I need help!!

[Char]

Hi everyone, thank you for reading!

I am a 24 year old woman, 5'7 and currently 240ish pounds.
I have struggled with my weight for as long as I can remember, but I always find that because I never know where to begin when it comes to losing the chub I just give up before I even start.
I work a full time job, I am single and I have no kids or commitments that should be keeping me back from taking control of my body.
I hate that I have no self control when it comes to buying treats and I want to think I love myself just as I am but more often than not I find myself just hating my body and how I look in every item of clothing I've ever owned or even tried on. Shopping for clothes has become such a nightmare because while I can still find clothes that fit they never fit right so I always just end up hating my body even more.
I was never picked on for my weight at school growing up, but as I've gotten older I've noticed that (apart from myself) my worst critics are my family- while I've always been told that I'm beautiful and loved there are many moments where my weight is mentioned in a way that hurts me a lot deeper than they may think.

Please, can anyone out there help me know where to start?? I don't want to be some stick thin model, but I do want to take control over my impulses and my body and shape it in a way that ensures that I don't hate myself and don't keep ballooning as the years progress. Unfortunately I can't commit to a gym membership due to finances (and I also know myself enough to know that in the grand scheme of things I would go for a little while and then just stop) and I live in a shared household where we buy our groceries in one go.

Thank you again for reading, I look forward to your insights!

 

[victor welfred]

Hi! you will have the great information in this forum!

 

[Rebel lee]

Hi and welcome. If you post a diary in the diary page you will find that others will give you advice based on what they are or have gone through. We all started at one time or another so we know how overwhelming it can be.
Best wishes
----Rebel----

 

[Fisher Fitness Club]

Hi everyone, thank you for reading!

I am a 24 year old woman, 5'7 and currently 240ish pounds.
I have struggled with my weight for as long as I can remember, but I always find that because I never know where to begin when it comes to losing the chub I just give up before I even start.
I work a full time job, I am single and I have no kids or commitments that should be keeping me back from taking control of my body.
I hate that I have no self control when it comes to buying treats and I want to think I love myself just as I am but more often than not I find myself just hating my body and how I look in every item of clothing I've ever owned or even tried on. Shopping for clothes has become such a nightmare because while I can still find clothes that fit they never fit right so I always just end up hating my body even more.
I was never picked on for my weight at school growing up, but as I've gotten older I've noticed that (apart from myself) my worst critics are my family- while I've always been told that I'm beautiful and loved there are many moments where my weight is mentioned in a way that hurts me a lot deeper than they may think.

Please, can anyone out there help me know where to start?? I don't want to be some stick thin model, but I do want to take control over my impulses and my body and shape it in a way that ensures that I don't hate myself and don't keep ballooning as the years progress. Unfortunately I can't commit to a gym membership due to finances (and I also know myself enough to know that in the grand scheme of things I would go for a little while and then just stop) and I live in a shared household where we buy our groceries in one go.

Thank you again for reading, I look forward to your insights!

Char,
I'm actually 24 years old and 5'7" too! How funny! Like you, I struggled with my weight for years. I had a bad addiction to sweets - candy, cookies, cake - you name, I ate it! I ate an entire cake by myself in 2 days once because I couldn't control my cravings.

Fast forward to today, and I am in the best shape of my entire life! I actually own my own fitness company now, and my job, aside from being a full time nursing student, is helping women with their confidence and weight loss goals.

All of the discouragement you described is something I can deeply understand because I would try on a million outfits at the mall and then leave with nothing but lack of confidence. My family was never the one to pick on me about my weight, but I was picked on in school. It really hurts.

I'm sure your family is concerned about your overall health, but sometimes when people don't know how to help, they come across very harsh. So please, don't let that discourage you. In fact, have the attitude that you CAN and WILL prove to them that you will lose the weight and be healthy.

Okay, so now that I've introduced myself, let me ask you a couple of questions to best help you with your goal:

1. What are you currently doing to lose weight? Low carb diet? Low calorie? Adkins? Paleo? Watching what you eat?

2. Do you perform any physical exercise? How often do you exercise? (Please be honest. I'm not here to judge you, I just want to help)

3. Can you describe what you eat on a regular basis? Give me a rundown of a type day's worth of eating for you. This will help me determine if you need to eat more (yes, you can actually gain weight if you're not eating enough) or if I can help you make some tweaks to your diet that will turn you into a fat burning machine!

