Fat, Ugly, and not sure what to do

[Jarri-Ann]

I am fat, ugly, and very unattractive. My husband doesn't even want to have sex with me. I can tell by the way he looks at me that I disgust him. His attitude is lousy but when I see myself in the mirror I want to throw up. I am really obese and gross.

I want to get laid but obviously my husband is not interested. I feel that I am a terrible role model for my kids. Can someone suggest what to do?

 

[alligatorob]

Hey Jerri, welcome to the forum!

First of all I doubt you are ugly, but I can understand why you feel that way. I know I used to, maybe still do once in a while. What you can do about it is get on a diet and start some exercising. In my experience you will feel better and better about yourself by just getting started. I would start right now! No need to delay, and no need to wait to find the perfect diet, you know what you can do to improve your eating now. And you can perfect the diet as you go. Seeing you doing something about your weight will make you a good role model, pretty quickly. Maybe you can try to involve your kids, or at least tell them what you are doing.

I suggest you start a diary on the Weight Loss Diary page, https://weight-loss.fitness.com/forums/weight-loss-diary.9/ and tell us more about yourself and your goals. Then for a while try logging your food and activity at least once a day. You will find a lot of friendly, knowledgeable folk who can help. And who understand, most of us have been where you are now, we share a common problem.

I am looking forward to reading about your progress!

 

[Cate]

with Rob. Start now & stop giving yourself such a hard time.

 

[Llama]

What the others said. Treating yourself with kindness, compassion, and a little strictness where it's necessary (as I'm sure you do with your kids) is a much better example than effortlessly looking like a model.