Weight-Loss I have HAD IT....

Weight-Loss
M_Marie

M_Marie

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I’m really annoyed right now. Im not sure exactly what to say right now… but im super frustrated and feel the need to vent. Those who know me, know that I have worked very hard the last 6.5 months to lose weight…. THE RIGHT WAY. I go to the gym 4-5 times a week…. I eat right, I journal what I do consume, reward myself when I reach goals, do weekly measurements, etc.

I have about HAD IT it the comments from people about my weightloss. Not positive either… critical or speculative. Anyways, todays threw me over the edge.

Student: so, you lost a good bit of weight
Me: Yeah a little bit, just been trying to be healthy… running and eating right
Student: You anorexic?
Me: Vince… im standing here at the microwave with a tub of spaghetti… are you being serious right now? I totally eat.
Student: well you cant go throw it up later on either though cause that’s bad too
Me: Are my teeth yellow…. My nail beds? Am I withering away?
Student: well you look sick like you don’t eat or something… are you anorexic? For real?
Me: I appreciate your concern… but not even close.
Student: Well i dunno... you look like those people you see on TV on talk shows who are obsessed with what they see in the mirror and dont believe theres a problem.


WTF. Do you guys deal with this crap??? Im 5’2” and weigh 125… I have lost 29 lbs in a 6.5 month time frame.......GIVE ME A BREAK DUDE.

Sorry I needed to vent!!!
 
Good vent, get it out of your head. I dealt with a simular situation with my family last year when I dropped from 200 to 160 in about 5 months with hard hard work. My sister started hovering, my mom and dad started wanting to take me out to eat three or four times a week, it was weird, and a little bit demoralizing since I was doing it in a healthy manner and was no where near my goal weight or even in a healthy range. Eventually I had to tell them I considered their comments harrassing and since they were not medical professionals they had no reason to either speculate about my weight loss or to confront me about it.

Don't let them get you down, I bet you feel great about yourself and your accomplishments and you deserve to look like you want to and be healthy despite what anybody thinks or says.
 
welcome to real life. when people see you achieve something their own insecurities surface from lack of same acomplishments and they deal with it by trying to bring you down to their level.... I'm getting much the same thing with my weight gain. "you're not on steriods are you?" bla bla bla.

Don't let it get you down. It's part of the game. and for every jackass out there, there should be just as many if not moreso who are happy for your sucess. listen to them :D
 
Jynus said:
welcome to real life. when people see you achieve something their own insecurities surface from lack of same acomplishments and they deal with it by trying to bring you down to their level.... I'm getting much the same thing with my weight gain. "you're not on steriods are you?" bla bla bla.

Don't let it get you down. It's part of the game. and for every jackass out there, there should be just as many if not moreso who are happy for your sucess. listen to them :D
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Its hard though. It seems like as a girl.. if you lose weight its all hush hush whispering abt it and then bold people will ask if you have a problem.... guys... its GOOD FOR YOU!!!! way to go!!!!!!


but i guess weight gain would be obnoxious too abt the steroids. Its just frustrating you put all the sweat, tears, and work into getting in shape... and someone gotta rain on your parade
 
I'm going to assume you're a fellow American and add in that most of our countrymen and women have no clue what healthy bodies really look like.

Either they have the hollywood-distorted view of healthy or they are so used to all the overweight people around them that they are too liberal assigning the word healthy or okay weight.

People pft me all the time for trying to lose weight cause I don't look overweight or all that big they say. BMI nearly 30 and bodyfat at 25% and I don't need to lose any weight?

Stick to your guns and forget the ignorant, unwashed masses. And next time tell him he wishes you gagged yourself cause the only way he will ever do any woman any good is if they wish to be nauseous.
 
You did an awesome job! Don't let the insecure haters bring you down! I'm 5'1 1/2, and 120 is a HEALTHY weight. That's actually my goal! :) People are dumb.
You look great!
 
when people see you achieve something their own insecurities surface from lack of same acomplishments and they deal with it by trying to bring you down to their level
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Yup.

I can't count the number of times that someone has told me "oh you don't need to lose any more weight".

What the f ever. :D

People project their own insecurities outward a lot of the time. I have learned to smile and nod and mentally flip people off. It doesn't make it any less annoying, though. :)
 
I have learned to smile and nod and mentally flip people off.
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Is this something you learned in deep visualization courses...I need to learn the secret of only doing it mentally before someone decides to chop my flipper finger off!
 
OOOOHHHH- I just HAD to respond to this one..

The last time I lost weight (I thought I did it right) I was exercising, eating healthy, etc., I went from about 185-142, certainly not skinny by anyone's definition.. and I'm 5'3" and then fit into a size 10 (some 8's). I ran into problems from both ends.. well, let me explain:

I was on a leave of absence from my job and figured since I had extra time to dedicate to myself, I did it. When I returned at least 1/2 my co-workers commented.. one started calling me "Olive Oyl", and another, "eww, I like a girl w/ meat on her bones", one said "you really need some rice and beans" another asked if I was sick. UGH.. then I saw relatives from out of state- one commented "Oh My GOD- you look like a cancer patient".. Um, ok. Nice. Another relative said "you have no boobs/ass anymore too bad".. talk about insults!! And remember, I was 142 lbs! lol..

another situation:
I went to my doctor for a physical. Last time he saw me I was at 184, now I was 142, good right? Well anyway- I moved and had to transfer records.. they told me I could take them myself.. great. Well, here I am looking through my records.. here's the doctor's note from 6/17/2005 (when I lost weight and weighed 142). "PT complains of occasional sciatica nerve pain down R leg. Could be a result of her weight- DX "obese", offered some exercises to ease pain, PT needs to lose significant amt. of weight before seeking alternative treatment.

WOW- sooo, he never mentioned he thought I was obese to me! EVER. Can 142 even be obese for my height???!! I was humiliated and embarrassed.. c'mon now, what is wrong with this picture??
 
oh my word!!! Yeah... amazing how one thought you were emaciated and the other thought obese.... amazing.


blow my mind really......
 
Well, two years ago when I went from 170 to 145, my aunt saw me and said " oh you look great, what did you do?" People think just because you lose weight, you are on some type of pills or something.. anyways, I just told her it was diet and exercise. Her respond was " oh, you gonna gain it back anyway. Your other cousin diets for a week or 2 and stops dieting and gain the weight back. How can she compares me to her?....Mind you, she is a obese woman.
 
Man, people have no shame! My family tells me I will be too skinny at 120. NO, I won't. I was healthy at that weight and will be healthy again.
 
welcome to real life. when people see you achieve something their own insecurities surface from lack of same acomplishments and they deal with it by trying to bring you down to their level....
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So true! People can't stand the idea of others who are making real and positive changes to themselves. It's a jealousy thing. It's sad that the people around you can't be happy for you. And it says A LOT about their own self-image.

On a vaguely related note - I've been in the situation where I was doing some kickboxing classes before school started again (this was back in the high school days). I lost quite a bit of weight and suddenly all my girlfriends were offering me food, asking me out to lunch dates. Then I read an article about how your friends can make you fat.
Check it out -
and another -

And suddenly I realised that the group of girls I hung out all had the bad food habits that I used to have. But during the holidays when I was doing my kickboxing I hadn't seen much of them and had managed to change my lifestyle because I wasn't being subconciously influenced. When I came back to school and they saw my weightloss none of them had anything positive to say. Probably because they all wished that they could have achieved what I did.

Anyway good on you for losing that weight! You should come up with a few witty lines to dish out to people like Vince who comment on your weight loss in a negative way!
 
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