Depressed and ready to quit

AdamH

AdamH

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Hello,

So I'm new here but struggling with my weight has been a life long struggle. I've let it go for so long that all the progress that I've made has disappeared and then some. Now I'm back on the horse. I've been running for 30 mins a day 5 days a week (during lunch) for the last 3 weeks (burning roughly 500 calories at a time). Everything has been going great (7lbs in 2 weeks). Now I've gained 3 lbs back but nothing has changed diet wise. I just don't get it. Maybe I'm not eating enough (1 banana and 1 orange for breakfast and the same for lunch. Dinner was a 6in wheat sub...yes i know not the greatest). But I'm to the point of just giving up on this all together and accept me just being fat.
 
You're definitely not eating enough.

Why do you want to lose weight?
 
I'm tired of my own skin. Tired of how i look. I used to be in the Marine Corps and was healthy then. Fast forward 5 years I've gained almost 80lbs. Plus i want to be around for my kids.
 
See, these are some good points that can help keep you motivated. If you give up now, the things you're tired of will never go away. But if you keep going, you still have a chance of changing things for the better. It is going to be tough, and it's not easy getting rid of the thoughts of quitting, but small steps can take you closer to everything you want.

I'd suggest rethinking your approach to nutrition. 1 banana and 1 orange for breakfast and lunch gives you carbs, but almost no fats or protein in comparison. There's nothing wrong with eating bananas or oranges, but including good fats and protein will make it a good balanced meal that gives you the nutrition you need, keeps you fuller longer and helps with weight loss. Exercise at this point is secondary, it should support your efforts with the food you consume.

How are you planning your meals? Do you count calories, or use apps like MyFitnessPal or similar to track your calories? How much do you know about food contents in terms of carbs, fats and protein?
 
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I'm completely illiterate to nutrients. I just know fruits are good burgers are bad (not being funny but telling the truth of what I know). I forgot to mention I had about 20 cherries for a snack. However, after joining this site, I downloaded an app (Sparkpeople) and inputted what I ate and my workout. It says I still need to consume 2,375 to 2,725 more calories to be on par with lossing 2lbs a week. That just seems like a LOT. I was always under the impression that less is always better but guess I was wrong. I attempted to download the app you mentioned but when I attempted to signup, it just sat there loading. For my meal planning, I just buy a bunch of fresh fruit and grab some before I go to work.
 
Sparkpeople works too! Keeping count of all the things that go into your body is a good way of seeing what you're doing right and what needs improving. It also keeps you accountable. It's not that easy to eat something very high in calories if you see the actual numbers in front of you. You could have several healthy meals with the same amount of calories and still feel satisfied.

I guess the "eat less, exercise more" mentality is the biggest lie people have bought into. You really don't need to eat less, you just need to eat the right kinds of food in quantities that best suit your goals. And it really does work, as crazy as it sounds. You can even make burgers and still lose weight. The bigger you are, the more you can actually eat to lose weight. Balance is key. Vegetables, eggs, lean meats, good fats/nuts/seeds, wholegrains, look into recipes that include those and your weight loss journey doesn't have to be such a huge struggle.

There's tons of information out there on nutrition, and not all of it is helpful or even healthy. It's not all about counting calories, getting the right nutrients is important too. But once you gain enough knowledge from this forum (and Sparkpeople too, if you like using it), it will get easier to deal with your weight as well. Don't give up on yourself!
 
Thank you for the kind words. I've added chicken to my lunch tomorrow along with a spinach salad onions and tomato. We'll see how it goes. Cheers.
 
AdamH said:
Thank you for the kind words. I've added chicken to my lunch tomorrow along with a spinach salad onions and tomato. We'll see how it goes. Cheers.


Hey man, I lost about 120 pounds when I was at my lightest, and my main advice in terms of food and nutrition would be to do some of your own research just on google search up good foods for weight loss, it helped me learn so much, I barely trained and didn't stick with the gym as I found it boring, but food and nutrition just from researching on the internet enabled me to lose the weight and become healthier.
Keep up your hard work man you already proved to yourself you can lose weight on your own, so with the power and knowledge you can gain from the Internet you will become unstoppable.
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I eat the carbs for the energy that I'm about to expend during lunch (my workout time). If i don't have the carbs i have 0 energy. I don't know if i can get the raspberries keytones where i live. Pills are hard for me to import (currently in Germany for the next few years). If I can in going to give it a shot. Thanks for the video.
 
Hmmm never thought of a detox before. Found a good water detox of Apple Cider Vinegar and cinnamon. Im going to get this is go.
 
AdamH, I guess you're going to get a lot of different, and sometimes even conflicting information about how to approach weight loss. Mattbrad94 gave some really good advice about doing your own research on food and nutrition. Try out different things just so you can find the best things that suit you and your goals. If some things don't work, try not to get discouraged. As long as you're focusing on your health, and not just weight loss with any means possible, you going in the right direction.
 
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AdamH, I guess you're going to get a lot of different, and sometimes even conflicting information about how to approach weight loss. Mattbrad94 gave some really good advice about doing your own research on food and nutrition. Try out different things just so you can find the best things that suit you and your goals. If some things don't work, try not to get discouraged. As long as you're focusing on your health, and not just weight loss with any means possible, you going in the right direction.
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One thing everyone on this forum will agree on is don't give up, no matter what don't give up, if you ever need to talk or need support people on forums like this are great and will offer you advice on anything from the scales to the fridge and to the gym, anything you need to know all you have to do is ask my friend
 
Thanks Matt. Honestly needed to talk/vent. It's just very depressing when you think your doing amazing and then you gain weight. Im still in the early phase of weight loss again and i just need to keep reminding myself that.
 
AdamH said:
Thanks Matt. Honestly needed to talk/vent. It's just very depressing when you think your doing amazing and then you gain weight. Im still in the early phase of weight loss again and i just need to keep reminding myself that.
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I know the feeling of giving it your all yet seeing weight gain, it literally destroys you, but they are the days that will define your success, or your failure. Eating healthy and working out are the easy parts but to keep going and pushing through barriers you never knew you could even when you don't see results and you feel like giving up, these are the days that will define who you are and who you become, when you get knocked down, remember, look up, get up, and don't ever give up.
 
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