I just can't :(

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Iceprincess

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No matter what I do, I can't lose weight, I hate being fat, I hate looking at myself in the mirror. Thing is, I love food, food is probably one of the best things in the world for me, I just can't live without it, I feel like I have to eat constantly.
I've tried every kind of diet, I've tried everything, I even went to the dr and took some blood exams to see if there was something wrong that maybe was making me eat more but everything was good, It's just that I get hungry ALL THE TIME :(.
I bought Herbalife, it was really pricey but I thought it would be the solution, I started on thursday and it has been really hard, I just can't eat one meal a day, whenever I'm hungry I prepare a shake but I still feel hungry after taking them so I eat whatever is on the fridge
I hate my body, I hate myself for not being stronger, I hate living this way
This is driving me insane :(
 
Yanno,
I always said "can't" because I was always doing the wrong things. Generally going too strict on diets and focusing too much on what I had to not do instead of what I had to do and how I could work that into my life.

You CAN do it, but you need to sit down and work out a dietary plan for yourself that includes good things and SOME "bad" things in MODERATION as well. And if you find it not working, sit down and redo it. But make sure you're getting enough calories as well as allowing you to eat the things you like, but start slowly transitioning over to good healthy foods as well.

For me, it was hit and miss a LOT and sometimes I still dont get it right. But trial and error is there for a reason. :D
 
=T im sorry your feeling soo down atm...

and seriously i wish you wouldnt have spent money on herbalife...
i have heard horrible things about how it is a scam... D:

but at least you are starting to change and im sure you will be successful =]
 
Hello, have you ever tried Talk therapy? That may help get to those underlying issues that make you want food all of the time. And help out with the Self-Hate. Just remember to take things slowly: Easy does it. Patience helps too, it's not like magic, everything and anything requires perseverance. :heart:

For me, therapy is a sure way to de-stress. Everything requires baby steps. Maybe your area has a place for donations only counseling...
 
My boyfriend always says, "Can't lives on Won't Street" and it makes me laugh. :)

I think the last poster is right... sounds like there are issues other than your caloric intake exceeding your expenditure. Food addict? Emotional eater?

I feel for you, and I can totally understand. I've been successful at losing weight in the past (at one time I was 235, size 18... eventually got down to 145, size 6) but slowly let the weight creep back on. I got back up to 180, now I'm 165ish which might sound good until you consider that I've been trying for about 3 years to get back into my good habits and down to my goal weight. Three years of starting and stopping, getting super motivated then quitting... one extreme or the other, and I'm sure it's because of psychological/emotional issues that I need to sort out. I kinda fear I'm addicted to food, too, but I don't know why. Can't trace back to any childhood experiences, my family isn't obese, I wasn't abused or anything. And when I'm on a healthy roll, I can't imagine ever being "bad" but then something happens and I fall back into my rut again. Then I spend every minute of every day that I'm not doing the right thing HATING being fat and feeling like total crap about my body and myself. How much sense does that make???

You know there's a law of physics that says, "a body in motion tends to stay in motion, and a body at rest tends to stay at rest" and I think this is SOOO true in the weightloss quest! Once I FORCE myself to do something that first time, it gets so much easier each time after that until it's just habit and I feel like I'm missing something if I don't exercise. Maybe you should just start with that. If you can't tackle the big eating issue right away, start by finding something you can stand to do, whether it's a workout DVD at home, or if you're comfortable going to a gym, or just taking a walk...start doing something and stick with it. You'll feel so much better for so many reasons, just from whatever exercise you do. Your mood will elevate because the body's natural "anti-depressants" are stimulated by exercise, you'll feel accomplished and proud of yourself, and your motivation will increase. I lost all of my weight by walking, but I sure wished I had done a weight program along with it so that when all that fat was gone I looked better and more toned. THIS time, I will do it that way. :)

Anyway, sorry for rambling, but my point is that you most certainly *CAN* do it... the only thing stopping you (as far as I can tell from your post, anyway) is self-limiting thought, speech and behavior, but hey- I'm RIGHT THERE WITH YOU most of the time! Just think about if you actually want to say, "I WON'T do what it takes to lose weight, get healthy and feel better about myself. I choose to stay this way." Because, truthfully it's NOT that we can't.

I find cruising this forum and checking out before and after pictures and success stories to be very inspirational. Best of luck to you..... YOU CAN DO THIS!!! :)
 
timezup said:
I find cruising this forum and checking out before and after pictures and success stories to be very inspirational. Best of luck to you..... YOU CAN DO THIS!!! :)
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I agree 100%. I've only been here a few days, and I've been going to the before/after forum most because it's a reminder to me why I'm losing weight: to gain that same sense of accomplishment that all these other people have- doing it the way I am- just hard work and eating better. :)

Iceprincess, I think a lot of people feel the same way as you a lot of the time. I find I'm not always just fighting to make the right choices, I'm fighting to make sure I don't make the wrong ones. I definitely would echo the other sentiments and maybe try talking to someone about how you're feeling- it may help you recognize the root of why you feel this way, and help you to see that you're worth it to be where you want to be :)
 
Thank you guys,your support and your experience gives me strenght to keep on.
I joined the gym yesterday ... went back afer 6 months, I'm eating like a pig, specially these days where it's cold (I live in south america and we're about to start winter).
It's so hard :(
 
Iceprincess, we're human. Guess what? humans were MEANT to EAT. It's just the simple truth.

Back in prehistoric times, the person who ate the most was best able to survive, so it's ingrained into our psyches. Some of us just seem to be closer to those prehistoric relatives of ours than others are ;)

You sound EXACTLY like me: I've tried everything, I can't lose weight no matter what, something must be wrong, etc.

While I've gained most of the weight back dealing with the stress of my hubby's stroke, I learned a few years ago that it is possible to eat AND lose weight. I lost 45 pounds in 5 months, and I didn't stop eating. I may have actually eaten more. The trick is to substitute honest, healthy, high fiber, low calorie food for the junk we usually eat. So think fruit (fresh, NOT in a cobbler!) and fresh veggies. Whole grains, popcorn (no junk on top of it), etc. You can eat lots of this kind of thing for very few calories, and you'll lose weight.

Play with your cravings. If you want warm and creamy, try a baked potato with some frozen veggies (heated, of course) in low-fat cheese sauce. If you want munchy, there's always popcorn. Sweet? Low-cal pudding or jello or fresh fruit or--well, you get the idea. I never found any craving I couldn't satisfy when I started thinking creatively.

Once you get used to eating this way--really, it's a way of thinking more than just eating--you'll feel well enough to add some exercise. Pick something you like: walking, biking, swimming, whatever. And it doesn't have to be the same thing every day. In winter, I used to do "mall walking" in the halls of the university where I teach. Just round and round, up and down stairs when I feel strong.

You can do it. If I can, ANYONE can. Hang in, post often, and give yourself time to learn.
 
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