Can't find the motivation

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Theophania

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Well, I don't know where to begin. I've sat here for a while now and typed out paragraphs and then deleted them. I've found so many excuses not to start working out that I have run out. See, I am lazy by nature. I like to sit on a chair with a book and blanket and get lost. My husband on the other hand can't relax until he's pounded away on the treadmill and lifts weights until he's sweaty. I seriously hate to move.

I have found a plus in all of this. One of my excuses in the past was why work out when I'm still eating crap. So I resolved to start eating healthy. I love to cook anyway and discovered after making many recipes how to make many of my favorites healthier. I still fall of the health food wagon and have junk days, weeks, and even months. But I can say that my eating habits in the last 2 years is way better than back in the day. I give myself a little pat on the back every day that I've eaten healthy. I'm currently on a nice healthy food streak.

I don't know what to do about the working out though. Unlike my husband, I do not feel better after a workout. I am irritated at wasting couch time. My biggest problem is I am impatient by nature. If I don't see results, I quit. I've stuck with routines long enough to where I should have seen results and didn't. Then I discovered I wasn't seeing results because I wasn't pushing hard enough. Now, I know what to do, but lack of results from previous experiences are always there looming.

Time to try again tomorrow.
 
Hi Sista,
Welcome aboard:)
I am like you too,always finding an excuse or motivation but motivation is an inner thing we try to find exterior reasons,which isn't right,
I tried to find a motivation to ,sometimes i wanted to do it to please my hubby sometimes to get in to my old clothes ,a wedding or a job interview and I lost my motivation as soon as I had fight with dh,or the special occasion was over.
I think you will have to talk to yourself first why you want to work out?why ?you started a journal because somewhere deep inside you ,you want to get healthy .Take baby steps you will be alright.
I am always here to listen:)
Hugs
Sadie
 
You need to set small goals for yourself and perhaps if you have the momney, try having a personal trainer for a while to give you that push, and you will have someone who you are accountable to.

Good luck :)
 
Thank you for your post, Theophania! I agree with the suggestion to set goals. What is it you want out of working out? You talk about not seeing "results": what kind of results do you WANT to see?

The goals can be very modest, too. If you are trying to improve your health, a 30-minute brisk walk every day will give you great benefits. And you want to set a goal that you can stick with.

Working out hard for a week and then sitting on the couch for a month because the workout was too hard/unpleasant isn't what you want to do. Sitting on that couch all day is what you want to try to avoid at all costs. It'll kill ya!

It almost doesn't matter what exercise you do. The absolute most important thing is do something MOST EVERY DAY. Anything is better than nothing. But that 30-minute walk will greatly diminish your risk of chronic disease, especially when combined with the healthy eating habits you have adopted. (Great job!)

Oh, and one can change one's "nature", and one's "impatience", if one wants to. Believe me, I know. :) But moving is your body's natural state, it's what it was created to do. If you don't move now, you won't be able to later!

Hope this helps!

MAKE IT HAPPEN,
Joe
Check out "Feel Great!" at joebedford dot com
 
Go take all your clothes off and get yourself in front of the mirror and have a moment of honesty. If you like what you see and you want to keep it then gym may be the answer, if you dont like it and you want to change then gym may be the answer. Thats 1 moment of truth.
The second moment of truth is whats around us every day, health and well being. You know deep in your heart if you are adding to your life and living a healthy life.
90% of working out and living a healthy life is mental, the other 10% is all in your head.
 
One way to find motivation is to pick a physical activity that you'll actually LIKE...or at least not hate. For a while I decided jogging was "it" but no wonder I couldn't stick with it. I hated every minute of it. Now I swim and walk, and most of the time it's actually pleasant. I'm not power walking and I'm not trying to set any Olympic records. Just taking care of me. Think of exercise as a way you're being nice to yourself, not an unpleasant thing you're "supposed to be doing".
Another way is to get external support. If you have a friend who might want to walk or go to the gym with you, that helps. Or get other support to help you stay motivated, for example, Shameless plug for a friend, but it works really well when you haven't been able to achieve a health goal on your own.
Think of each step of the process as taking care of yourself, don't beat yourself up for what you haven't done.
 
Theophania said:
See, I am lazy by nature.
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Don't worry about that, almost all people are lazy by nature, it's a hell of a lot easier than being active :D

What you need to do is try and create a routine, motivation only gets you started, it's routine that keeps you going even when you don't really feel like it.

You will find after a month or two that you feel happier and more energized all day and that will hopefully be enough to give that second burst of motivation

Keep at it though, and as nancy said above, finding something you actually enjoy would be a massive plus point and will make it more likely that you'll stick with it
 
InnerFight said:
Go take all your clothes off and get yourself in front of the mirror and have a moment of honesty.
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yeah, that will do it for just about anyone eh?
 
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