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cocogirl

cocogirl

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I am loosing my motivation :( :( :( .I am tired of exercise,tired of drinking water,tired of counting calories.And I have such a long way to go with my weight.I feel like making myself a huge bacon/turkey/cheese/whatever in the fridge sandwich,feeling sorry for myself and watching lifetime television for women.Please,somebody tell me I am going to reach my goal. :(
 
You can do this. I am on my second time trying to get weight off after my son. It can take time, but YOU CAN DO IT!!! :) Ju sts stick with what you are doing. If your routines are getting boring try new fruits and veggies. Or if you only do a certain type of exercise trying doing outdoor activites or taking a class or something. I hope you feel better, just hang in there. And put back the bad sandwich. Just have that stuff in moderation. You can do it!!!
 
Of course you will but it will take time im afraid. I have 60kg to loose and I no it will take me around 2 years to loose that. What made you want to loose weight in the first place? Why did you think now was the time? Keep asking your self now why did I start. You no that you are worth it don’t you. Just think of how you feel every time you get on the scales and you have lost.

If your over the exercise you are doing try something new, even a team sport. If you are over water add a little cordial every second bottle. As for counting calories I can’t imagine how hard that is because I have a hard enough time counting point’s lol.

Keep your chin up mate it was never going to be easy but that’s why we are here for you. We are rooting for you to loose weight and feel better about yourself. As far as I no there is nothing wrong with having a turkey sandwich or a bacon sandwich just take off the fat, a cheese sandwich should be fine as well just go for 50% less fat. You could even add all 3 but just have fish and salad for dinner.

We are here for you and we all want you to succeed. YOU will reach your goal. :D
 
Motivation is difficult, but know that we are all here, pushing you on, and we will check up on you! =) I wish you the best of luck, and i think that what the other two posts said is right on - especially about adding some variety and keeping things varied. The same routine can get extremely boring and tiring, but if you try something new, it's so much easier to keep doing it.
 
Thank you so much,you all are so good! :) For a minute threre I thought I am done with all this dieting.I am amazed at how much will one have to apply to loose extra pounds.Gaining them were so much easier!
The reasons I am trying to loose weight:well,my hubby for the most part.He is very good to me and doesn't say anything,but I can see it in his eyes.He married a 135 pound lady 5 years ago and now has 225 pound Summo restler in the kitchen.It is not fare to him.We weren't intimate for 7 month because of my weight I think.It makes me sad to think about it :( :( :( .
I am eating mostly steamed spinach and veggies + fish or chicken,I can allow myself an apple in the morning,I speedwalk 5 miles a day.And it is not that I am hungry,no,I am just emotionaly tired of limiting myself.It is great though to have a place to come and cry on your shoulder,guyes :p .THANK YOU!!! :)
 
this brings up a key point that needs to be made often ... you are allowed to have a cheat day ... it'll help keep you sane. This means, that once a week, you can eat whatever you want ... but only ONCE. If you keep a strict diet throughout the rest of the week, your body gets into a routine of how many calories it takes in, etc. So, if you try to upset that cycle (re-iterating, once-a-week ;)), your body will compensate and go into overdrive to get back to where it was confortable. Now, this doesn't mean go overboard and eat everything in the house ... it just means that you can have your favorite pasta dish and a nice dessert and not feel guilty about it.

The same reasoning is behind the yo-yo affect and the reason why the slower you lose weight, the easier it is to maintain ... and why, changing your diet (especially starving yourself) doesn't work. Your body is confortable at a certain weight and caloric intake ... when you try to upset that balance, it tries to compensate ... like slowing down your metabolism when you starve.

Taking this into account can work in your favor with the "cheat day".
 
crap.. I need to have 2 cheat days this week.. party tomorrow.. again with lots of food and alcohol.. $#%T. Thats why I hate house parties. It's much better to go clubbing.
 
yea, i'll have to agree with that ... i've had 2 cheat days for the last 3 wks cuz of those damn parties ... friends coming to visit ... damn them!
 
Coco,

You need to look at all that you have accomplished thus far! :cool: Think of how your first workout went and the way you felt the next morning. :eek: Huh? You are doing much better now, right? :D Make a muscle! That wasn't there when you started, was it? :D Look at a pound of anything (ground beef, sugar, dumbell). That is the amount every pound you lose!

Your a lean mean dieting machine! :) :) :)

Also if you could find a workout buddy so you can "count on" each other it is much easier to stay motivated because even when you BOTH don't feel like working out yuo do becaue you don't want to let each other down.

