Been trying to lose weight for a longggg time!!!! Help!

[ms_harala]

Hi!! I'm a newbie here. Lately i have been feeling demotivated, stress and disgusted with myself. A quick intro about me. I'm fat since i was young. Being a fat kid is no joke. But i was the strong fat kid. When i was 17, my weight was 90kg and then i ballooned up even more to my most heaviest which was 110kg. At that time i was in denial. I told myself. Nah, u dont look so bad.but hell, i know i need to change!! So i manage to lose some weight to 100kg, and then to 98kg. So this is when i believe that anything is possible. I believe i can do this! So i lost some more 10kg last year. My weight was 88kg august last year. I've been constantly doing workouts, slowly from hand planks to wall planks. From50 squats perday to 300squats max per day. Not to forget all those lunges and hip thrust and arm workouts. I was so happy to be able to do wall planks this year!!!! But what i was unhapy about was i have gained 10kg!!! How could that be possible. I feel so depressed, stress and disgusted with myself. It is a lonely and sad journey. I know i havent been disciplined in my eating habits. But really?? Is that possible?? Yesterday i weight myself and saw it was 97. Today. It is 98kg. I feel so stress and i have been eating less this week. So how could that be?? i am really crying inside and i am very very very stress and hate myself for this. I wish to do wall climbing/rock climbing next year. But if this persist, it will only left as a dream. I am not aiming for fast weightloss. I just want it to be stable and lose consistently. I know i am getting old and some people told me that when u get old that is just the way it will be. U'll get fatter a

P/s does fat gene have anything to do with this? I heard it was just a myth and it can be change entirely. So i do hope i could change myself. And lose back 10kg this year.

 

[CalicoKitty]

Don't beat yourself up too badly. Have you noticed any changes of your food intake or excersise routines? Maybe write down everything to keep track.

Maybe it has to do with mindset too? I too have been telling myself such horrible negative things and it didn't help me at all. It made me want to withdraw and wonder why even bother. I've been looking for positive messages and positive people. Don't listen to the people who wants to put you down or discourages.

 

[ms_harala]

Don't beat yourself up too badly. Have you noticed any changes of your food intake or excersise routines? Maybe write down everything to keep track.

Maybe it has to do with mindset too? I too have been telling myself such horrible negative things and it didn't help me at all. It made me want to withdraw and wonder why even bother. I've been looking for positive messages and positive people. Don't listen to the people who wants to put you down or discourages.

Thanks for your reply and opinions. Yes maybe it has to do with mindset as well. It is just sometimes so lonely and tiring to be positive at all times. Maybe i'll need to change my diet. I'll keep in mind to write down my food intake daily. Thanks! Hopefully i wont be losing any motivation. I CAN DO THIS!

 

[MissionPossible]

Hey lady,

You can do this! I saw some pretty good advice above, and I'm just going to say this because it's what I repeat to myself every time I wonder "is all this worth it?"

You cannot, cannot, get more unhealthy by eating properly and working out. It's impossible. This mission is possible!

I also accept my consequences when I eat unhealthy things. I do not beat myself up, I log EVERYTHING, and I say well I ate something I shouldn't haveand I'll do better tomorrow.

Pinterest before and after pictures have been a life saver for me, to know that other chicks as big as me have actually done it. For a long time, I'd work out our diet with no real feeling that this was achievable. IT IS!

 

[ms_harala]

Hey lady,

You can do this! I saw some pretty good advice above, and I'm just going to say this because it's what I repeat to myself every time I wonder "is all this worth it?"

You cannot, cannot, get more unhealthy by eating properly and working out. It's impossible. This mission is possible!

I also accept my consequences when I eat unhealthy things. I do not beat myself up, I log EVERYTHING, and I say well I ate something I shouldn't haveand I'll do better tomorrow.

Pinterest before and after pictures have been a life saver for me, to know that other chicks as big as me have actually done it. For a long time, I'd work out our diet with no real feeling that this was achievable. IT IS!

The whole week i told myselfto be positive. I can do this!. And you know what. To my delight this morning before doing morning workout i weigh myself and find my weight is 95.8!!! Being in this forum is a blessing! I get to read about other people's struggles and problem and how they've overcome it. I slow down on lifting weights and watch my diet. And you are right!! I get inspiration and motivation on instagram. So many positive people out there. And how they are willing to share it with others. I hope we will all succeed. I really do hope. Because we all deserve a healthy life.

