it's something you wouldn't tell your partner or wouldn't want them to know about, then it's cheating. It's really that simple!
 
while i agree that it is cheating...the point is the OP said specifically that he does not want an emotional connection. if someone says they are into camming believe me they do not mean they like to get to know ppl that way...its usually far more along the lines of you show me yours/i'll show you mine. like i said i don't do camming never have but i have been asked to do it.
 
i dated a guy years ago who did the whole video thing, he used to get off on it somewhat. It was great when i got to blackmail him with it a year later when he told his next girlfriend a bunch of lies about me and made himself out to be all innocent.
I did tell her he was a cam whore and what he did for fun, but she didnt believe me, so really its her fault i had to send her the video to prove it :D
 
funnily enough, the guy was a 30yo virgin, and he had a thing for fat chicks , the chick he ended up with was about 400-500lb , and very proud of it (think boned strapless top, short skirt, and her fat glistening with sparkley stuff)
 
wishes said:
i dated a guy years ago who did the whole video thing, he used to get off on it somewhat. It was great when i got to blackmail him with it a year later when he told his next girlfriend a bunch of lies about me and made himself out to be all innocent.
I did tell her he was a cam whore and what he did for fun, but she didnt believe me, so really its her fault i had to send her the video to prove it :D
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cam whore??! :smilielol5::smilielol5:

oh so glad you kept the evidence as he sounds a bit of a creep...you're better off!! in my experience ppl with something to hide are always very good at convincing ppl they are innocent...they've had so much bloody practice at being sneaky & lying!!! i had something happen a few yrs ago that was extremely icky & shocking to have to deal with...but like you i had evidence & the b*stard couldn't get away with his twisted lies...it was ex husband no.3...sooooo bad it prompted my man break....that once i put on weight & had finn to look after took on a whole life of its own....but this is the summer to shake my weight off (i'm about to have a little bounce on my trampoline!!) & end my man/sex drought!! even though i started the break b/c of him etc it never put me off men AT ALL....love them...its just the creeps can't stand!!!
 
wishes said:
funnily enough, the guy was a 30yo virgin, and he had a thing for fat chicks , the chick he ended up with was about 400-500lb , and very proud of it (think boned strapless top, short skirt, and her fat glistening with sparkley stuff)
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ah well each to their own i guess...for both of them!! :D
 
Too me it isnt any different than watching a porn...you chat...get off...go your seperate ways. I have done the online thing and never talked to that person again.

Too me that isnt cheating...like I said no different than watching porn.
 
Happy Cdn Guy said:
Too me it isnt any different than watching a porn...you chat...get off...go your seperate ways. I have done the online thing and never talked to that person again.

Too me that isnt cheating...like I said no different than watching porn.
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hmmmmm never thought about it like THAT...as porn!! LOL

at the end of the day if no ones getting hurt then theres no problem i suppose....except of course if your mrs finds out & she doesn't agree!!!

but all credit to you for coming back to the thread as don't think anyone agreed with your POV...or maybe some did but they just didn't want to say they did!! IYKWIM :)
 
It's only cheating if you get caught.
 
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