I'm new, and I need motivation.

[Fitmom2520]

Hello, new to the site. My name is Samantha. I'm a wife, mother of 2, and I'm very overweight. I wasn't always big growing up, but I wasn't small. At my healthiest, I was 155lbs(5 ft 6in). My children will be 5 and 3 in the fall. I currently weigh in at 255.8lbs and can't stand to see myself in the mirror. I can't blame anyone but myself, but I have always made excuses. My favorite one being "I have 2 small children". i have tried multiple times since my youngest was born to lose weight, none of my attempts were successful. I don't have the power to say "no" when it comes to sweets and fast food. I love my husband, but he's not the most encouraging. And by that, I mean he doesn't help me stick to my lifestyle changes. He can eat all day, not gain a pound. I smell food and gain 5 pounds. I've tried having talks with him about how important it is for my physical (and mental) health. He doesn't do it to be a bad man or anything, but doesn't want to deny me of the things that I love(which are all bad for me). I need encouragement to do better by my eating, and to continue to exercise daily. I started Cize, and I'm having a hard time trying to keep up. I'm desperate to lose my 100lbs, not for myself, but for my girls.

 

[JamieAlison]

Risk of death. No really. The older you get, the more health issues you have the more you weigh. Diabetes. Stroke. Heart attack. It is not worth it. No matter how delicious a meal is. Also in Hollywood you are type cast for fat roles. This does not mean you have to be a size 2 but 100 lbs overweight is obese, not thick, fluffy or whatever crazy adjective you want to use. I'm very happy that you realize you need to lose weight, you just need that extra push. Diets don't work, you need to make LIFESTYLE changes, so you keep the weight off permanently. You don't need to do massive amounts of cardio everyday to lose weight, start small and move yourself up or you WILL lose motivation and just stop.

I recommend 30 minute walk every day after a meal, when this gets easier than UP your workout/exercise. Hope this helps.

 

[Miss Fit]

Hi, Samantha! I'm wondering if you can sit and have a serious talk with your husband about how you need his encouragement and really would like to make this lifestyle change. Tell him it's something that's crucially important to you, and I'll bet he listens.

Avoiding junk food can be really hard at first, and it's still hard for me if I have it in the house. I've decided that I can't buy the crappy food and keep it around anymore. My old excuse used to be, "well, my kids are missing out on snack foods!" - but that's absolutely not true. I was doing my children a disservice feeding them unhealthy junk, and now they eat fruits and veggies as snacks instead of cookies, candy, and chips. They haven't complained once. Maybe you can try not having the junk food in the house? I've set aside one day out of the week that I'm more lenient than the rest - this allows me to bake cookies with the kids, go out to eat, or make a really decadent home-cooked meal for my husband, and I don't feel guilty when it falls on this one day, and it's been working alright so far.

I'm not a success story, I can't tell you I've lost 100 lbs or anything like that, but I hope to get there someday. I can just tell you we're here to motivate each other, and you can do it! I have been losing weight steadily every week since I started keeping a diary here, and it is only because I changed my diet. In the future I want to implement working out, sure, but I knew I could only be successful if I made small changes and maintained them for at least a month before moving on to the next step. I hope these words help - do not give up! I am just like you and know how hard it is, it almost seems impossible, but we can do it.

 

[Allison Kodama]

Hello, new to the site. My name is Samantha. I'm a wife, mother of 2, and I'm very overweight. I wasn't always big growing up, but I wasn't small. At my healthiest, I was 155lbs(5 ft 6in). My children will be 5 and 3 in the fall. I currently weigh in at 255.8lbs and can't stand to see myself in the mirror. I can't blame anyone but myself, but I have always made excuses. My favorite one being "I have 2 small children". i have tried multiple times since my youngest was born to lose weight, none of my attempts were successful. I don't have the power to say "no" when it comes to sweets and fast food. I love my husband, but he's not the most encouraging. And by that, I mean he doesn't help me stick to my lifestyle changes. He can eat all day, not gain a pound. I smell food and gain 5 pounds. I've tried having talks with him about how important it is for my physical (and mental) health. He doesn't do it to be a bad man or anything, but doesn't want to deny me of the things that I love(which are all bad for me). I need encouragement to do better by my eating, and to continue to exercise daily. I started Cize, and I'm having a hard time trying to keep up. I'm desperate to lose my 100lbs, not for myself, but for my girls.

