Here goes nothing...

[LQDMusic]

Hey, all! I hope I've come to the right place. Y'all can call me LQD (lqd, LqD, lQd or any variation therein) and I used to be a super picky, thin as a stick little girl up until the age of 13. It wasn't puberty (I got there at age 10). It could have been the depression, or the weight gain could have caused the depression, could have been the move, overbearing and depressed mother, the difference in social classes, the ghost in our house, the multiple deaths in the family, I have no idea. I just remember looking in the mirror as a 5'2" girl who weighed 145lbs and seeing 5'2" girl that weighed 300lbs.

I haven't changed, to myself, in the mirror.

Difference is, I'm 13 years OLDER now and 130lbs heavier, and I know what I look like - unhealthy. I've had yo-yo motivation to lose weight for about three years now (I even lost 30lbs two years ago!... but I gained it all back and then some) but I think I'm ready to get out of this fat suit that has become my body. I don't feel like myself, I'm having really bad back issues and to top it all off I've got an incurable skin condition called HS - it's lovely, if I sweat, even a little, I get cysts! Blegh! So, as you can imagine, all that, coupled with the low self-esteem, means I get easily discouraged. I'm looking for motivation and most of all, I'm looking for courage to overcome my fear that people will judge and crucify and criticize and blame and laugh at me. That's where y'all come in.

I don't know if I want to continue this post, it's long as hell, but I AM currently doing things to lose weight... it's the support that's missing.

 

[HippieLexi]

Hello, LQD! I can relate to a lot of this. I've been on many different diets, some more consistent than most, and still ended up failing and gaining the weight back, even if i had lost a ton! This is because i relied on a short-term diet (or many) to fix a problem for life. And each time i started a diet, I was desperate to lose it FAST! because it'd always be for an upcoming event. That was my first mistake. My biggest advice to you overall, is to accept that it will take time. it may take a year or two or three. but that is okay! in that time you'll learn so much, especially confidence and self-love. the other comforting thing in accepting that this is long-term, is that a slip-up or treat won't absolutely devastate you. if you're working with a set time limit, you're constantly stressing about being perfect to achieve the goal. this isn't about being perfect, this is about being healthy, loving yourself and learning how to do it on your journey to your goals. if you want to exercise, do it lightly. like taking walks or riding a bike. Otherwise don't stress! 80% of losing weight is what you put into your body. Find your favorite fruits and vegetables, try new ones, retry ones you didn't like before, and shop accordingly! Drink water too! 6-8 bottles a day, start with less and work your way up if you need to. Find and try new & exciting meals, pick up some clean-eating cookbooks or gather some recipes from healthy/clean-eating articles. This will be fun and make weight-loss a lot more enjoyable, you get to create and have a delicious meal, and feel proud of yourself for doing so! meal prep if you have a busy schedule, there are lots of fun ways to do that, i'm getting into that currently. If you are struggling with anything else or have any more questions, I'd love to help! having support is so important during this for sure!

 

[LQDMusic]

the other comforting thing in accepting that this is long-term, is that a slip-up or treat won't absolutely devastate you. if you're working with a set time limit, you're constantly stressing about being perfect to achieve the goal.

You are absolutely right, you know this is one of my big things? If I eat a slice of pizza (or 4) and it throws my whole schedule off I just give up! Like I base my worth on will power. I'm glad someone understands

 

[HippieLexi]

You are absolutely right, you know this is one of my big things? If I eat a slice of pizza (or 4) and it throws my whole schedule off I just give up! Like I base my worth on will power. I'm glad someone understands

Girl of course! I think this is a common struggle and cycle people deal with, what is important is how you tackle it, never punish yourself for a slip-up. shake it off and remind yourself that tomorrow is a new day, from there everything will get better and easier. allow yourself a treat in moderation and enjoy it each time, with long-term commitment to a healthy lifestyle, that won't throw you off at all! you are just as worthy now as you will be in the future. love yourself in every form along this journey and that will continue to shine through you as you work toward your goals!

 

[Hopethishelps]

Hi LQDMUSIC, I love your honesty. Don't be discouraged. Read the post I added just after yours. I hope it helps. Don't ever give up, and don't blame yourself. Life is hard and depression is a huge problem in our current society. Xxx

 

[F. Schneider]

Hello, LQD! I can relate to a lot of this. I've been on many different diets, some more consistent than most, and still ended up failing and gaining the weight back, even if i had lost a ton! This is because i relied on a short-term diet (or many) to fix a problem for life. And each time i started a diet, I was desperate to lose it FAST! because it'd always be for an upcoming event. That was my first mistake. My biggest advice to you overall, is to accept that it will take time. it may take a year or two or three. but that is okay! in that time you'll learn so much, especially confidence and self-love. the other comforting thing in accepting that this is long-term, is that a slip-up or treat won't absolutely devastate you. if you're working with a set time limit, you're constantly stressing about being perfect to achieve the goal. this isn't about being perfect, this is about being healthy, loving yourself and learning how to do it on your journey to your goals. if you want to exercise, do it lightly. like taking walks or riding a bike. Otherwise don't stress! 80% of losing weight is what you put into your body. Find your favorite fruits and vegetables, try new ones, retry ones you didn't like before, and shop accordingly! Drink water too! 6-8 bottles a day, start with less and work your way up if you need to. Find and try new & exciting meals, pick up some clean-eating cookbooks or gather some recipes from healthy/clean-eating articles. This will be fun and make weight-loss a lot more enjoyable, you get to create and have a delicious meal, and feel proud of yourself for doing so! meal prep if you have a busy schedule, there are lots of fun ways to do that, i'm getting into that currently. If you are struggling with anything else or have any more questions, I'd love to help! having support is so important during this for sure!

Hi LQD!

I know exactly, how you feel yourself. I think most of us in this forum have been through this. But it is always good to learn from the ones, who have been through all this, so you are in advantage, because you don't have to repeat the mistakes of the others.

Fast weight losing ends up with fast weight gaining. What's quickly gone, is quickly back! Don't rush! It puts your body under the stress and it harms your body and your soul. Therefore, occurs the so called "yo-yo effect." Your body starts to strike.

It is good to live so, that you can enjoy the things you are doing. Don't mind, what the others are thinking or talking about you, because matters only this, what you think of yourself. Positively thinking and acting is a magnet of all good and positive. You must believe in your aim, to lose weight. And you will lose it. Make your physical movement as an enjoyment. It is good to walk for 30-45 minutes in a day in fresh air. If you have problem areas, as with butt and stomach, then some 5-10 minute exercises will be in the beginning good. So, you don't lose your motivation and you don't get bored.

YOU CAN DO IT! If the others can, then you can also, because you're not weaker than the others.

Eat everything you want in little amounts and drink a lot of water. And don't forget not to eat after the physical movement, then your body burns fat and you're losing weight.
GOOD LUCK!