Cohen's Lifestyle close to the end but stuck in a rut!

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rellio

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I am so close to the end, only 5kgs left to go, but I just cannot seem to stay on track. I am mentally roadblocked and just over the whole thing, yet so desperately want to finish the program as I know I will feel so fantastic. For some reason I just keep sabotaging myself. I start off great and then by lunchtime or dinner time have blown it all.
Am not sure what is holding me back or why. One would think that being so close I would be super motivated. I need to find something, someone to give me a good swift kick into reality!!
Anyway, thought that airing my problem would help clear the cobwebs and maybe others have experienced the same issues.
Need to refocus and regain my mental strength - but i guess I need to figure out why I am putting up this roadblock as I suppose if I can figure it out it will help me keep the weight off in future.

Thoughts, feedback & advice would be very appreciated.
 
Rellio, I think a lot of us went through or go through the same thing at some time during our journey. Self sabotage is horrible but I think seeing a counsellor or physchologist is an excellent idea. Are you scared of being slim? I was. Are you frightened being slim will bring you too much attention? I was. Looking back do you think you hid behind your fat? I did. Have you lost your self-confidence & self-esteem & don't think you are worthy? I did. Do you love yourself and feel that you deserve to be slim & healthy & attractive? I didn't.
I was petrified of becoming slim and being noticed. I did not love myself and hid behind my fat. There were many reasons for this but counselling certainly helped me overcome these feelings. I knew that I needed help and also worked a lot of it out for myself.
You deserve to be happy with and about yourself. You are worth it. We are all worth it. Love yourself. Follow this journey to the end and be proud of yourself for doing so. Seek help to work out your reasons for self-sabotage if you cannot work out why.
If you don't follow the program to the very end & follow re-feed 100% you will surely put your weight back on & I'm sure you would not want to undo all that good work. If I can do it, you can do it!
Re-commit 100%. Do it for yourself Rellio. For your self-respect, for your health, for that personal sense of satisfaction that you finished what you set out to do. Get slim, be slim, stay slim. Love yourself, xo Cate
 
Thanks Cate.
Means more than you know.
Low self-esteem is the answer. Have spent so many years believing that I cant do it, that I'll always be 'chubby' that these thoughts have become second nature. I just need to be aware of these inner thoughts and re-program them to more positive ones.
Since posting, and thinking, it makes more sense as I am currently going through a period of stress and not being happy, which in turn means I eat, which in turn means I feel more unhappy blah blah blah.
The clarity is appearing and i can see the patterns.
I know how good, how proud and how fantastic I will feel at the end so I really need to concentrate on that feeling.
Thanks Cate.
I am going to post regularly as it really does help with keeping focused and on track.
 
Rellio, You're welcome! I have always been a stress eater. Learning to love yourself is paramount to overcoming this. Get help sweetie. If you can't do that pm me any time if you feel like a chat about it. I'm no expert but I'll help you if I can. Sharing your feelings sometimes helps. You won't be chubby ever again if you finish the program, follow re-feed & then the maintenance guidelines.You only have 5kgs to go. How good is that?
I now feel so proud of myself and love the attention I get. I would never have thought it possible. Almost every time I go anywhere someone tells me how good I look. I don't cringe & want to hide any more. I stand tall and feel proud of myself and politely say "thank you". I can't tell you how good it feels. I'm feeling a little teary just telling you that! You will learn to love yourself and you will keep this weight off. You have to start believing in yourself. Take care and please keep in touch, cheers Cate.
 
Well, two days of 100% cohens and I feel great. Have tried to put alot of effort into reminding myself that I AM worth it and I've come so far so why cheat myself from the fantastic end. I do find myself trying to 'settle' for this weight, but am working hard at retraining my thoughts to go for gold rather than bronze!
Am doing an emotions & behaviour course next weekend. Had previously booked and then cancelled but have now reconfirmed my spot. I think it is exactly what I need to help tackle my emotional eating and achieve permanent success.
Havent weighed myself yet as I wanted to give myself a few days of being back on track. Will weigh in over the weekend and then start the countdown until refeed.
Have a good weekend everyone and stay focused. We are all worth the effort.
 
Too right!(I haven't heard that expression for years).
We are all worth it. That sounds like an excellent idea doing the course. I would love to hear about it! I'm going to start reading some self image & motivational books but would really benefit from doing a course like that, cheers, Cate.
 
you are worth it!

You are so worth it. i hope you find it within you to continue.. My mother who completed her program found that she got hungry and temptation was constant close to the end. if it helps just write exactly what you are feeling on the forum. its an outlet as well as a supportive shoulder.
5 kg to go is great achievment, keep up your hard work. I hope your course goes well it sound very interesting you will have to tell us all about it after you have been.
I wish you all the very best.

chelle
 
Hello
have lost a couple of kilo's so about 3 to go. However it has really, really, really slowed down which is a little disheartning at times. I'm not starving as such but I am definately looking for the next meal. Am really trying to stay focused. A few weeks ago I put a deadline on when I wanted to reach re-feed and of course I havent quite got there and that has really been a bit of an emotional upheaval. SO, the lesson is to not do that to yourself! As long as we're losing thats all that matters. I set myself up for pressure I didnt need and then spent a few days all grumpy and emotional.
So, my goal is simply to stick to cohens each day. And that will deliver me to the final outcome.
I AM WORTH IT!! WE ARE ALL WORTH IT. SO LETS JUST KEEP GOING.
 
