It's not 'all about calories' - learn to read. But calories in vs. calories out is the basis. If that doesn't work, if that basis isn't there, nothing else will have any effect. If that is a concept you don't understand, then you have a serious problem.
And I have a very good relationship with food, thank you. And with my body. I do not tell myself that there is some miracle way to sort out all the problems (like, not eating ANTI food), but that I have to use my brain, and make decisions in regards to what is good for me and what isn't. I don't demonize anything, and I learned about moderation, and that sometimes your body is simply sending the wrong messages.
You don't have to take advice from me. Nobody does. But what I say is based on facts, not make-believe. I don't run around telling people that I found the answer to everything, and that answer just happens to be another obscure fad (don't eat the ANTI foods!!). Because all the other obscure ideas worked so well, and never turned out to be complete nonsense.