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Faithie

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Hi Guys,

I have been reading your forum for quite some time now. When I first started reading it I had been with Cohens for about 2 months, I found it helped me with my inital challenge. I didn't deviate once in 108 days. But then I went to NSW to visit family, ended up really stressed and then I fell off the wagon with a GIANT thud. I am hugely disappointment in myself and find that even though I know it works, why it works, the mechanics of it all etc that I can't keep on track. I keep kicking myself I have lost 1kg in the last month and my weight seems to fluctuate but staying around 77-78kg. I really want to keep going with diet that has helped me shed some 30kg already but I just can't stay motivated. I start the day with the greatest intentions and then somewhere along the line I have a huge unbearable, hard to ignore sugar craving and I cave. I really did love how I felt on Cohens and loved that I didn't need to deviate or that I didn't want to. Now I don't want to but can't stop myself. Can someone please offer some sort of help. I want my MOJO back desperately I have another 16kg to lose and I really want to get there. I definately don't want to be doing this for the rest of my life!

Love to you all. And thank you for any help or input.

Faithie:)
 
Faithie are you able to anticipate the sugar cravings? If so, how about saving some fruit for this time or even your soft drink. I'm sorry to hear that you've fallen off so hard, but you know it works so maybe you need to remember how you were feeling about your weight and yourself before you started the plan to try and recapture the Mojo.
Do you have some before photos? See if that helps to motivate you.
To lose 30kgs, is a hell of an achievement, well done. I hope you get to a point where you can finish the program, you are 2/3 there already. Tomorrow is another new day, have all your snacks ready and organised and see if that helps, you only need to resist for one day at a time so take that day and run with it cos then it'll be the next one before you know it.
Good luck, I hope this helps a little.
Lauren
 
Thank you Lauren.

At this point I can't actually predict when they are going to happen. It hits me like a tonne of bricks it is that bad. But I can tell you if it is going to happen it will be late afternoon / evening. The morning is easy peasy. :)

An example of poor will power is that I started today feeling this is the day for me... I had an egg, a cracker and tomato for breakfast, I had plenty of water then I had my lunch planned and even got fruit then I sabotaged myself by deciding that seeing how my parents were getting some hot chips for lunch that I would get some for the family too.

I had every intention of being strong and getting my tuna salad sorted. As I left my parents, my mum handed me some biscuits she had bought for my kids. I took them with me and on the way home I ate some hot chips and even opened the biscuits.

I am so disgusted in myself and if I could be sick to reverse it I would but I just can't. I know that this is not the answer and can see that by typing my "Confession" that I need to avoid all the traps. I am going to take my hubby shopping with me when we go next and I am going to become a food Nazi in my house, just until I kick it and realise that I can be strong enough to say NO. I used to say no with great ease but now, its not when others offer I can refuse it is when I know that they are there. Does this make sense?

This is how ridiculous I am dinner was weighed out and no deviations then about 20 minutes later I had an icecream. I don't understand why I keep on doing this to myself. It is just absolutelty CRAZY.

I read someone elses post and she had said that when you get to a certain point that you may feel that I've achieved so much and done so well what the hey and deviate just a little. DONT DO IT, it pushes you off the ledge and it takes ages to get back up. I look at myself and the weight that Cohens has said is my goal is 59-61 but when I see the flabby belly overhanging, from the giant babies I had, the bat wing arms I get afraid and don't know how much worse it is going to get when I get to that weight. This is weird though since I have deviated whilst I have not put on weight I have firmed up. Maybe there is nothing to be scared of afterall? I have not been this weight since I was 16 years old and even then I was always told I was fat. I look at myself in the mirror and see a fat person, still the same size as I was before but I find it totally amazing that I can fit into smaller spaces. It is like the mirror is playing tricks on me.

I'm still interested in what others have to say, so if you could post about what you do to stop deviating I would appreciate it. Any help that anyone has to offer is graciously accepted.

Thanks
Faithie
 
when i was pregnant and a bit frantic about the labour process, a wise colegue of mine told me to take it one contraction at a time...20hs of contractions later, her advice held out, i did it.

Just take it one meal at a time. Before you know it, 16 kilos later, you've done it

x
 
Hi,
As a late afternoon sugar craving person myself, my other piece of advice is to not have a cracker for breakfast. Have 2 for morning tea, 2 for an early-ish afternoon tea, and save one for a late afternoon snack, or after dinner. (remembering to leave the required time between crackers). That way, you can have something between meals. I also save a piece of fruit for after dinner, so that I can get that sweet taste in my mouth instead of dessert.
and then I think you have to take it one meal at a time as xanadu said.
and don't beat yourself up when you deviate. Its easy to say "well, I've had one chip, I might as well have the lot of them". Instead of saying "well, I've had one chip, and so I know what they taste like, I don't need any more"
Pen
 
Hi Faithie
just a thought, Can you talk to a therapist? I know I've said this before but talking to a professional can help. They really helped me see the wood for the trees. I was seeing my therapist for other reasons but she has said that if I get to the point you are that Medicare will pay for the consults, so I'm not sure how it works but maybe see if you can get a referral.
Also I wrote up a weeks worth of menu's and weighed out into little bags the weeks vegies and meat and put them into the fridge. That way I didn't need to spend time in the kitchen.
I know I have only just started this but I am determined this time. I got my kids involved and explained what it was about. I explained they needed to keep ice-cream and chips away from me and that we wouldn't be having take out for a month or so. Later I will get hubby to take them to Maccas without me. They also have to put their scraps in the bin or give them to the dogs as soon as they have finished so I don't find them at 10pm when I get hungry.

Like so many people on here have said.It is for such a short time in your life, try to arrange your life around it. I know what triggers me so I avoid the triggers completely. It is difficult for the rest of the family, but hell it is for me too.

Even if you need to cross off 1 hour at a time for the hours that you have not deviated, just do it.

You have done so well, keep going and finish this thing.
also what about your consultant is she any help?
 
Thanks guys you have been a great inspiration. I have woke up a new person, feeling that I have control and i'm not going to let it out of my sight.

I was thinking that I may need to see a therapist, seeing how I am paying all this money into a health fund maybe I can get some good use from it.

I had a chat last night with some lovely ladies and feel so much better, and positive this morning.

I've decided that the past is the past and now I'm moving forward into the skinny future.

I have just done a quick check in my cupboards and there is nothing in there that can be used to deviate. I am thankful that I found Cohens, this forum and you wonderful people. I truly feel blessed.

I have another visit to NSW in June and I hope to be at my goal, stable, refed and free from this weigth battle.

Thank you again ladies you're a life saver, each and every one of you.

Faithie.
 
Faithie

You sound so positive this morning - go for it - we are all with you along the ups and downs -

Cohens and this forum are two fantastic things to have found, and we can all do this together.

If we were to add up all the current cohens forum users weight loss in the last month how much would that be???
 
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