Hello. I'm new and pretty much just need to talk. I feel terrible. I am 32 and weigh 265. I have never been this heavy, although I have struggled my entire life with my weight. I just feel awful. I look nothing like how I feel. I look in the mirror and see this disgusting, fat person and I don't know how that became ME. I had to go to the store tonight and I ended up buying a bunch of crap I don't need--but I know I'll eat. And I just want to throw it all away but that would be wasting food. I don't feel like a 265 lb woman. I DO feel gross and heavy and just plain huge, but really inside, I don't feel like how I look. It's like my body has forsaken me and I cannot do the things I used to do. I just really hate this. I have been trying and no matter how DESPERATELY I want to lose weight, I just end up not caring anymore. If anyone has anything to say, please do. I need all the support I can get.
Hello....I'm new and just need to talk
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xorie
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hey, you came to the right place. I recently joined, and have found the support great. As for the food you bought, do you have a food bank near you? If it's crap (but tasty crap) remember, the people who use the food bank usually eat plain things, and rarely get to eat anything "yummy" If you don't want to throw away the food, donate it, and it won't get wasted.
I'm 16, and have the some of the same problems. I would look in the mirror and see someone that i knew the boys wouldn't want to hang out with. all i could see was the fat and the "grossness" of my body. I personally learned to accept it, but it took me forever to do that, and now that i've accepted it, I can finally go about changing it to how I want it.
Welcome to the forum, and I hope you find what you're looking for!
I'm 16, and have the some of the same problems. I would look in the mirror and see someone that i knew the boys wouldn't want to hang out with. all i could see was the fat and the "grossness" of my body. I personally learned to accept it, but it took me forever to do that, and now that i've accepted it, I can finally go about changing it to how I want it.
Welcome to the forum, and I hope you find what you're looking for!
lowie57
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hello there, i joined this forum about 2 days ago now, im 17, male, 275 pounds, and i started my new life today.. honestly this forum is the best thing that has happened to me in a long time, you will find all the support you need right here. i know i cant really speak from experience because i have only starting my new healthy life a coulpe days ago, but sharing things on here with other people striving for the same goals, you cant help but feel motivated, for me its been 3 days now and i havnt touched a single bad thing.
and i am really feeling much better. The first step you need to make is CHOOSING.. to live healthier. having a healthier lifestyle, not a diet..
.. just remember your not alone, i was in your shoes a couple days ago, and just in a couple days im feeling 110% better knowing i am taking control of my life.. and not letting my food determin what i can and cant do.. this will be the best choice i would have made in my lifetime... and i am excited to improve myself now.. last night i couldnt get to sleep because i was so excited about goin to the gym this morning. and the people on here have helped me alot.
everyone on here is friendly and willing to help.. its great that you have taken the first step in reaching out and recognising your problems.. we are proud of you for doing that.. now its time for some action
and i am really feeling much better. The first step you need to make is CHOOSING.. to live healthier. having a healthier lifestyle, not a diet..
.. just remember your not alone, i was in your shoes a couple days ago, and just in a couple days im feeling 110% better knowing i am taking control of my life.. and not letting my food determin what i can and cant do.. this will be the best choice i would have made in my lifetime... and i am excited to improve myself now.. last night i couldnt get to sleep because i was so excited about goin to the gym this morning. and the people on here have helped me alot.
everyone on here is friendly and willing to help.. its great that you have taken the first step in reaching out and recognising your problems.. we are proud of you for doing that.. now its time for some action
Spectra
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Hey, I know exactly how you feel and I mean exactly. I never thought of myself as a fat person. Until something would slap me the face. I'd see a picture or myself, or over hear something I wasn't meant to. I'd be determined to lose the weight and then after a few weeks give up again.
If you are ready it will happen. It took me over 10 years to be ready, but you really need to get to that point were there's no turning back. Start that determination now. Take all that unhealthy food you have and give it away! To a skinny family member, the food bank to the neighbor kids it doesn't matter get rid of it. That's a first great step in a long journey. You won't have to forever without any of those treats but don't keep them in the house, if you need to take a break and have a treat be determined to walk somewhere (preferably a mile or 2 away ) and buy one single portion controlled treat. That's worked wonders for me
I really hope things work for you, we all know how hard it is here I'm sure So stick around and enjoy the benefits that everyone here has to offer. I know I'm going to!
If you ever want to chat feel free to catch me on msn or yahoo messenger I'm usually around
Good Luck!
If you are ready it will happen. It took me over 10 years to be ready, but you really need to get to that point were there's no turning back. Start that determination now. Take all that unhealthy food you have and give it away! To a skinny family member, the food bank to the neighbor kids it doesn't matter get rid of it. That's a first great step in a long journey. You won't have to forever without any of those treats but don't keep them in the house, if you need to take a break and have a treat be determined to walk somewhere (preferably a mile or 2 away
) and buy one single portion controlled treat. That's worked wonders for me I really hope things work for you, we all know how hard it is here I'm sure
So stick around and enjoy the benefits that everyone here has to offer. I know I'm going to!If you ever want to chat feel free to catch me on msn or yahoo messenger I'm usually around
Good Luck!
twinmom2791
New member
Hi!