 

[Omega]

Its great that you are seeing the scales move in the right direction again and you have done brilliantly in your project so far.

The people above are making valid points - we can become careless about our food - and it is all too easy to go from losing weight to gaining weight if you take the eye off the ball and allow yourself too many treats or skip the low calorie option...

I'm just wondering whether the fat gain was as large as you were envisaging.

When you got to 98Kg this time round - were your clothes as tight as they were the last time round? - are you wearing the same clothes? do you look the same or better?

Remembering that when you get on the scales you are seeing the sum of everything you weigh - not just the fat.
You have been doing all that exercise - maybe you have made some muscle and muscle weighs heavier than fat.

I used to know someone who was a thin and a very keen sportsman - liking sport which played only in the summer.
He gained every summer when he was playing sport and lost it every winter when he stopped...
It was because he had more muscle in the summer...

If you do a lot of exercise - and your posting suggests that you do (which is excellent) then it is a good idea to not judge by scales alone - go by such things as how you look, how your clothes fit, how fit you feel when you do exercise.

It can be a very good idea to take measurements... It can be disheartening if you work hard and see no drop on the scale - but not if you use a tape measure and see that although your weight hasn't changed your measurements have gone down.

 

[ms_harala]

Its great that you are seeing the scales move in the right direction again and you have done brilliantly in your project so far.

The people above are making valid points - we can become careless about our food - and it is all too easy to go from losing weight to gaining weight if you take the eye off the ball and allow yourself too many treats or skip the low calorie option...

I'm just wondering whether the fat gain was as large as you were envisaging.

When you got to 98Kg this time round - were your clothes as tight as they were the last time round? - are you wearing the same clothes? do you look the same or better?

Remembering that when you get on the scales you are seeing the sum of everything you weigh - not just the fat.
You have been doing all that exercise - maybe you have made some muscle and muscle weighs heavier than fat.

I used to know someone who was a thin and a very keen sportsman - liking sport which played only in the summer.
He gained every summer when he was playing sport and lost it every winter when he stopped...
It was because he had more muscle in the summer...

If you do a lot of exercise - and your posting suggests that you do (which is excellent) then it is a good idea to not judge by scales alone - go by such things as how you look, how your clothes fit, how fit you feel when you do exercise.

It can be a very good idea to take measurements... It can be disheartening if you work hard and see no drop on the scale - but not if you use a tape measure and see that although your weight hasn't changed your measurements have gone down.

My clothes did get a bit tighter especially around the waist. So i did detox and do workouts do reduce belly fat area. I think it was mostly because i got too comfortable and forgetting my whole goal. I do however notices that my arms and shoulder are looking stronger. Probably because of all that dumbell lifts. The butt is taking shapes as well. *well at least not like it was before.* the belly area is probably all my fault for not keeping track of what i put in my mouth. i do love how my body looks now compared to then. But i do hope to lose weight but i am not scared of gaining muscle as well. Maybe i'll try measuring my progress as well. I dont want to be discouraged and give up just because of the scale. I do want to get stronger and i love the excitement of able to do various exercises. It means my body is capable doing things i thought i couldnt. Being always fat is sad. And i was always scared of trying and enjoying activities because i'm fat. When i saw a plus size yoga instructor on instagram. I was so amazed of the moves she was doing!! And i told my self. I can do that too. And i've been putting things in my own mind that my body should enjoy doing things and i know i have to get stronger body.
Thanks for your reply. I'll keep that in mind. And i'll share more of my progress here . It feels so good to be sharing things and talk about this. I was a bit lonely in this journey to be honest.

Thanks all!!!

 

[Omega]

Don't wait to do fun things until you are slim.
Your body will get stronger by doing things... Remember that a slim person would need to become more fit too in able to do those yoga moves... You just need to try.

As for measuring - I had months where the scales didn't move but I got thinner at the end of my big project.

 

[ms_harala]

Don't wait to do fun things until you are slim.
Your body will get stronger by doing things... Remember that a slim person would need to become more fit too in able to do those yoga moves... You just need to try.

As for measuring - I had months where the scales didn't move but I got thinner at the end of my big project.

95.1kg today i drank a lot of water yesterday. Maybe that helps.

 

[Omega]

Its great that your weight is coming down beautifully.

Drinking lots of water helps reduce the water retention you may carry onto the scales...

Remember - lots of things cause water retention - like eating salty food, not drinking enough water or a ladies' period.

Its always a good idea to make sure you are drinking enough water.