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wendieann

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:( Everyday is the same thing... the excuses I come up with...

I never, ever believed I would have a hard time losing weight. I don't have the ambition. I am always hungry.

I don't understand why I can't stop munching all the time, and eating... I found myself today, hiding the Easter cream egg I was enjoying from my 2 yr old son!!!! :( It's only getting worse.

I only weigh 180 pds, but this is the heaviest I have ever been, besides when I was pregnant... My daughter is almost 1 now, and my son is 2.

I hate excersising...my weight is all around my tummy...
I have back problems, so I avoid sit-ups etc...
sigh...

I am 35...recently going through a nasty divorce. (x left when baby was 6 wks old)
I have 2 teens, 14 & 16...(father is deceased)

sigh...i just don't understand.... :confused:
 
Welcome :)
It definitely sounds like you have had some rough times...but you're here.

I'm about the same weight as you and most of mine is around my tummy too. I was so upset with myself all the time, and tired and had no energy. I was always worrying about everyone else when I should have been worrying about me. So...now I am.

It's great that you're here ... you'll find so much help and inspiration from everyone here. I really suggest doing a daily diary on here. It will make you see where you're going wrong. And as far as the exercise ... if you really hate it, there has to be some things that you do enjoy. Taking your kids for a walk, swimming, biking, find what you enjoy and do it.

I wish you the best of luck ... you can do it! I know you can :D



One tip I do have is: spend 1 week straight sticking to a really good diet and doing exercise and then after that week see how you feel, it will be worth it. Trust me! I feel so wonderful after 3 days ... and drink lots of water!
 
I have a had a host of family trouble during the past few years during which time I put on 30 pounds. The hard thing to realize is that we have the power to make this work. We can start any time. Start right now. Get rid of the nasty food in your house, now. Right now. Just throw it out. Now. I once poured a few liters of coke down the sink knowing I would not have the power to not drink it. It was truly liberating.
 
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I am having huge motivation problems myself right now. Some times low motivation can be a sign of depression. There are a lot of online resource for depression, like test for examples.

I took some meds for awhile and it really helped. Sorry you are having such a hard time right now.
 
The hardest is part is I have always encourage family meal time... SO, I have a very hard time cooking awesome meals for my 5 children, and I do sit and eat with them... I always cook more than enough, so my teens are happy...then I end up having 2nds, 3rds etc...
I have been walking alot more with my children, but the weigh isn't on my legs. I have great legs! I just have lots of tummy jelly....! Walking doesn't help my tummy...
sigh...
Ps. I have been diagnosed with Bi-polar and I have been on meds... (Zoloft) It has helped me LOTs!
 
i know how you feel. I also did the same thing over and over again...it took me forever to just put my foot down. you can do it! and welcome!
 
Hey wendie! Welcome. Sounds like you have your hands full with the crew. Lord, I remember those days. Cutting fat and portion size has made a big difference with me, along with exercise. I have 2 torn disks so I have to watch what I do too....sit-ups are not good. Some of those video-tapes get you in good shape that walking cant do...I like the Leslie Sandsone step tapes. They aren't too taxing on your back. I think from the sounds of it, with as many kids and probably treats in your home, you might need to change the whole way you shop, so it wont be in the house. Also, you might not really be hungry all the time, just snacking for other reasons. Check with your doctor if your med's make you retain weight, and maybe he will give you a guideline for a good diet. Hint*****drink LOTS of water- it'll flush you out and fill you up. Good luck! You can do this girl!:D
 
Keeping DANGER FOODS out of the house has been key for me. There are some things that I just cannot be trusted not to eat if they are around. There is really no need for sweets to be in the house at all. Throw what you have and don't buy anymore. That should help.
 
Hi Wendieann! Welcome! I, too, have that helpless feeling alot of the time. It's like there's a demon in my brain saying "Go ahead ... you know you want to eat it!" And I can't stop it!!! I get so depressed. I'm hoping that the support here on the forum will help me to finally stop that voice. Everyone here is so awesome, and we're all on the same journey. If you find that you're feeling helpless and depressed, lean on us ... OK? We all need each other. You go girl! Good luck, and see you around the forums! :)
 
Hi Wendiann,

First of all, thank you for sharing what you are going through. I know that I have used food to comfort me during difficult times and it seems like this is an issue for you too. I agree with a lot of the posters in that it will be really helpful for you to keep the danger foods out of the house. If that seems too limiting try the following while you begin your journey. The next time you are at the grocery store, pick up some sandwich and snack ziplock bags. Then whatever danger foods you have divide up into individual portions based on the recommendations on bag. During the day try to munch on vegetable sticks and fruit when you feel hungry and when planning your dinner make a larger portion size of veggies. If at the end of the day you still want the bad stuff allow yourself 1 goodie bag as a reward for being so good with the vegetables. I know it has been said before but drink LOTS of water (at first, it will probably seem like you are forcing yourself to do it but eventually it will seem more natural). Don't beat yourself up if you fall off occassionally, just acknowledge it and try to move forward consciously deciding that you want to eat something healthy. Good luck.
 
I noticed one thing... whats healthy for you is healthy for the kids... trust me. My mother use to diet but not make me or my Dad eat what she ate... I turned out weighing way more than my mother.. and my Dad is even trying to loose weight now. Its never to early to start your kids on eating healthy so they dont have to go through weight problems when they grow up.
 
BigBear said:
I have a had a host of family trouble during the past few years during which time I put on 30 pounds. The hard thing to realize is that we have the power to make this work. We can start any time. Start right now. Get rid of the nasty food in your house, now. Right now. Just throw it out. Now. I once poured a few liters of coke down the sink knowing I would not have the power to not drink it. It was truly liberating.
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I couldn't agree more with BigBear. You can't keep your favorite foods in the refrigerator. Like last night I bought a Tenderloin steak on sale at Kroger's because I love tenderloin. I told myself I would eat half yesterday and half today. Well, guess what? Yep, devoured that baby in total last night. I just try to keep salad a fruit and ham to make a half a ham sandwich, etc. I don't keep stuff I really like.
 
BigBear said:
Keeping DANGER FOODS out of the house has been key for me. There are some things that I just cannot be trusted not to eat if they are around. There is really no need for sweets to be in the house at all. Throw what you have and don't buy anymore. That should help.
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BigBear, you've hit the nail on the head. That is exactly what happens to me. If it's in the house, I will think about it, think about it, think about it and then eat it. Not just some of it, because, if it's that good, I'll eat the whole thing.

I've had to throw out all junk from my house. The only thing that remains for a sweet treat is Jello. That's it. I can't trust myself with anything else that I like.

It's terrible and really tough, when all of my friends and family have no problem with self control, but I can't stop if I get started.
 
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