Finally, sometimes a bacon/turkey/cheese/whatever in the fridge sandwich is JUST what you do need. Falling off the wagon once does not make anyone a failure and denying yourself of all the good stuff is no fun.

YOU WLL REACH YOUR GOAL!

Just keep in mind that taking one day off from exercise is not a bad thing, BUT it can make it harder to get back "on" the next day. Promise yurself that you WILL workout tomorrow and you can stay in and watch lifetime today, ok?
 
Thank you AllCdnBoy and Red :) !You are so good!It made me feel better just to read your posts.I noticed I have a small crisis every day :( .Sometimes I have it in the morning,sometimes in the middle of the day,I almost loose my faith.This is the hardest damn thing I have ever done in my life,it is constant nonstop battle for me.It is so much easier to know that I can come here any time and read your kind,smart,understanding posts. :) :) You are the bestests! :)
 
One think that might help is try not to think about it as a weight loss plan or dieting, think of it as getting heathy. Another thing is you said you were tried of drinking water, then try some thing that is sugar free, such as crystal light. These are jsut the same benefit as drinking water but it gives you a little variety without adding calories. Just make it fun and don't take on to much at a time. Remember small changes will equal a healthier life style to last. I hope this helps.
 
cocogirl said:
It is not fare to him.We weren't intimate for 7 month because of my weight I think.It makes me sad to think about it :( :( :( .
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As I was finishing reading all the replys I came across this. First off it doesn't have to be fair to him. This is something you do for yourself and not anyone else. I know this because I'm the exactly same as you. I let myself go and went from being 135lbs to being 225 lbs and I found out after trying to make everyone around me happy that I'm the only one that can change the way I am not them, so it has to be my decision. Now I may be a little bold in tellin gyou this and I don't want to offend you but I think that he is being selfish. He should love you for you and not because you were thinner when you first got married. If I'm wrong I'm sorry. But if you are really serious about this make a commitment make a journal of what you eat and what exercises you do. This can help you by figuring out what exactly you are eating and what exactly you are doing. Also you say that you feel really restricted well then maybe you are not getting enough calories. And don't forget that you really should be eating 5-6 meals a day about equal portions. If you need any help I would more the willing to help you because I know exactly what you are going through.
 
getting better

Think about it this way, if you give up thigs can only get worse, but if you keep what you are doing things can only get better. It might take time, but they will!
 
Hi Coco girl. Repetition of the same daily routine causes boredom. I cannot tell you how many times I did not want to go to the gym or stick on my eating program because I was bored. The way that I overcame these feelings was by switching around my daily routine. Maybe tomorrow eat dinner food for breakfast...perform your gym exercises in reverse order. Drink decaffeinated tea instead of water. This little changes can make a big difference and give you a fresh outlook on your goal
 
Familiarity breeds contempt!
Although repeating some things 7-12 times create a habit (such as excerising) u just have to change HOW ur excercising. Make it a habit of going to the gym or running up the stairs or parking far at the mall and lightly jogging to the enterance. The way I thought about it was I see women on the life channel that use to weigh 300lbs and after 4-5 yrs are body builders....they look great!!! And all i can think of is WOW they sculpted their bodies on thier own....man I can SOOO do that!!!....u just have to get that attitude and change all the lil 'bad' habits you do....that's what i've learned!
a lil habit changing story....
my boyfriend LOVES Chili Hamburger Helper....1 cup of that i believe is 360 calories (dang)...so instead of cooking 2 meals i tend to eat 1 cup or try to eat half a cup (ya right)...i don't get home till about 8pm after a work out....so if i eat that after my workout i feel depressed cuz i wasted a workout....so NOW i've cut him a deal...i change that habit....everytime he wants me to make Hamburger helper, he gets to buy me sushi...one of my favorite 'good for me foods' ....i know a lot of ppl don't like sushi but maybe u can subsitute it for a 6" sub (no cheese) on whole wheat...but sushi is a good source of protien and other stuff hahahah.....if you're familiar with sushi i order salmon sashimi (has no rice) and 1 roll of whatever i want (a little rice)
But this is what i've done with all my bad habits....just subsitute....then i don't get so bored and depressed cuz he can have pizza and i can't (until the weekend ;))
But keep ur head up girlfriend!!!!! In no time you'll have the Miss Sexxy Hot Bod you want!!! And the funny thing is u won't even know how u got there....u just changed ur habits....
This is the perfect place to get ur motivation....everyone here have the same goals and they'll help u push urself when ur feeling low....

Good luck Sexxy momma!
 
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