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AcidicLemons

AcidicLemons

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Hellooooo.
Well I'm having a bit of a problem, & I'd just like advice or some overall tips.
Since starting my new exercising routine during the summer, I've lost about 15 pounds.
I've gained 3 back, but I notice one thing.
I'm having a hard time accomodating my family's meals w/ my own.
I'm one of the main bread winners of the household (along w/ my brother), & my responsibility is to grocery shop.
Since starting, I've come to realize that I simply can't afford to buy "family" groceries, & then my own more healthful choices. It's starting to show up on the scale how much it's affecting me, but they don't want to change their habits.
I guess I'm wondering if anyone was ever in a situation like this (with lack of support) & how I can kind of...fight off the family's vibes, I guess! lol.
I really want to lose weight, but I do have to eat at home, too.
 
AcidicLemons said:
Hellooooo.
Well I'm having a bit of a problem, & I'd just like advice or some overall tips.
Since starting my new exercising routine during the summer, I've lost about 15 pounds.
I've gained 3 back, but I notice one thing.
I'm having a hard time accomodating my family's meals w/ my own.
I'm one of the main bread winners of the household (along w/ my brother), & my responsibility is to grocery shop.
Since starting, I've come to realize that I simply can't afford to buy "family" groceries, & then my own more healthful choices. It's starting to show up on the scale how much it's affecting me, but they don't want to change their habits.
I guess I'm wondering if anyone was ever in a situation like this (with lack of support) & how I can kind of...fight off the family's vibes, I guess! lol.
I really want to lose weight, but I do have to eat at home, too.
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There is no easy way around this, but you have to put your (and frankly your family's) health first. I would buy healthy food for the most part, and if someone must have treats you can buy a few cheap treats with the leftover money. They will not like it, but you can say that you simply cannot in good conscience buy food that will kill you and them.

Since it's your money, they won't be able to do much about it, but it will create initial tension before they adjust. To minimize the tension, you just have to emphasize the health and conscience aspects of it so you don't come across as selfish. Just keep saying how you're looking out for their health and you cannot spend money on poison. You might come across as a bit crazy to them, but it's better than the tension that they'd feel if you just said screw you I'm going to do what I want.
 
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Before junk food became 'junkie' there were versions of the food that were healthy. It wasn't low calorie but it was made with healthy baseline ingredients (flour, milk, butter, sugar, fruit, veggies & meats).

My husband wasn't too keen on the simple diet I prefer so he created his own easy to make version of burgers (home made patties with a wholemeal bun), pizza (wholemeal bread with melted cheese, herbs and tomato), fries (potato shallow fried in olive oil), pies (pastry made with wholemeal four, butter & milk with mince meat, veggies & herbs), etc, etc.

Once you get the hang of cooking particular dishes it doesn't take that much time to prepare.

Perhaps your family need to get a little creative. That way you can shop for good healthy foods and they can create their own healhy based versions of the foods they like.

These situations take a little give and effort from both sides and you can find a happy medium.
 
Thanks for the replies.
I was just so upset because they weren't taking my weight loss as seriously as I am.
You're absolutely right. It's my money, & I have a say in what I buy.
I don't like arguing, but that may have to happen.
:) I think I'll go on the search for some healthy recipes that might suit them. That may help a lot.
Thanks for the input !
 
One thing my marriage therapist told me, is that you should never take the “ don’t want to say anything road.” if you keep pushing your feelings down, and putting everyone else before yourself, you are going to end up very unhappy.

My husband is not too keen on our food changes eighter, but I have been slipping them in here and there. Another thing our therapist suggested is to make a cheat dish at dinner. It’s almost always cheesy noodles for my husband. But they are cheap and easy to fix on the side. You wont have to eat them and if its something everyone wants than they are happy. Also you can switch out old stuff and make stuff a new way to make it more healthy.

Mac and cheese made with whole weat noodles is much better than something in a box.
 
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I personally have been doing South Beach for several weeks now. I have the same problem you do (albeit another iteration). But my wife and I host A LOT of parties, and people always demand good food. South Beach recipes are suprisingly great. I bought the yellow 30-minute recipe book, and there are some real winners in that book. Typically, the wife and I will test the recipe first, and if it's a "wow" then we make it for the family/ friends when they come over. There are many flavorful, low-fat substitutions in that book, like goat cheese, spinaich, cauliflower mashed potatoes, etc. and many times, people are suprised how much THEY like it. One of the keys for our success is to not tell people it's low-cal till after the fact. People can be so biased going into a mean knowing it's "healthy".. which is ironic given the obesity epidemic in the US!!

I hope to hear how it works out!
 
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