Hello! We are about the same age and close in size, and I know exactly what you mean about just not caring. I spent so many years overweight, and just not caring enough to stick it out and do anything about it! But now I am, and I am changng my life - not just going on a diet. You can do it, too, and there are lots of people here who will help you succeed.
My best advice is to get a journal and start writing how you feel. You can do that on paper or on here, but you have to get your negative emotions out of the way so that you can get motivated and stick to a plan. Start writing down what you are eating, without really making any big changes, and in a week you will actually SEE where a lot of your eating problems are. And finally, MOVE! Do something, anything, to get in some exercise at least 30 minutes three times a week. It will increase your metabolism, increase your energy, and fuel your enthusiasm!
You can do it! You just have to want to do it.
Hello! We are about the same age and close in size, and I know exactly what you mean about just not caring. I spent so many years overweight, and just not caring enough to stick it out and do anything about it! But now I am, and I am changng my life - not just going on a diet. You can do it, too, and there are lots of people here who will help you succeed.
My best advice is to get a journal and start writing how you feel. You can do that on paper or on here, but you have to get your negative emotions out of the way so that you can get motivated and stick to a plan. Start writing down what you are eating, without really making any big changes, and in a week you will actually SEE where a lot of your eating problems are. And finally, MOVE! Do something, anything, to get in some exercise at least 30 minutes three times a week. It will increase your metabolism, increase your energy, and fuel your enthusiasm!
You can do it! You just have to want to do it.
Hey Sunny and welcome!
As twinmom, Spectra.Lowre and xorie wrote, I feel the same.
You will get a lot support here and some very good motivation from those who are in your shoes. Oh yeah, I feel great inside, but when I see a picture of myself of have to sit in a chair that feel uncomfortable because I have extra fat hanging out, or fear I am taking to much space, etc, I feel terrible.
So lets all lose this weight and healthy mentally and physically. One step at a time, then the hill finally looks smaller. YOu can do it Sunny! you are already on your way because you asked for help. Take care,JDI
As twinmom, Spectra.Lowre and xorie wrote, I feel the same.
You will get a lot support here and some very good motivation from those who are in your shoes. Oh yeah, I feel great inside, but when I see a picture of myself of have to sit in a chair that feel uncomfortable because I have extra fat hanging out, or fear I am taking to much space, etc, I feel terrible.
So lets all lose this weight and healthy mentally and physically. One step at a time, then the hill finally looks smaller. YOu can do it Sunny! you are already on your way because you asked for help. Take care,JDI
Hi Sunny! I'm new here, too, as of today. I totally know where you're coming from! I'm starting my healthy lifestyle at 280 pounds and wanting to go to 160. It seems so far away! And alot of times my mind seems to sabotage my heart. My heart wants to lose the weight and get healthy, but my mind wants the food ... any type of food, it doesn't matter. I'm seldom hungry, but I can't seem to stop putting food in my mouth. I am looking forward to both receiving and giving support on this forum. Like you, I need all the help I can get! I know you can do it!!!! You've taken the first step. Don't be shy about posting. That's what we're all here for. Good luck! Keep taking those baby steps forward!
Hello SunnyM,
I am also new here and have made a decision to take back control of my body. The first step is wanting to do this. Then you need to convince yourself that you can do it. YOU CAN DO IT!!!! Then it's time to make a plan. Buy Veggies and fruits, get rid of chips and soda. Already that is a huge improvement. Once you no longer crave any of these items (Which will happen) you can make other changes in your diet.
Start excercising today. Go for a walk, jog, swim, treadmil, eliptical, play frisby, play catch, play sports, whatever. Anything that gets you off the sofa and active. Start small if you have to. Did I mention YOU CAN DO IT!!!!
Good luck
I am also new here and have made a decision to take back control of my body. The first step is wanting to do this. Then you need to convince yourself that you can do it. YOU CAN DO IT!!!! Then it's time to make a plan. Buy Veggies and fruits, get rid of chips and soda. Already that is a huge improvement. Once you no longer crave any of these items (Which will happen) you can make other changes in your diet.
Start excercising today. Go for a walk, jog, swim, treadmil, eliptical, play frisby, play catch, play sports, whatever. Anything that gets you off the sofa and active. Start small if you have to. Did I mention YOU CAN DO IT!!!!
Good luck
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Thank you guys so much for the kind words of support. I really was pretty low last night. I am working two jobs and came home for lunch (instead of Taco Bell, so I guess that's a good thing), and came online. You people! WOW. I am overwhelmed. It is amazing to have so many people, who I don't even frigging know , behind me in my struggle. Thank you all so much. And, hopefully, I can be supportive of you all as well. I'm going to my second job of the day now....and as I go I'm counting my blessings!
Getting Better - Sunny
Thank you guys so much for the kind words of support. I really was pretty low last night. I am working two jobs and came home for lunch (instead of Taco Bell, so I guess that's a good thing), and came online. You people! WOW. I am overwhelmed. It is amazing to have so many people, who I don't even frigging know
, behind me in my struggle. Thank you all so much. And, hopefully, I can be supportive of you all as well. I'm going to my second job of the day now....and as I go I'm counting my blessings!Getting Better - Sunny