Sung Kim
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Hello,
My name is Sung Woo, from South Korea, and I never went above 150lbs in my life (6 ft).
For all my life, I have eaten all I want, as much as I want - although never to the point where I feel so full.
My favourite desert routine is chocolate cheese cake with chocolate milk. Being an Asian, I grew up eating rice for 3 meals a day.
Recently I started working full-time as an engineer. I like my work, it is in the field I am passionate about - water and energy. But being in office all day, it is hard to see how exactly my work benefits people.
So I thought about what I am good at, or what people tell me I am great at.
I asked my friends around, and recurring themes were: Fitness and discipline.
"You are always in great shape. I wonder how you do it."
"Dude, discipline, for sure. I don't know how you keep yourself disciplined like that."
And I realized that my friends who are overweight, want to start exercising, especially running - which is my favorite thing to do, -, and who want to have more control in their own lives, ask me for advice.
I'd just tell them what I do. And to my surprise, it did not help them much.
I wondered why, and I realized it's because I was busy telling them my story.
I played soccer all my life; so it was easy for me to keep an active lifestyle.
I loved doing exercises - it's a habit of mine, so that was no problem for me.
I do not like eating after 10PM because it bothers my stomache, so eating late was never a problem for me.
Discipline came easy for me, b/c state of my body was directly related to my performance on the field.
I only told them about what worked for me.
But never asked them what's going on in their own lives. I never asked them why they liked eating less.
I never asked them what's 'healthy body' is for them.
I never asked what is 'good life' for them, and role of the weight in it.
I never asked them what their goals are in life, and what they valued - because that's what keep us motivated and disciplined.
I didn't ask them when they felt guilty or painful. How do they feel when they look at themselves in the mirror? What do they feel when they compulsively opened that bag of potato chips, thinking 'just few of them, only to find the bag empty and their stomach full of junk and heart filled with guilt?
I am not coming off as "Hey, I have always been in good shape and I will solve all your problems."
I am here to ask you to help me. I am here to ask if you would share your why weight loss is so hard for you. I want to know when you think about your weight the most, and how you relate to your own body. I want to know what you have tried, what worked or not. I want to know why you are on your sixth diet.
Share with me your thoughts.
Best,
Sung
My name is Sung Woo, from South Korea, and I never went above 150lbs in my life (6 ft).
For all my life, I have eaten all I want, as much as I want - although never to the point where I feel so full.
My favourite desert routine is chocolate cheese cake with chocolate milk. Being an Asian, I grew up eating rice for 3 meals a day.
Recently I started working full-time as an engineer. I like my work, it is in the field I am passionate about - water and energy. But being in office all day, it is hard to see how exactly my work benefits people.
So I thought about what I am good at, or what people tell me I am great at.
I asked my friends around, and recurring themes were: Fitness and discipline.
"You are always in great shape. I wonder how you do it."
"Dude, discipline, for sure. I don't know how you keep yourself disciplined like that."
And I realized that my friends who are overweight, want to start exercising, especially running - which is my favorite thing to do, -, and who want to have more control in their own lives, ask me for advice.
I'd just tell them what I do. And to my surprise, it did not help them much.
I wondered why, and I realized it's because I was busy telling them my story.
I played soccer all my life; so it was easy for me to keep an active lifestyle.
I loved doing exercises - it's a habit of mine, so that was no problem for me.
I do not like eating after 10PM because it bothers my stomache, so eating late was never a problem for me.
Discipline came easy for me, b/c state of my body was directly related to my performance on the field.
I only told them about what worked for me.
But never asked them what's going on in their own lives. I never asked them why they liked eating less.
I never asked them what's 'healthy body' is for them.
I never asked what is 'good life' for them, and role of the weight in it.
I never asked them what their goals are in life, and what they valued - because that's what keep us motivated and disciplined.
I didn't ask them when they felt guilty or painful. How do they feel when they look at themselves in the mirror? What do they feel when they compulsively opened that bag of potato chips, thinking 'just few of them, only to find the bag empty and their stomach full of junk and heart filled with guilt?
I am not coming off as "Hey, I have always been in good shape and I will solve all your problems."
I am here to ask you to help me. I am here to ask if you would share your why weight loss is so hard for you. I want to know when you think about your weight the most, and how you relate to your own body. I want to know what you have tried, what worked or not. I want to know why you are on your sixth diet.
Share with me your thoughts.
Best,
Sung