My new question: (1) If you were Doreen would you say that yes my mom always thought I was thin and (2) she just said that remark about people calling me fat because she was mad" : (3) How would you interpret both conversations and would do you think Doreen misinterpreted the word “any more“? (4) Would you think “any more” means that Doreen’s mom did not think she was thin in the past. GIVE DETAILS
ALSO WHAT WOULD YOU TELL DOREEN TO GIVE HER CLOSURE ON THIS?
UPDATE:
Doreen:"Mom you always thought I was thin"
Mom: "Yes"
Doreen: "What about when we had another fight at home after the fight in the car and you said that I get mad if people call me fat"
Mom: "Who would ever call you fat. I only said that because I was mad"
STORY TO REFRESH MEMORY: OK yesterday Doreen’s mom (in her 80’s) and Doreen (in her 50’s) went to see “Mama Mia” which was wonderful. Any way as the movie started all of a sudden Doreen got very hot and extremely dizzy. (A few years ago Doreen got dizzy and she made the mistake of going to a few doctors, each one misdiagnosed why she was dizzy and with the medication each doctor gave Doreen, Doreen kept getting worse until she went to one doctor who cured Doreen).
Mom: “What is wrong”
Doreen: “I feel dizzy”
The dizziness stopped but Doreen was nervous a little bit throughout the movie. When the movie ended:
Mom: “Just wait until we get into the car I want to talk to you”
Doreen: “Well if we are going to have a fight I don’t want to hear it”
Mom: “Then take the bus”
But Doreen got into the car
Mom: “You have to stop drinking coffee”
Doreen: “I know I am going to stop”
(And Doreen thought that would be the end of the conversation - wrong)
Mom: “I know you drink coffee for weight loss. You don’t need to lose any more weight”
Doreen: “But I was always skinny”
Mom: “Yes but now you are even skinnier”
This got Doreen mad and they had some fight. When they came home her mom said nasty things to Doreen and Doreen said nasty things back to her mom.
Mom: “You need to gain weight”
Doreen: “No I don’t”
Mom: “It isn’t just the coffee but the way you eat”
Doreen: “I like salads“
Mom: “But when you order a salad they give you mostly lettuce and six strips of chicken you leave over two.”
When Doreen went on the computer she found out the reason she was getting dizzy and it was because of the herb she is taking but Doreen cannot tell her mom that because her mom is very opinionated.
THEN TODAY;
Doreen: “Mom do you want to know why I got mad yesterday it is because you made it sound like I wasn’t always thin”
Mom: “That is how you hear it”
Then about five minutes later they had a terrible fight because her mom started to rant and rave.
Doreen: “All I wanted was for you to answer that one question”
Mom: “OK yes you were fat before - how’s that” - her mom said this in a tone to get Doreen mad and upset.
ALSO WHAT WOULD YOU TELL DOREEN TO GIVE HER CLOSURE ON THIS?
UPDATE:
Doreen:"Mom you always thought I was thin"
Mom: "Yes"
Doreen: "What about when we had another fight at home after the fight in the car and you said that I get mad if people call me fat"
Mom: "Who would ever call you fat. I only said that because I was mad"
STORY TO REFRESH MEMORY: OK yesterday Doreen’s mom (in her 80’s) and Doreen (in her 50’s) went to see “Mama Mia” which was wonderful. Any way as the movie started all of a sudden Doreen got very hot and extremely dizzy. (A few years ago Doreen got dizzy and she made the mistake of going to a few doctors, each one misdiagnosed why she was dizzy and with the medication each doctor gave Doreen, Doreen kept getting worse until she went to one doctor who cured Doreen).
Mom: “What is wrong”
Doreen: “I feel dizzy”
The dizziness stopped but Doreen was nervous a little bit throughout the movie. When the movie ended:
Mom: “Just wait until we get into the car I want to talk to you”
Doreen: “Well if we are going to have a fight I don’t want to hear it”
Mom: “Then take the bus”
But Doreen got into the car
Mom: “You have to stop drinking coffee”
Doreen: “I know I am going to stop”
(And Doreen thought that would be the end of the conversation - wrong)
Mom: “I know you drink coffee for weight loss. You don’t need to lose any more weight”
Doreen: “But I was always skinny”
Mom: “Yes but now you are even skinnier”
This got Doreen mad and they had some fight. When they came home her mom said nasty things to Doreen and Doreen said nasty things back to her mom.
Mom: “You need to gain weight”
Doreen: “No I don’t”
Mom: “It isn’t just the coffee but the way you eat”
Doreen: “I like salads“
Mom: “But when you order a salad they give you mostly lettuce and six strips of chicken you leave over two.”
When Doreen went on the computer she found out the reason she was getting dizzy and it was because of the herb she is taking but Doreen cannot tell her mom that because her mom is very opinionated.
THEN TODAY;
Doreen: “Mom do you want to know why I got mad yesterday it is because you made it sound like I wasn’t always thin”
Mom: “That is how you hear it”
Then about five minutes later they had a terrible fight because her mom started to rant and rave.
Doreen: “All I wanted was for you to answer that one question”
Mom: “OK yes you were fat before - how’s that” - her mom said this in a tone to get Doreen mad and upset.
