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ceghead

ceghead

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i used this site some time ago when i was living in England. I have since moved to Ireland. i left UK after a few personal problems. when i was l,iving there i was consuming about 1000 calories a day and running morning and night. However as a result of the reduced calories and running i lost about stone in weight, i was 5 ft 7 and about 9 stone 10lbs. since my move to ireland, i felt alot happier and as a result, i started eating more and enjoying the odd treat like a fry up on a saturday morning. however i have as a result put weight on again, i dont know how much i weigh but i can tell by the way i look and how my clothes fit. i also spent a good bit of time in the pub and im a sucker for stout which aint great for my waistline. NOW i have given up my 30 a day smoking habit and i can not STOP eating. i am getting a bit of grief in my personal life and when i get upset, i have on 3 occasions within the past 2 weeks binged and made myself sick. i am obbsessed with food and want so desperatley to loose weight, i excercise daily as i walk my dog, ive tried running again but it is raining constantly here and im slipping everywhere, i just lost my job adn i cant afford the gym. i am focusing on setting up my own business yet all I can think about is loosing weight! i hate not having control over myself. i can stop smoking cold turkey but cant control my eating. it felt so good when i lost weight last time and i could set myself targets lower and lower and reach them. now i have lost that control and i would do anything to get it back. i do not want this to get so bad that i am being sick everytime i feel upset or feel like i've over eaten. in general i eat super healthily and allow myself the odd treat, its just i cant stop eating. my main diet is veg, lentils, beans, porridge. thats pretty much it! i snack on seeds and nuts and make carrot soup to eat when im peckish! i want to loose a stone maybe two. im between a UK size 10 and 12. waist to hip ratio is healthy and im 5ft7, i want to be 91/2 stone but i am quite a large frame. i dont want this to get out of hand as i suffer form a rather addictive personaloty. any help, suggestions etc would be great.
 
ceghead said:
i am obbsessed with food and want so desperatley to loose weight...

i hate not having control over myself. i can stop smoking cold turkey but cant control my eating...

... its just i cant stop eating.
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You're probably not going to like what I have to say, ceghead, but I doubt anyone on this forum is going to be able to help you.

Sounds to me like you're an "emotional eater". You don't eat because you're hungry, but because it makes you feel better.

What you need is to seek out a counselor or psychologist to help you find out what emotional problems or stressers are making you eat.

Or you could join a group like Weight Watchers where you will meet other people who also eat emotionally and they might be able to help you.

Of course, that's going to cost some money.

But, IMO, reading your post, that seems about the only thing that's going to work.
 
oh ok. sorry. im just finding it hard to loose weight and i thought a weight loss forum would have some advice! if there are any other "emotional" eaters or habit eater out there, let me know how you curb it.
 
Keep a food diary and write down exactly how you are feeling when you are eating something.. and how you feel directly after you ate it.

Identifying the problem is the first step towards solving it.
 
Exactly my thoughts.

Right now you have everything working against you. You habitually turn to foods with a hair-trigger response to various factors in your life. Identify those factors so you can begin to build a plan of changing your response to them.

Identify the way you feel about food. About your life. About your goals. Etc.

Put pen to paper.

Emotional eating is an addiction. Just like smoking. It can be overcome. For now though, it sounds like you replaced one habit with another (smoking/eating).

You might find some utility by reading my recent blog .
 
i think you're right stevei remember you from when i last used this site and your advice was really useful then too. nice blog by the way. very insightful. i think thats it! before giving up smoking, if I felt upset, depressed or emotional i would console myself by chain smoking for an hour or so with a rather large helping of neat alcohol. now im attempting to curb that im just replacing that emotional need with food and it is slowley but surely making me put on weight again. im a very competitive person which helped me give up the smokes, but for some reason, it all falls apart with food. Its as if I am desperatley trying to cling onto one of my addictions. so instead of binge drinking and smoking till i pass out, im stuffing myself silly until im sick! neither healthy I know, i seriously need to find balance and moderation. i need to find a way to make my weight loss a competition, im not into diets and alkl that rubbish as i want this to be a permenant thing, as i said before, i eat healthily, i just eat too much of it and drink rather too much beer and stout (although that has been reduced dramatically). i need that motivational kick up the arse, so if anyone is visiting Ireland, drop by and boot me up the backside please lol.
 
When realizing/identifying this is the first step.

On top of these exercises, I suggest making small, consistent changes and closely manage your expectations. When you have an addictive personality, you tend to constantly live on the extreme ends of whatever spectrum it is you're on.

So when you decide to smoke, you smoke a lot. When you stop smoking, you eat, a lot. Now when you stop eating (of course not all food, just emotionally), chances are high that you'll exercise and diet A LOT (to the extent you're over-doing it.

Make the competition about seeing how much you can improve your health, your body and the way you feel, knowing full well that extremes of anything (smoking or dieting) are working against what it is you truly desire.
 
good point. well i only had 4 glasses of wine last night then went onto drinking tea. this morning I ate porridge with hemp seeds & almonds (usual brekkie) went jogging with the dog for 20 mins then played with her (running about with her) for an extra half hour. mum bought me a scone (couldn't say no really......wish she wouldn't buy such nice things) so i ate that for lunch, whoops. went shopping with my fella, stopped off and i had a coffee (only a wee splash of milk no sugar) in a feckin cake shop of all places, i sat and drank my cup of tar and watched as he stuffed cream drenched chocolate cake into his mouth. but now im glad for it, if not a little maudy cause im starving hungry! so im cooking up some roast veg with chickpeas and sundried toms in a big dish. not too bad, its a saturday so will be having some wine tonight, maybe i should switch to gin and slim! need to up my fruit intake i know but not doing too bad for today. i can be a bit of an extremist so i really want to find balance now. but then i get all het up about stuff and break down by binging and being sick. maybe next time i get annoyed i'll just start running! or excercising or something! i duno, i have to do something though! thanks again steve
 
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