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willbslim

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Hi guys

I feel very strange posting this thread but at the same time I am starting to feel like giving up. Those negative thoughts are circling around my head so fast. I know that I have been guilty of neglecting posting on my diary thread and everyone elses. Things have just been so hectic and I have been reading but not posting so much. In the past this forum has been the most unbelievable support and encouragement. Cate, Nickychick, Niyah, Sam you have always been so supportive in the past.

I have been going through a bad space but trying to carry on with the plan. I experienced something on Tues morning and posted on my diary. I thought that I might get at least one reply, but not one! So I am feeling very unloved and neglected and I know that it's as much my fault as anything else. Anyway, I just had to say something.

An article that I read said that a study showed that people who shed weight and kept it off had a few things in common: they had a supportive network of people who were going through the same experience, who encouraged each other's losses and congratulated each other, who listened and supported each other's experiences, whether good or bad - basically like this forum. They were successful in keeping the weight off. So I am asking for your support and I promise to give mine back.

Thanks

Sue
 
Sue,
I know exactly how you feel. I posted in my diary this AM, but had not done so for awhile. I am feeling "why bother"! No one reads or posts back or is very encouraging in it anyway. Mine is a maintenance diary, and I guess people feel that once you lose the weight, you no longer need support and encouragement? NOthing could be farther from the truth! I live in fear every day that I will gain back the 40+ pounds I have lost. I have only been keeping it off since July, so this is all very new to me.

I see by your ticker that you have done very well with losing weight, and you are getting closer and closer to your goal! That is wonderful! I am sorry you are struggling right now. I don't know the details...I will try to find your diary and do some reading, if possible. Just know that I am here to support you as you continue this journey...please let me know if I can help!
Di
 
Sue- I replied in your diary last night & apologised for totally missing that post. I am truly sorry, xo Cate.
PS I think we all might be feeling a bit fragile at the moment. I thought of moving over to the main part of the forum, posted my diary as a new thread, left it there for a few days & no-one posted in it so deleted it again & thought "Why bother." The truth is I think that most people are self-absorbed.They may not think so or mean to be but that's how it is mostly I'm afraid.
I agree with Di who also said she thinks that people probably think that once you get to maintenance you don't need the support but she is so right in saying that's when you really need it. You feel that you are doing it all alone.
We are doing this for ourselves, not for others and how we feel about ourselves is what will get us through. At times I really need to reinforce that in my head or I would have given this forum up long ago. Cheers, Cate
 
Hi wbs
I'm new, so don't know all of your history! I've felt a little bit the same - you hope that your story is important enough for everyone to read & respond, but there seem to be quite number of people journalling on here, so I guess it's pretty hard to comment on every single one (and remember everyone!!! lol!)

You've done so well so far , which is a great inspiration to newbies like me! Keep up the great work , I'm sure you'll get there - with a little support!!! ;-)
Ali
 
Willbeslim, don't give up - it's just not worth it. I've been in a bad space lately and just have to get well again before I'm back here. Too much history to go over, but life has not been easy this year.

However, you have been doing fantastically. A bad day is just a bad day - don't use it to make decisions you'll regret. Do something a bit physical, and sit in the sun for 10 minutes to bring back some positive thoughts.

Or... better still... if everyone is busy and no-one is listening, go clothes window-shopping. It's so very motivating!!!
 
Willbslim, your name says it all! I'm very guilty, I must admit, of not religiously posting replies to people's thread, only because I'm so focused on my own problems/journey. It's been hard and still is! I wonder to myself if it's ever gonna get easier...

I am sending out virtual strength your way, so that you may deal with whatever is getting you down, and carry on with the programme. You know, everything happens for a reason, and if you're having a down period, you need to get through it so that you can come out stronger and better prepared.
I've been stuffing my face for the last 2 weeks, everyday telling myself today is the day I get back to my plan. I felt hopeless, down and thought that I was never gonna lose the last of my weight UNTIL I read a few posts, spoke about my feelings, took control of my life and started again. If I can do it, anyone can.

We're all behind you, 100% :patriot:
 
Thanks everyone you have really made me feel loved again. I know that life is hectic for all of us and I promise to make my presence felt again and be encouraging as you have all been to me.

I really appreciate it. You guys are the greatest.

Have a fantastic weekend. I'll be back on Sun.
 
Hi willbslim (love the alias),

Hope you are feeling a bit better and more motivated, saw your thread earlier this week and didn't think it would be right for me to reply as i am very new to the forum.
See you are also from SA, and sounding like JHB in particular or somewhere where it is also very cold, summer is supposed to be in 10 days and it has been raining non stop for a week and the temperature has been insane...

Anyway just thought i would say hi and be strong, you have done so will sure you will be on track in no time.

Have a great weekend...

Angela.
 
Hi Sue

Thought I'd write and check how you are doing? Im quite new to the forum, therefore Im reading so many posts and inspirational stories.

Hope you are feeling more positve and ready to take control of the diet. I see you haven't been posting for a while - Hope to hear from you soon!
 
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