anybody else with NO LIFE??

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lecola

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So I've been on my diet for a while now. I'm very happy with the results, but I have no life!

I'm in my apartment all the time. I find that going outside instantly introduces temptation to eat something bad. My favorite restaurant right on the corner, the convenience store across the street, even going to the movies (popcorn smell). There's food everywhere! Going out with friends usually cues lots of alcohol, or weed, or both... so I don't hang with them much lately. I figure I'll stay in and not be tempted, but it's created a very "not outgoing" new me.

I have to admit though, staying in has lost me a lot of weight and saved me a lot of money. :) Haha. I realize that I have to start finding other, healthier things to get me out of the house. It's amazing how much of my life was about eating before. Seems like it was my primary reason for leaving my pad! :) Anybody else with this problem?
 
Not too much; all I have here for temptation is the grocery store. You DO need to find something to get you out. One step at a time. Take a friend for a walk; maybe they can help you out with the temptation part of it.
 
I had to cocoon myself for a little while when I first started losing weight - getting together with my girlfriends was deadly - it was all about the food and drink ;)

Now that the majority of the weight is gone, it's easier for me to head back in the real world and just make better choices. It took me awhile to feel comfortable with myself in knowing that I wasn't going to go back to eating the way I used to eat.
 
I am like this to a degree -what with full-time work (not sitting at a desk either) and regular workouts, I'm often too tired to want to go out much anyway. And yes I know what you mean about going out bringing temptations -who wants to go to the cinema armed with an apple while everyone else munchs on popcorn? But my closer friends know I'm trying to lose weight, so when we go out I will just make healthy choices, and if they wanna go somewhere like KFC or McDonalds I'll just get a diet-coke and no food and then get something I can eat elsewhere when they are done.

GOOD friends will be supportive, and not spending time with those who aren't isnt such a loss anyway in my book.
 
We are going to the cinema on valentines day and today we were discussing it and i just thought but i always bought sweets to eat there!! So i've decided just to take a bottle of diet coke with me and i'll just have to be satisfied with that - it's hard though as practically every social situation ivolves food and drink.
 
So true... so true! The temptations are everywhere. One thing that "helps" is making sure you eat a good meal right before you go. Never go to the movies, to a party, ect. with an empty tummy. You're just asking for trouble if you do.
 
Yeah I panic at the thought of eating out! Not able to check the calorie content of most of the places my friends & I like to go & knowing some of my old favs are WAY off limits.

I'm just starting so I don't want to sabotage myself. Maybe after I get to my goal weight I won't mind a "bad' meal every once in a blue moon, but right now I am just too motivated to deal with it at the moment.

Never really realized how much food & alcohol was a part of my social life. Even just hanging out at someone's house, someone always seems to bring out some Brie & toast or cake or something. Ug. Hate to antisocial, but I hate to have to deal with everyone eatin around me all that good stuff.

Give me more time to read about healthy stuff & retrain myself on what is healthy & workout.

Thank the world or text messages or I think I would have lost half my friends lately!

& I love logging on here & catching up with all my new forum friends. Its great to have support.
 
I can relate to the staying in to avoid the temptations. I have even started making sure that I have snacks at work since I work next to a bread shop that hands out free slices of fresh baked bread. Way to easy to just go over there for a "little snack" during work but then it just all adds up to calories and fat I don't need! I also have learned that even if I get fast-food for my kids I have to work REALLY hard to not order that burger and fries for myself and convince myself to just go home and eat that salad or wrap instead. I have definetly started to save money by not eating out during lunch and that within its self makes me feel better! This way when I lose all of the weight I want to lose I will have the money for that new wardrobe I will need!!
 
The best thing to remember is it is a short period of time. Also it is a good thing to force yourself into temptation, believe in yourself, believe you have the strength to see your friends and live life and not worry about it. The more casual and flow of life you make your plans, the easier it is to adapt to them and make them habit.
 
I can honestly say that from February 2006 to about June 2006 I had very little social interaction outside of going to work, working-out, talking on the phone and playing on the computer. I wasn't trying to be a monk, but every single social event revolved around food/drinking...and while I was perfectly comfortable chuggin a bottle of h20 while everyone around me was drinking sodas/etoh, or whipping out my ever present protein bar or baggie of fruit/nuts and turning down the pizza, cake, etc....no one else was comfortable with it.

The same people who never uttered a single word about my eating habits when I was overweight and eating/drinking like a little piggy were suddenly tripping all over themselves to comment/advise/critique my new, healthier eating habits. I never told anyone else what to eat/drink, didn't really give it much thought cause I was so busy following my own food guidelines...but for some reason my friends seemed uncomfortable indulging unless I was participating....

so I just quietly opted out for a little while, got a lot of stuff done around my house, read a million books, lost a lot of weight and when I finally started being social again there seemed to be a lot less of the "come on just try one" type pressure.
 
yea i get what u mean by having to be antisocial.. thses days i hardly dare to go out with friends.. cos its mostly to eat and drink and indulge.. and only like a few good friends know im weight-conscious and trying to lose weight.. but i still go out with friends to exercise, like kayak or cycle.. then when it comes to having lunch or dinner together i'll always make excuses.. saying im meeting my family or other friends for lunch/dinner.. so nowadays the only reason i go out is to exercise.. or shop around haha.. think it'l be some time before i can go out with friends to restaurants and not indulge.. cos i get easily tempted by food..
 
Dragonlover- I do the exact same thing with all the snacks. I carry them anytime I know I will be away from home for more than a few hours. It has got to be incredibly hard to work in a bread shop. I loved bread! I don't crave it anymore but boy did I used to.

cym- Yeah, whats up with that "Come on.... you can eat ONE"? I got that too. I also got a lot of people telling me NOT to loss anymore weight. I'm 185 pounds so yes I AM going to loss more weight. I never could figure out why people did/said these things. Somebody told me once that she believed that it was a case of underlying jealousy. They may not realize that they are jealous and trying to break ya down but they are. I don't know if this is true or not but it's an interesting therory.
 
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lecola said:
Haha. I realize that I have to start finding other, healthier things to get me out of the house.
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my favorite solution to this - is get out and do good - volunteer your time to some worthy -or even unworthy cause :D sites like VolunteerMatch: Where Volunteering Begins lists tons of opportunities depending on where you live - some assignments are day long - others are longer term commitments - it's a great way of getting out of the house with a purpose. there are so many organizations that need people.

Another fun one, if you can tolerate kids, is big brothers/big sisters - they're always looking for people - and it really gets you out and about :D

I personally hate being in my apartment - i have upstairs neighbors that listen to (c)rap music - loudly :D I will do anything to get out...
 
Another thing that might help is to have a small snack before you leave the house. It works along the same principle of not going to the grocery store when you are hungry.

Just my two...

All the best.
Losing-It
 
the volunteering thing appeals to me a lot actually. Instead of volunteerMatch however, I'll probably volunteer at this organization I'm taking a class at. It's a digital arts center for under-privileged youth and right up my alley.

All great suggestions though. I just joined a weekend class so a lot of time will be spent studying and doing assignments. I just realized that if I completely bury myself in work and class I would learn quite a bit and be a lot less bored. :) It's not like I couldn't use this time to focus.
 
I went out and bought a pedometer when I lost ten pounds. It became a very strong incentive for me to move about and leave the house. I set a daily goal of 10,000 steps, which I sometimes achieve and sometimes fall short. But nothing makes me move more than looking down at my hip and seeing it's noon and I'm not even halfway to my daily goal. LOL

Weight loss is giving me a new life, which works just fine. The previous life made me overweight.
 
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