Did your weight loss changed your self-esteem or another thing in your life?

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Hi.
When going throw a weight loss and making this lifestyle change and the way to see and taste food, there a reason or reasons that made us start our plans.
Mine is like a roller coaster, a lot of reasons(at least i can't complain about not having motivation) and was formed during a time when i wasn't doing "ok" emotional, but instead of turning myself to food, i turned to weight loss and to this change(And it has been 3 months and not going back to old habits). But anyway, there is already a thread for saying the reasons to your weight loss in the forum.
So with this change and weight loss, we end up getting to goal or close from goal. And what i would like to hear is people's opinion that are in that situation(of achieving goal or getting close) and even people that are losing weight and going to their goals, is this change helped you get more "out of you shell", being less shy, getting better self-esteem if yours wasn't too high. One of the reasons on my weight loss journey is because im hopping to be less shy and gain more self-esteem, although mine is not very low, is not very high either...
Thank you for your time.
 
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One positive thing is that I stand up for myself more now. For instance yesterday I went to a gym on a free pass that somebody gave me. When I got there the women on reception said that she didn't know anything about the passes and that I couldn't go in. In the past I would have not wanted to draw attention to myself and would have just gone home but yesterday I insisted that she phones around until she finds somebody that knew what they were. And of course I ended up going to the gym :)
Previously I would have done anything not to have any attention on me. Now I feel much more confident.
 
Losing weight can be a confidence booster, but not always. I know plenty of big people who are some of the most confident people I know, and I know plenty of small people completely shy and reserved. Its all about your own frame of mind.

Some people think, if i only lost weight I'd be able to make friends or find a girlfriend/boyfriend or impress the boss or get a job or whatever. And then, they lose weight and do exactly what they said they would do, but completely miss the causation - that it probably wasn't losing the weight that got you what you wanted and made you more confident, it was being confident that got you what you wanted and the weight had nothing to do with it.

Sometimes, losing weight can help you discover your own confidence. Other times, if you lose weight and don't get what you were expecting as a result of the weight loss, it can be even more demoralizing.


Anyways, losing weight has changed things in my life, emotionally. I've gone through it a few times. The biggest change I struggle with is contentment. When I'm unhappy with my body, its easier to be motivated to change it. When I become content, it hard to be motivated to just maintain - "oh, I'm not trying to lose weight anymore so I can have that burrito, and I can skip the workout today and just go tomorrow", and it compounds from there until the weight is going backwards. The contentment usually comes from how people treat me. Lots of praise and congratulations and being told how great I look, makes it hard to keep trying to continue. I've failed in the past because of contentment. Now, I constantly remind myself that I'm losing weight for me, not to impress anybody but myself, so I should hopefully avoid the contentment at least until I look in the mirror and can't see a single way I could improve :p

I no longer associate confidence with weight loss. I used to, but not anymore. My confidence and self-esteem is mostly affected by other aspects of my life, such as my job, my relationship with my wife, etc. Weight and my looks don't affect me like they used to when I was younger.
 
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