Rellio, I too do that to myself and with the same result. You have the right attitude. Stick to the program & you will get there. You're so close! I wish I had gone that extra 3 kgs. It is so much harder to go back on the program once you have been off it for a while. Sounds silly I know but it sure is a fact for me. Stay focussed. Almost there!
xo Cate
 
O m g !!!

3 kg's
to go

Oh my god that is fantastic!
You are so close... Do not, i repeat, do not give up.... ​
You have come so far, what an inspiration. Make it to the end. Keep going, post online if you feel the urge to give in, read old posts, see how far you have come on your journey. look at old photos, have you got any larger clothes, if so pull the biggest thing you have ever owned out and look at it, put it on, feel it, Remember.. Remember where you started... where you were going .... and now, where you are... it is an achievement to come so far and as cate has said nothing taste's as good as slim feels... But self satisfaction, though is a very and i mean very close second..... ​
go for it girl!!
You are women....lets hear your roar!!!!!!!!

love and hugs
chelle​
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Thankyou!
I am feeling very motivated and have had a strong couple of days.

My cohens counsellor gave me some advice which I think I need to share with everyone. I was telling her about my low loss last week even though I was 100% on track and her advice was to really mix up my foods this week - it helps your body lose the weight.
I tend to eat the same thing for breakfast & lunch each day, with dinner being the only meal I change. ie, breakfast is egg & capsicum (scrambled), mixed with chopped lettuce & a dob of mayo. Eaten with a few crackers. (YUMMO) Lunch is either cheese, tomato, zuchinni, onion on crackers (and sometimes grilled so cheese melts) OR a tuna salad. Then dinner is something from a variety of dishes i can cook.
SOOO, for the past two days I've gone back and am trying to have a different combination of meals each day.
We'll see how I go. Just thought it might also help others who have reached a plateau and want to shake it up .... or off..... !!!
 
out of the box

Well a Big thanks for sharing.. I think it is a MARVELLOUS plan of attack and will keep it in mind and try and diversify a bit more.. I too eat many similar meals, i cant eat fish and i discovered quite embarassingly i cant eat Kangaroo ....
Well i am brightened to hear that you have found some extra stamina and I am sure you will reach your goal weight soon. Chances are you will loose some more in refeed too. I am so very pleased for you, please keep us updated..

Love, hugs and bottles of water
Chelle
 
Hi Rellio, I had been told the same thing and sometimes just changing when you have your crackers & fruit helps. I especially needed to really minimise eating cheese & still do.
Hope it works for you! Cheers, Cate.
 
hello
Well I am there!! Yay. Have ordered re-feed and will get it later this week.
I am pretty pleased with myself which is a great feeling.
Over the last week I also mixed up the order of my meals.... ie having a larger meal for breakfast and a smaller portion meal for dinner. This seemed to shock my metabolism into a higher gear as apparently it gets very used to expecting the size portions and working only accordingly - especially if you eat same meals at same time each day. This really helped, as did cutting right down on my crackers.

So, here I am. Feeling great and looking forward to a summer wardrobe shopping spree in a few weeks. I have cleaned out my wardrobe and given all of my old clothes to friends and charity. I will no longer need them - ever ever ever again. I might even venture out and buy some bathers.... gee.... now that will be a shock to the system.

Stay focused, even through the hard patches. It is just so worth it.
Apart from giving birth to my two children this is by far the best thing I have ever done in my life.

Yay for all of us!!
 
Yippee... Yippeee....

:party:Congratulations:party:
:grouphug::smilielol5::drool5::willy_nilly::eek2::rotflmao:​

What absolutelywonderful news...​

We are all so proud of you...
if i could change the backdrop it would be green
........with envy.. ha ha ha​

Good luck on the refeed.​

Clothes and bather shopping Ahoy!!!!....​

:party:Congratulations..:party:​
 
CONGRATULATIONS!!!

Refeed, how exciting but also a little challenging. You'll now need to be even more organised than when on the program but it is so worth it.
You must be sooooooooo proud of yourself.
Well done.
Take care
Beck
 
Even closer to the end,
No longer in a rut &
to be congratulated!!!
Well done for persevering when you were struggling. You didn't give up.
It shows strength of character and should hold you in good stead for maintenance, cheers, Cate.
 
:beerchug: Woo Hoo... ok we'll just pretend that is Sprite Zero!

Congrats on making re-feed!

Do you mind sharing, where you started and ended?
 
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