hubby and the country of skinny girls

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saram

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alright, so I am 23 years old and married...I know..many of you must think I'm nuts making such an important commitment at such a young age..my husband is 28..and to be honnest I just kind of knew he was the one . I've also never been interested in the whole college experimenting thing..
anyways, I'm going off-topic here!..
well, my issue..or maybe not an issue...is that my husband is extremely good-looking (I know beauty is in the eye of the beholder..but he's kind of the everyone's-type type)..he is tall, very fit and gorgeous.. I have never had any problems with the way I look and always been reasonably confident..
my husband is not really the problem..he always makes sure I know how beautiful I am and how much he loves me...
now we are in south Korea..where everyone's sooo damn skinny and girls are just soo obsessed with their weights in an unhealthy manner since they're so thin...that is all they talk about when the average weight is 90 pounds for 5'4
and I have become more and more self conscious about the way I look...considering I am American, it's not like the locals expect me to be as skinny as the Korean females because they assume it's normal for us to be bigger..
see I've never had this problem before..because wherever we travelled there was always such a big variety of bodies..big, small, thin, plump..everything..so I don't feel like I particularly stand out..but now I know I do..because the norm here is ultra skinny...and I almost never see a plump girl..so I'm worried that my husband will notice..
I've never been the kind to ask him if he thinks I look fat or one to need constant reassurance...but I feel like I do..
am i just working myself up for nothing?..I've seen so many middle-aged losers leave their wives for gorgeous girls in their twenties once they come here...that I can't help but worry..
 
Is ur husband in the armed forces? Ne ways, I'm Filipino American, both my parents are Filipino. My father retired from his 20yr service in the US Navy a couple yrs back, and he wanted to retire back here in the Philippines. I decided after high school that I would tag along with my parents n see my family who I've seen once every 2-3yrs. I've been here 1.5yrs now.

Being here, I feel like I'm the biggest person I know. Public transportation seems like its made for skinny ppl.. ppl around here are skinny, or have a small frame. Ppl say i'm "american sized".

I guess you maybe just be working yourself up. I mean, that whole country is adapted to their way of life. Their food is different than American food, their lifestyle is different than an American lifestyle, and it's just their culture. If you took a Korean and raised him/her in the states giving them an American lifestyle, they'd be different than their countrymen back home. Heheh, I hope that helps. Don't work yourself up too much about it.
 
Thanks Kris-Kros for your answer..much appreciated...glad to know I'm not the only one on the boat..!
as for hubby, no he's not in the armed forces, he's a freelance photographer..(not a fashion photographer though..thank god! haha) we're in Asia as he's on assignment for an Italian travel magazine...meanwhile I teach on the side
back to the topic...I wasn't necessarily wondering how they came to be that skinny...I completely understand it's metabolism, diet and lifestyle that keeps them thin...but it was more in regards to my husband and whether he notices how big I am compared to the rest of the population...what bothers me alot though is when people ¨(with good intentions) constantly offer me chocolat, doughnuts or cakes because they assume I ONLY eat that...and they do it in front of my husband..."oh your wife must love this!"..
but you are right, I think I'm working myself for nothing...I hope this will serve as a motivator though to shed those extra pounds
 
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hi there!!

glad you found us! well be here to support you!

Just curious, whats your weight/height?? I've got another 30 pds I want to loose!

But anyways, good luck and let me know if you have any questions!
 
Hey newbride..believe me I'm glad I found you guys! :) thanks for the warm welcome
I'm 5'8 and 160...most of the problem is in the booty area...somehow my mom's butt managed to find me halfway across the world :rolleyes:
well..actually not just the booty, the thighs..and my love handles are terrible..it's like I have a boob on each side
 
lol! I haven't heard love handles described that way before =) but i know what you mean and I can relate!!!

I think that you should know your husband better than any of us... maybe talk with him about it and see what he thinks and let him know that you really need his support in the midst of this culture difference... it might bring you closer.
 
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well today I was meeting hubby at a café...I asked for no whipped cream on my iced coffee..and that brought on the whole conversation about weight..he seemed really surprised when I mentionned my concerns about the local women..he said that he couldn't even begin to understand what I was talking about..he said I turned him on mentally, intellectually and physically..that the reason he loved me and married me was because I was me...and not someone else.
He said he was happy I decided to shed those extra-pounds because it clearly made me feel uncomfortable..and promised to support me in the process..
his assignment in Korea is ending early July..and we'll be flying to Italy then...
so no way in hell am I going back there chubby!.. I found a new motivation :p
 
I'm glad you talked to your hubby about this. I think that as women we worry a lot about our appearance, and think our husbands feel the same way. I think often they don't. My husband doesn't notice if I put 7 lbs on (however 14 lbs he does:D but never says so unless I straight out ask him). When I get down toward 160 lbs he starts worrying that my boobs are going to get smaller and I am going to turn into Geri Halliwell (who he used to fancy before she turned herself into, basically, a small boy,:eek: ). He would rather me have a curvy, sexy body, than be skinny. Men don't fancy fashion models, they fancy 'glamour' models and they are not skinny!:D
 
saram said:
well today I was meeting hubby at a café...I asked for no whipped cream on my iced coffee..and that brought on the whole conversation about weight..he seemed really surprised when I mentionned my concerns about the local women..he said that he couldn't even begin to understand what I was talking about..he said I turned him on mentally, intellectually and physically..that the reason he loved me and married me was because I was me...and not someone else.
He said he was happy I decided to shed those extra-pounds because it clearly made me feel uncomfortable..and promised to support me in the process..
his assignment in Korea is ending early July..and we'll be flying to Italy then...
so no way in hell am I going back there chubby!.. I found a new motivation :p
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That makes me feel good. I originally did not want to respond to this post. As I am a man and agree with your husband, I know very well that there are many men out there with no morals and will sleep with anything, opportunistically (if thats even a word). You've got a guy with a good head on his shoulders, congrats on that and your weight loss, best of luck :)
 
Speaking for myself, I think you hit it right on the head. Most guys don't obsess about a pound here and a pound there on a girl we love. Sometimes this gets us into trouble because we don't reallize we're being insensitive about these obsessions.
 
Sounds like your husband is not one of those "middle-aged losers" you were talking about. Welcome and good luck with your weight loss goals.
 
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