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Trying to keep myself honest. I have two little kiddos (2.5 and 9mo on Saturday!). Prior to them I don't even know what I weighed, but I was comfortable, fit, and healthy - I'm going to guess around 110lbs (very small frame 5'4") so small, but not flat stomach territory. I topped out at 180 with each pregnancy (yowza) and got down to about 120 after my first and stalled at that point. It's harder to lose weight as you get older. At least that's what I'm feeling. After my second, I've now hit the same place at which I stalled after my first. Yes, I'm technically in a healthy weight range, but I don't feel (or look) like "myself". I also know that as my metabolism slows with age, I'll be likely to slowly gain a bit of weight. It's to be expected, but I'd rather start that at a slightly lower starting point rather than one where I already don't feel that great.

My goals are to eat a bit more consciously and add in some more exercise. In the long run, I'd love to work on getting some more muscle to help support my joints which aren't the best. I'm not into deprivation, but more of a moderation in all things approach coupled with some small changes (taking the calories out of my coffee and tea, not snacking whenever the tot snacks, etc). I'm thinking of getting a fitness tracker. Nothing fancy, just curious how active I am throughout the day. I'm a stay at home parent (rather literally these days) to young kids and it's easy to be lazy on the floor.

I do ok with my relationship with food. I've struggled in the past when I was a teenager and have had echoes of that in my 20s (I'm 32), but overall I cook a lot of whole foods and am fairly healthy. My biggest challenge is portion size. I used to be exceptionally active and ate a lot. These days I can't eat the same way, but I still want to eat that way so I tend to eat twice a day as a way to balance it...of course that leaves me wanting to eat the rest of the day and needing to remind myself to be good. If I could get the portion control down, I think I might like to try eating small amounts throughout the day to keep my energy up.

It sounds like I'm in a pretty good position (and I am), but I struggle with energy and apathy. Getting more active and being a bit more fit is really good for me mentally (which is very critical to my well being - I have some mental health issues that can be severe when they arise).

Optimistic about potentially finding some people to chat with and follow/support here. Adult company is few and far between these days.
 
Hey bSkwigz and welcome to the forum!
First off it´s normal to not feel like "yourself" after two pregnancies: your body likely did change, regardless of your weight. I don´t have kids but from what I see it usually takes people months, sometimes years, to accept those changes - and some never do. That said of course there´s nothing wrong with trying to get fit again and getting back to the weight you used to feel comfortable at and I hope we can support you in that process.
You mention metabolism slowing with age, which is something people cite a lot so I went and looked up how much our metabolism slows with age:
Why Your Metabolism Slows Down With Age
Turns out that if you correct for reduced activity levels the difference between different age groups is almost negligible. One study found 20 kcal/day less for women (per decade of aging) and 70 for men. While both "lost" around 115 kcal/day (per decade) through reduced activity. So as long as you stay active you should be good for quite a while!

I look forward to reading about your progress and will be here to cheer you on. Best of luck,
LaMa
 
Hey bSkwigz, welcome!

Your plan sounds good to me, and I think your goals are achieveable. Starting this diary was a good idea, it will give you a place to record your progress. My diary has really helped with accountability.

I think you will find folks here to chat with, we have lots of adult company here. And people who will understand and share your problems.

Best of luck to you!
 
Hey bSkwigz and welcome to the forum!
First off it´s normal to not feel like "yourself" after two pregnancies: your body likely did change, regardless of your weight. I don´t have kids but from what I see it usually takes people months, sometimes years, to accept those changes - and some never do. That said of course there´s nothing wrong with trying to get fit again and getting back to the weight you used to feel comfortable at and I hope we can support you in that process.
You mention metabolism slowing with age, which is something people cite a lot so I went and looked up how much our metabolism slows with age:
Why Your Metabolism Slows Down With Age
Turns out that if you correct for reduced activity levels the difference between different age groups is almost negligible. One study found 20 kcal/day less for women (per decade of aging) and 70 for men. While both "lost" around 115 kcal/day (per decade) through reduced activity. So as long as you stay active you should be good for quite a while!

I look forward to reading about your progress and will be here to cheer you on. Best of luck,
LaMa

LaMa - Thanks for the encouragement! That's so interesting about the metabolism thing. It's something you hear so often that I just took it as accepted fact. It's a case where the truth is actually much better than the rumors. Neat. My body totally did change with pregnancy and I'm cool with that. I don't expect my old shape or measurements. I do think overall similar size with different proportions is probably attainable though. Even if it isn't, shifting the fat/muscle ratio a bit would be nice. I carry almost all my extra weight in my stomach so not the healthiest fat distribution. My blood pressure tends to run on the high side so just trying to be smart about overall maintenance.

Hey bSkwigz, welcome!

Your plan sounds good to me, and I think your goals are achieveable. Starting this diary was a good idea, it will give you a place to record your progress. My diary has really helped with accountability.

I think you will find folks here to chat with, we have lots of adult company here. And people who will understand and share your problems.

Best of luck to you!

Rob - Thanks for the welcome and the encouragement. It's good to see that the diary helped you with accountability. It's just easy to slack when it's not an area of life that's strictly speaking necessary. Here's hoping I have even a small portion of the success and tenacity as you appear to have.
 
I don't expect my old shape or measurements. I do think overall similar size with different proportions is probably attainable though. Even if it isn't, shifting the fat/muscle ratio a bit would be nice. I carry almost all my extra weight in my stomach so not the healthiest fat distribution. My blood pressure tends to run on the high side so just trying to be smart about overall maintenance.
Sounds excellent and, as Rob said, achievable. Building muscle, especially as a woman, takes a bit of time but there´s no quicker way to achieve it than to start now :)
 
Hi, bskwigz & welcome to the forum. I found it really hard to lose weight after I had my boys. I was always tired & snacked a lot. I'm glad you have decided to nip it in the bud now, but also that you will be sensible about it & not crash diet like I did back then. Building your strength & metabolism & eating mindfully would be much better for you.
 
Hi, bskwigz & welcome to the forum. I found it really hard to lose weight after I had my boys. I was always tired & snacked a lot. I'm glad you have decided to nip it in the bud now, but also that you will be sensible about it & not crash diet like I did back then. Building your strength & metabolism & eating mindfully would be much better for you.
It's so hard. They're exhausting little buggers and when you're low on sleep, snacks feel like such a lifeline. Any lessons you've learned about maintaining a healthy lifestyle while raising kiddos?
 
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