4. Do you struggle with feelings of anxiety? How about regular fatigue? These feelings accompanied with weight gain can actually be a sign of high cortisol levels, which is the "stress hormone". I can help you with that as well.

I look forward to hearing from you and working with you to make your goals a reality!

Sincerely,
Ericka
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[Char]

Hi Ericka,

Thank you so much for your kind words of encouragement! I'm so glad you found my post.

To answer your questions:
1. I am not currently doing any particular diets per se, mostly because I'm scared to spend the money on something that may not work, even though I seem to have no issue spending my cash on crappy cheap treats. A silly way to think, I know!! This is where my self control really comes into play.

2. I am also not doing anything exercise wise, mostly because I have no idea what to start with! I was using the Wii Fit for a little while but I kept losing the motivation to use it and I didn't feel like I was seeing any results.

3. What I eat daily changes a lot. I often don't eat breakfast, mostly because I hate eating when I wake up, but if I do it's a ham and cheese croissant, a savoury muffin or a scone, anything I can just grab on my way into work when I finally feel like eating. I will also always have a coffee from the coffee machine at work and I fill up the water bottle I have on my desk but I don't always drink it. Lunch varies, the most common ones in bring from home would be tuna and rice or leftovers from the night before, or I will go buy a burger and chips, a sandwich or a curry with rice and naan bread from the shops near work. We usually cook dinner at home, which I'd say is the healthiest of my daily meals and my sister makes the meal plan by searching for meals to try. The most common things we usually make meat and veg, stir fries or curries. However, there are nights where we can't all eat together, so we will either get Chinese food, fish and chips or make oven pizza or we just sort ourselves (for example I was sorting myself last night so I just made a couple of grilled cheeses and a bowl of popcorn). If I've gotten paid that week or just decided to stop at the supermarket I will have bought chips/chocolate that I snack on before and after dinner dependent on how bored or hungry I think I feel.

4. I can't say I've noticed any anxiety or fatigue, although I'm not sure what signs I should be looking for! I do have quite a full on job, as I work in recruitment coordinating voluntary blood donors, I do find that I often fall asleep on the train on the way home from work so I'm not sure if that's a symptom? I do find that I overthink things a lot so I'm not sure if that's having a negative affect as well.

Thank you again for touching base, I look forward to hearing what I can change about my life to become healthier!!

Thanks,
Char

Char,
I'm actually 24 years old and 5'7" too! How funny! Like you, I struggled with my weight for years. I had a bad addiction to sweets - candy, cookies, cake - you name, I ate it! I ate an entire cake by myself in 2 days once because I couldn't control my cravings.

Fast forward to today, and I am in the best shape of my entire life! I actually own my own fitness company now, and my job, aside from being a full time nursing student, is helping women with their confidence and weight loss goals.

All of the discouragement you described is something I can deeply understand because I would try on a million outfits at the mall and then leave with nothing but lack of confidence. My family was never the one to pick on me about my weight, but I was picked on in school. It really hurts.

I'm sure your family is concerned about your overall health, but sometimes when people don't know how to help, they come across very harsh. So please, don't let that discourage you. In fact, have the attitude that you CAN and WILL prove to them that you will lose the weight and be healthy.

Okay, so now that I've introduced myself, let me ask you a couple of questions to best help you with your goal:

1. What are you currently doing to lose weight? Low carb diet? Low calorie? Adkins? Paleo? Watching what you eat?

2. Do you perform any physical exercise? How often do you exercise? (Please be honest. I'm not here to judge you, I just want to help)

3. Can you describe what you eat on a regular basis? Give me a rundown of a type day's worth of eating for you. This will help me determine if you need to eat more (yes, you can actually gain weight if you're not eating enough) or if I can help you make some tweaks to your diet that will turn you into a fat burning machine!

4. Do you struggle with feelings of anxiety? How about regular fatigue? These feelings accompanied with weight gain can actually be a sign of high cortisol levels, which is the "stress hormone". I can help you with that as well.

I look forward to hearing from you and working with you to make your goals a reality!

Sincerely,
Ericka
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