Hey Samantha, great job on wanting to be a bit more healthy. Start by walking outside for 1o minutes, then add five minutes every couple days until you reach 30 minutes a day, including weekends. Just start with that. You can do it!
It will become fun for you. I've been having fun with my 30-day challenge that started 9 days ago. Been posting a video every day to my Facebook profile to keep me on track. F-U-N! You can do it! ~ Allison Kodama

 

[Son_of_Zeus]

Samantha,
3 things you can start doing right now, EVERYDAY as we speak, to start the weight loss process. 1) Walk for 30 minutes everyday. And I mean EVERYDAY. Don't worry about jogging, or speed walking, or breaking a sweat. Just walk. Steady pace. Listen to music while you walk. Take someone with you and enjoy conversation. But do NOT walk at night by yourself. Do NOT walk in bad weather. And do NOT walk in isolated places. But commit to walking EVERYDAY. Simple, right?
2) Include 1 healthy meal to your daily diet. Just ONE. Not 3, or 5, or 6. Just ONE. As time passes your tastebuds will start to crave the healthy meal and as soon as you know it you'll have a full days menu of healthy food. Don't cut out any foods. Don't worry about what your meals look like before and after you eat this healthy meal. This is an addition, not a subtraction of food. Make sure that your healthy meal include a high source of protein, HEALTHY fats and fiber. If you're gonna do carbs make sure they're complex carbs (brown rice, quinoa) instead of simple carbs.
3) Drink 1 full glass, which equals 2 cups, of water 30 minutes before every meals. This will help you clear the pipes and will speed up the weight loss process. Water consumption is very underrated when many think about weight loss. But it works. You can drink it plainly or add lemon to it. But make sure you drink it 30 minutes before EVERY meal. Not just before your healthy meal. After EVERY meal.
Once you get into the habit of doing these three simple, cost effective things we'll talk about resistance training (lifting weights).
As far as your husbands support, please understand what I'm about to say: LET IT GO. Do NOT expect, or force, your husband to engage in the same diet and fitness plan you decide to follow. Why? Because he didn't choose this. YOU did. Think about this. Would it be fair to your husband if you decided to go to college but forced him to do your homework? Of course it would be unfair. It's the same with losing weight. Besides, I bet he says encouraging things to you. I bet he cheers you on. But, he doesn't have to DO it with you. If he decides to still eat junk, let him. If he decides not to walk with you, that's ok. Do not measure his love for you based on his decision to participate in your weight loss plan with you or not. It was NOT his choice. It's yours. So, try this: instead of asking for his SUPPORT (which I'm sure he gives you), ask him to help you remain ACOUNTABLE to your decision to lose weight. This means that he shouldn't let you get away with making excuses for not following your fitness plan. But please do not feel as though your husband doesn't love you or support you just because he decides to eat fast food or skip your morning, or afternoon walk. This was never his choice, therefore, he is not accountable. Talk soon!

 

[TanTanya]

Same here.. need motivation. Does anyone have experience with weight loss books?

 

[Igor Kaplunov]

Almost 2 months since I started dieting . If you need help contact me

 

[tspot]

Hi samantha . I am also new and trying to lose quite a bit of weight after children. It is so hard!!!! BUT you got this OK? We can be healthier for our kids to make sure we are always here for our kids ! I plan on playing tag with my kids this summer and not being immediately out of breath . What would you like to be able to do with your girls ? I have had a lot of failed attempts at this ( a lot of giving up after a day ....or an hour ) but it is really just trying to get the small steps under control instead of looking at the big overwhelming picture . I have started walking for 20-30 minutes a night on the treadmill and just by doing that my eating started to get better too . Do you think the same might be a good option for you ?

 

[Igor Kaplunov]

Hi samantha . I am also new and trying to lose quite a bit of weight after children. It is so hard!!!! BUT you got this OK? We can be healthier for our kids to make sure we are always here for our kids ! I plan on playing tag with my kids this summer and not being immediately out of breath . What would you like to be able to do with your girls ? I have had a lot of failed attempts at this ( a lot of giving up after a day ....or an hour ) but it is really just trying to get the small steps under control instead of looking at the big overwhelming picture . I have started walking for 20-30 minutes a night on the treadmill and just by doing that my eating started to get better too . Do you think the same might be a good option for you ?

I can help you . We can chat over here or skype . I will answer any questions you have and I can tell you something that will make you happy with your current goal . Makes me so happy to see people with goals and visions like yours . Of course this is for anybody reading this .